Digest #26, New to this Group

[Guest guest]

Hi Merlan. It does feel good to share your feelings, doesn't it? I

really understand how you feel. My daughter is also Bi-polar, BPD as

I am sure you have read. But what really struck home was the part

about your husband. My husband is also a step-parent. It is hard

enough for us as biological parents but to come into a marriage where

there is a child with " problems " is especially difficult. I love my

husband dearly but after seven years with my daughter he is worn

down. He is a wonderful father but she has constantly reminded him

that he is not her father, as she says. It hurts him tremendously

even though he realizes that she has a problem. It has taken a large

toll on our marriage. My daughter is very manipulative, and she has

tried every conceivable way to destroy our marriage. I really think

that she does love him on some level, but in her eyes, he has taken

her mom away. She has manipulated me for so many years, that she

thinks he is taking away my attention. Also, her biological father

was very verbally abusive (he has the same illness) and he abused me

also. Part of my healing was leaving him, but you cannot abandon

your child. Just hearing what you had to say did help me, because I

know that I am not alone. Neither are you. Well, I could go on and

on and on.........Keep smiling - the sun will shine tomorrow. Heidi