I can`t take it anymore(PAIN)

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My girl friend Sandy everyday has pain. There has to be a Doctor somewhere in

the united states that can help her. It hurts me () inside how a person

can go through life in pain. There must be a pain pill or something that will

help her, come on it`s almost 2007.

V Pisano

[Guest guest]

Hello Deb R. Sandy and I live in Staten Island, NY.

Thanks for the info.

Happy New Year

[Guest guest]

There are things that can help to a certain extent, but there are many

factors to be considered. Does she have a diagnosis? A doctor she

sees on a regular basis? Unfortunately there are a lot of us who live

with pain every single day of our lives. Sometimes there are

effective meds to help us, sometimes certain mild exercises, sometimes

diet changes, sometimes other treatments and lifestyle changes that

can help. Some of us do very well, some of us have to settle for just

minimizing the pain as best we can.

I think it's wonderful that you are supportive enough of Sandy to come

here to look for help for her. There are folks whose mate and/or

friends don't even believe there's something wrong. Can you get her

to join our group?

Hang in there!

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> My girl friend Sandy everyday has pain. There has to be a Doctor

somewhere in

> the united states that can help her. It hurts me () inside how a

person

> can go through life in pain. There must be a pain pill or something

that will

> help her, come on it`s almost 2007.

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> V Pisano

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I hear ya definately, what state are you guys in? I

wrote to the Fibro Association and they gave me a list

of good docs, try that. Also I know some are referred

to pain clinics maybe that will help, tell Sandy she

is in my thoughts and prayers as well as you,

Deb R

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> My girl friend Sandy everyday has pain. There has to

> be a Doctor somewhere in

> the united states that can help her. It hurts me

> () inside how a person

> can go through life in pain. There must be a pain

> pill or something that will

> help her, come on it`s almost 2007.

>

> V Pisano

>

>

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[Guest guest]

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I am sorry to hear that Sandy and you are having this trouble. It is

certainly something that affects both people in a relationship. I know it

hurts to see someone you love hurting. You can be of great support to her

by being interested and active in helping her to keep going, keep looking

for answers, keep trying new things until something maybe someday works.

Let me tell you something about pain -- from my own personal experience.

This may or may not apply to anybody else, but for me it's quite real.

Before my fibro came on full-force I had heard of people who lived with pain

every day and I could not imagine what it was like. I thought it must be

for them like my pain was for me when I got, say, a really bad earache or

toothache, or back pain. And I thought, how can a person go every day, day

in and day out, like that?

Well, that's not actually what it's like. Before, when a pain came to me,

it was out of the ordinary. I expected it to leave. Because it was not

normal, and because I noticed it, and because I expected it to leave, I had

quite a bit of energy tied up in dealing with that pain. I could not

release that energy to do anything else until the pain departed. Regular

daily pain is a different thing. I've come to terms with the possibility

that it might NOT go away. I don't mean I've given up hope or caved in --

but I have accepted that it is here and not going to leave right away. My

expectation is quite different. I notice the pain differently. It does not

occupy my consciousness all day long, even though it is with me. Yes, it

takes its toll and there are days when I simply cannot do the things I'd

like to do. But on a day-to-day basis I am not suffering like I thought it

would be. I hurt, but I'm not suffering.

Make sure you keep in touch with what she needs and with what you need, as

well. You can help each other go through this. Communicate with each

other. Keep a bucket full of patience and good humor, and splash it around

generously. Stay on the docs and don't let them bullshit you. The better

they understand pain the more likely they'll be there with you to help.

Never ever give up.

Fred / Oregon

[Guest guest]

Thank You, Fred / Oregon