Guest guest Posted September 5, 2007 Report Share Posted September 5, 2007 I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now even that would hurt. Doreen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2007 Report Share Posted September 5, 2007 Hi sweetie, I know how you feel, until recently I would have to into a heated fight with my husband to get him to help me do anything. That is til I sat him down and explained tohim that it`s not easy for me to ask for help and that when I do, it`s not cause Im lazy or dont want to do it.. It`s cause I cant.. He also read everything I could find on Fibro... So, hang in there hun.. Im sure things will turn around for you. Lots of Love, Lyn Can't take it anymore I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now even that would hurt. Doreen ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. http://travel.yahoo.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2007 Report Share Posted September 5, 2007 Doreen, I feel for you. I've never been in your identical situation but similar ones so I know the frustration. I would say start kicking some butt but I'm sure you would only make your condition worse! I couldn't make it on one Flexeril a night. If your Dr. isn't willing to help you FIRE his ***! and find another. I've been thru a few Drs. that ****** so I fired em. On the contrast, May GOD Bless YOU and yours!!! ---------------------------Love Doreen wrote: I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now even that would hurt. Doreen 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2007 Report Share Posted September 5, 2007 Dear Doreen, You have several options. You can do wht you can. You can do what you want. You can do what is most important to you or you can have a house meeting. If you have a house meeting you can explain to everyone that you cannot do it all. You can list everything that needs to be done anhow often it needs to be done. The group can find a way to cover what you and they can. Then post the list of what needs to be doneand who said they wopuld do it. Leave it blank if no one is willing. You can either get a box, laundry basket or trash bag to but the thing into that people leave around. When they are looking for it, they can look in the baket. You can even tell them what day they will go in the garbage (ei tomarrow the trash goes out, The bag with everything in it will be gone with the trashman tomarrow morning.) You also have to be willing to let go and accept the level that others can do the chore. I helped my sister in law give her daughters chores because she was so strees working 2 jobs and my brother working 2 jobs that things weren't perfect like before kids. Now the girls help out and she is less stressed and is willing to accept their abilities. My sister in law has some OCD.(surprise). Judy ---- Doreen wrote: > I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off > here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for > help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one > Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I > don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. > > Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now > even that would hurt. > > Doreen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2007 Report Share Posted September 6, 2007 Yes that sound like a good idea I think i will do the same thing. put the names in a hat and pick the name out for the jobs. and put the jobs in a hat and pick them out too. than write them on something like a paper or a bourd and post it for a day or week. that sounds good to me. Rox. Re: Can't take it anymore Dear Doreen, You have several options. You can do wht you can. You can do what you want. You can do what is most important to you or you can have a house meeting. If you have a house meeting you can explain to everyone that you cannot do it all. You can list everything that needs to be done anhow often it needs to be done. The group can find a way to cover what you and they can. Then post the list of what needs to be doneand who said they wopuld do it. Leave it blank if no one is willing. You can either get a box, laundry basket or trash bag to but the thing into that people leave around. When they are looking for it, they can look in the baket. You can even tell them what day they will go in the garbage (ei tomarrow the trash goes out, The bag with everything in it will be gone with the trashman tomarrow morning.) You also have to be willing to let go and accept the level that others can do the chore. I helped my sister in law give her daughters chores because she was so strees working 2 jobs and my brother working 2 jobs that things weren't perfect like before kids. Now the girls help out and she is less stressed and is willing to accept their abilities. My sister in law has some OCD.(surprise) . Judy ---- Doreen <dmollycheck@ hughes.net> wrote: > I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off > here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for > help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one > Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I > don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. > > Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now > even that would hurt. > > Doreen > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Boardwalk for $500? In 2007? Ha! Play Monopoly Here and Now (it's updated for today's economy) at Yahoo! Games. http://get.games.yahoo.com/proddesc?gamekey=monopolyherenow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2007 Report Share Posted September 6, 2007 I feel for you. I had to quit my job in February because I couldn't take it any more either. Even with just the home upkeep, I can't take it most days. My dh and son think I am lazy. I sure wish they could have my pain for just a day. I am on Flexeril too. I wish I could find a dr. that would give me something for during the day. I do have med. for my arthritis pain but it really doesn't help much. Branan http://www.ourlittlesiteontheweb.com family, genealogy and more http://justlindab.blogspot.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2007 Report Share Posted September 6, 2007 I don't understand why our families can be the most non compassionate people when it comes to this disease. I just think they dont understand at all what these symptoms really do to us. For instance, one day when we were moving, I laid down on the couch for a little nap and my d/h comes in with some boxes and says, " I wish I could just lay down on the couch " ..... I said " Do you not understand that I have AN ILLNESS AND IT IS REAL " ! He just looked at me and did not say a word. I really get no sympathy or empathy from him or anyone else for that matter and I work a full time job and support this family by myself. Debra V. Doreen wrote: I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now even that would hurt. Doreen --------------------------------- Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2007 Report Share Posted September 7, 2007 Debra, I know just how you feel. My family was the same even accused me of faking pain to get the summer off!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Couldn't you just smack em??? hehehe It is very frustrating just because they don't feel the pain, they don't get it! Girl you just keep laying down if you have to....so what if the house is a mess...it won't go anywhere. Take care of YOU because nobody else will. Hugs, > I work my butt off at work and come home and have to work my butt off > here too. I hurt so bad and get no help. I have asked and begged for > help around the house only to be ignored. My Dr has only given me one > Flexeril at night and nothing for the day. So tired. So tired. I > don't know how you all do it. I just want to lay down and cry. > > Thanks for " listening " , I would say gentle hugs to all but right now > even that would hurt. > > Doreen > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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