WTO??? Good Joke:) and My apologies!

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Hi Randi, Thanks for getting back to Me

about My queries.

I found out what the title of the book was,

when I had a look at the original email that

You had sent to me to inform Me about this

new group. So, My apologies!

I don't think that the book would be of much

use to Me anyway. (May be!!!???) Although I

didn't mention this in My last email, I

wanted to, but couldn't remember what I

wanted to say, until I had a look at the

first email, the one I mentioned above.

You see, My Son wont have anything to do

with Me, & bitterly hates Me. I did mention

a little bit about this when sending My last

email to the other Lady about her Daughter,

but didn't really get enough time to till

now. I have No idea of what to do in this

particular situation that I'm faced with. I

have no idea of how to reach out to him, as

he is unpredictable, & it could very well

work the opposite, & I don't want to take

that chance. I hope & pray every day, that one day

he will love me again, or at least show it,

like he did before.

It scares me to think of the possibility,

that he may now hate me, or never want to

see me again for the rest of Our lives.

It's very hard for Me, as he wont even speak

to me over the telephone. I miss him a lot,

& he's only 15 yo, & we've been apart for

almost one Year now. He's with My ex, who

is also BPD. (as well as My current

Partner! I sure know how to pick them don't

I? But, I believe that My mother was too, &

perhaps I became conditioned somehow to this

type of behaviour/s?)

I don't really know how to cope with this

particular situation.

(Sometimes I think that it was even better

that he live with Me & Abuse Me & My Partner

just for the sake of still having him in my

life) It's too confusing. So, I don't know

if that book would really be of any benefit

to Me in the situation that I am in with My

son, unless it tells Me how I can break

through to him, & we can be friends once

more! My ex is very spiteful, & is actually

doing Everything as to avoid My Children &

I from having any contact with each other

at all. I am left with no other option but

to take this matter to court, which

officially starts next month. As I cannot

mediate at all with My ex. A very difficult,

nasty BPD, & my son is growing up exactly

the same way! So, although I don't

believe the book to be of great benefit to

Me at this point in time, what actually did

get my interest, was the CDs (I think) that

You have on Your Web Site about Protecting

Our Children from the BPDs Deadly behaviour/s,

etc. But, it's an American article/program,

& since I am from Australia, & We have

different Laws here, those particular CDs

wouldn't have much use to Me either, but

what I read whilst on Your Site, about

similar situations as to what I am going

through at the moment, helped me a lot. By

the way, are You still keeping Your original

Web Site where it is?

I think that it's time that at least one of

Our Laws in Australia are changed in

relation to all of this! & I'm going to

fight it out in court too, so as to protect

My Children, who are currently living a life

of hell. Talk about, 'Walking on Eggshells'

It's all very heart breaking to see all of

this happening, to those I love the most. &

I am not denying that I never did any wrong

whilst We were all living together, & even

the fact that I stayed as long as I did,

makes me ill. But now, who protects My

Children, since they have been taken &

hidden away from Me? No one seems to be

moving in quick enough with action, this has

been going on for far too long now, & there

has to be a stop put to it. There's a

possibility of even one of My Children being

killed, through all of this Neglect & Abuse!

& I'm expected to just sit back & 'Handle it'

According to Our Authorities, Especially DoCS,

which is Our Child Protection Service, they

too, are Abusive. They will Not even go out

& ask My Children if they are OK or not.

And every type of Abuse imaginable, has been

disclosed from My Children, to Professional

Therapists/Counsellors/Psycs, & Drs, Yet,

no one, who CAN Actually do something about

all of this, is taking this at all Serious.

I mean, it would be different if It was Me

just saying these things off the top of My

head, but it's My Children that are saying

them, & crying out for help & no one is

listening, & now My ex is playing this very

nasty game of, 'I'll show You who's got the

Control' & now that they are being kept from

seeing me, spending time with me, and even

their telephone calls are being monitored

by my ex, & if My Children, DARE Say

Anything 'out of place' the phone is taken

off them, & it is made sure that they won't

be home for the following Month, when I

Phone there to speak to My Children. This

is, a 'pay back' to Me & My Children, for

Daring to do Anything against 'The BPD' We

don't even know, & actually We have Never

known, what the 'Right' thing is/was to do!

This is where the 'Walking on Eggshells'

come from! & My partner has written a good

poem about 'Walking on Eggshells' She wrote

it on Her Birthday last Year, kinda sad

actually, if You read it, you would know

what I mean! I suppose You can probably

guess what it's all about anyway!!!???

By

the Way, I personally think that You should

name Your book 'SWOE' Excellent Name!

I not only 'Hope for Parents' but I also

hope for The poor Children as well, that

Suffer Their Hell & Misery in Silence &

Isolation!!!

Did working with BPDs turn You off having

Children, or are You just waiting for the

right time, or neither? Don't get upset

anyone by that comment, just a little joke

back to Randi, in light of hers.

I'd love to know exactly what You mean by,

'having plenty of BPs knocking at the door

dressed up in all sorts of Halloween

costumes.' DO THEY REALLY??? WHY???

I believe the next bit that you said about,

" They like tricks more than treats. " (HOW TRUE!)

You're likely to get punched out if You give

them a treat, I don't think that they know

how to take them, they see it as a form of

manipulation, & then You get accused of,

being an Abuser, Having an Affair, & what

ever else their paranoia/psychosis state of

mind throws at You! Ah, but Where Would We

Be Without Them, I Ask??? (!!!)

Regards,

ER.

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Hi, it's SCA-S.O.S! Here again.

I forgot 3 things in My last email. The

first one is; What does 'WTO' (in Our

borderlines title for Our group here) stand

for?

The second thing is; The 2nd url that I

added for Our Web Site wasn't complete.

It should have read:

http://au.geocities.com/scasos1/ourpage.html

RANDI: The Third thing; You didn't answer

My

question that I had asked You, Randi, about

" Why do You have the passion you do, about

the

study, & All of the work that You do, for BPD? "

Just another thing about My Court Case, for

The Protection of My Children from any

further Abuse; We all know that it's

possible for The BPD to be cured (even if

not 100%)

Well, what happens in Our Family Court is,

they will look at the case, & more than

likely, a Parenting Order will have to be

made. The Order includes, attending the

appropriate Support Services,

Therapists/Counsellors, etc. until All of

these Abusive Behaviours Cease. Anyone can

make an application to the Court for a

Parenting Order, Not just The Parents of The

Children concerned, but Any other Person

who is concerned for The Child/ren's safety

& well being. (Which means that You can ask

The Family Law Court for certain conditions

to be placed in The Order, while

the Carer has The Children, in their Care.

Such as, Counselling, etc. Which all sounds

great, & it's Especially great to know, that

if The Person that the Order is made out to,

doesn't keep The Parenting Order, by not

turning up to Support/Counselling etc. The

Person can actually be sentenced to Prison,

& will for sure lose All custody rights of

Their Children until it can be proved that

they are going to act in a responsible

& non-Abusive manner, with the only contact

that they would be allowed to have with

their Children, after breaking this particular

type of Order, has to be supervised visits

only.

But, what I am wondering is, Do most

BPDs go into therapy because of fear, or

what? Any feedback here would be

appreciated.

So, don't ever let it be said, " That Nothing

can be done about it! " (I've also applied

for a Court Order to be put on Our Child

Protection Agency, for Major Negligence)

Thank You for Your time once again.

Regards,

ER.

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