RE: should I or shouldn't I

[Guest guest]

Tina, just talk to your mom, don't make any promises or say that you'll work for

her or anything. Then, if you feel that it's not going to work, just draw back

away from her.

Good luck.

Janae

, 9, ADD

Jake, 6, autism

[Guest guest]

Tina,

If your mom wants to make things right, I would wait and let HER call.

After all, YOU'RE the one who's been wronged in this situation. If your

brother is telling the truth that your mom wants to make things better, SHE

should make the first move. And it better be an apology.

JMHO,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Tina, I agree 150% with Jacquie on this one. My mom and I had a relationship

rather similar to the one you and your Mom have. My mom finally called me one

day, ad spent 2 hours crying and apologizing and we have a wonderful

relationship now!! My Mom is one of my best friends, and about the best advocate

to my family on 's difficulties, and exactly how bad they really are. Let

your mom call you. She screwed up, not you!!!! Jacquie is right on target!

" It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous

that you realize just how much you love them. "

- Agatha Christie

, frazzled mom to:

, PDD-NOS, ADHD, Mixed Expressive/Receptive Language Disorder, 4

, NT, Terrible Twos, but adorable none-the-less, 2

Re: should I or shouldn't I

Tina,

If your mom wants to make things right, I would wait and let HER call.

After all, YOU'RE the one who's been wronged in this situation. If your

brother is telling the truth that your mom wants to make things better, SHE

should make the first move. And it better be an apology.

JMHO,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

I agree with Jacquie. If your Mom wanted to make things right, she'd be on the

phone instead of your brother. Every family has it's roles and it sounds like

in your family you're the peacemaker. Maybe this time you should concentrate on

you and Mark and let someone else make peace.

Tuna

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Tina,

If your mom wants to make things right, I would wait and let HER call.

After all, YOU'RE the one who's been wronged in this situation. If your

brother is telling the truth that your mom wants to make things better, SHE

should make the first move. And it better be an apology.

JMHO,

Jacquie

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[Guest guest]

Tina ,I agree with the girls . If your mum is really that sorry (and I

I'm not saying that she's not) ,she should be the one to make the

first move. I don't feel it's a case of she's wrong and you're right

(though YOU ARE) ,but you have enough on your plate with Mark.I know

it took my mum a long time to accept Andy for who he is and even

today I don't think she fully understands our family life but in your

case ,I agree with the girls. She has to make the first move. You

have to get on with your life .I don't think letting the dust settle

for a bit will do any harm ,it will give you time to gather your

thoughts.

JMHO

Ali xx

> My brother just called me and my mom wants to make things better

> between us. She doesn't like this fighting, which neither do I.

But

> I don't know. It would be the right thing to do to at least get on

> talking term with her, but yet, I might just be setting myself up

for

> more stress.

>

> Maybe I will call her to talk things out but I won't work for her.

> Not unless it's totally on my terms and only once in a while, like

> maybe only once or twice a month. Oh I don't know, what do you

guys

> think I should do? I'm so confused on what to do here! HELP

>

> Tina W.

[Guest guest]

I was trying to come up with a good response, but couldn't find the

words....well.....there they are... That's good advice, Tina.

Penny

Re: should I or shouldn't I

Tina,

If your mom wants to make things right, I would wait and let HER call.

After all, YOU'RE the one who's been wronged in this situation. If your

brother is telling the truth that your mom wants to make things better, SHE

should make the first move. And it better be an apology.

JMHO,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

You know, this is what I was thinking. But I thought maybe I was

just being too stuborn again. My dad thinks the same thing and so

does my BF.

And to make me believe this even more I found out about a day later

that my mom kicked her husband out. (No doubt to be with her

boyfriend, that she denies is her boyfriend). SO I think the only

reason she wants to make up is so I can help work because now she is

going to need extra help if my step-dad isn't around. But I don't

think I could ever work for her again, not after what she pulled.

But your right she has my number and she knows where I live. If she

wants things better that bad she can make the effort!

Tina W.

>

> Tina,

>

> If your mom wants to make things right, I would wait and let HER

call.

> After all, YOU'RE the one who's been wronged in this situation. If

your

> brother is telling the truth that your mom wants to make things

better, SHE

> should make the first move. And it better be an apology.

>

> JMHO,

>

> Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Thanks . Your right, it just makes it easier hearing it from

someone besides myself.

Tina W