An Update and some thoughts...((long sorry))

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I'll have whatever she's having ...

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Good luck. I wish you well.

Sissi

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Hi Everyone

I haven't posted in quite a while. Spring is in the air here as I type this and

my life has taken on a much more positive turn. I am in wonder at the sheer

beauty of the world (as corny as that may sound) and the very fact that I am

here to live my life and enjoy the experience. No more do I have the mindset of

" when things get better then I will be happy " - I now believe in being happy

despite it all and it is amazing how things DO get easier with the changed point

of view. I don't want to upset any of you, I'm not saying that your problems and

your pain isn't real...I know from experience just how real they are...believe

me...but I also believe we choose how to react and although our problems may not

change our perspective can )

The support I have gained here has been instrumental in this amazing turn

around...I have to thank each and every one of you for sharing your stories, the

tears, the joys, the despair and the triumphs. In the early days of Jay's

diagnosis I don't know what I would've done without you all. I feel a sense of

kinship with you all and think of you often as I go about my day. Right now I

feel the need to get back out into the world and live my life so I'll be going

no-mail soon and can't guarentee I'll be back.You will always hold a special

place in my heart and I hope to keep in touch with some of you through private

email and chat and send an update occassionally to the list.

Now an update...Matt continues to be a problem and has now gone to live with

some close friends of mine. I'm not sure how long this situation will remain but

I have to say things are much less volatile around here without him stirring the

pot. He has taken himself off his meds and doesn't want to see the counsellor

anymore...he also resents me " interferring " in his life, it seems I need to ask

permission to arrange anything for him these days...oh well. He's growing up and

I guess he can only do it his way...I have let go of that to a certain extent

and have trusted his day to day care and discipline to someone who's not so

emotionally invested. I believe I've done the best thing for all of us...

is doing well. He is a happy child (more so without Matt harrassing him

day in and day out). We have our moments but he doesn't ever hold a grudge. He

is the sort of child that you can have a screaming fight with and still get

kisses and cuddles at bedtime. I sure do love him for that ) He has been great

with Jay, playing with him in all the ways Jay loves...rough and tumble,

chasing, tickling...weekend mornings are a joy with all the giggles as we roll

around in my bed )

Jay is doing really well at school. He's had a few weeks off due to gastro and

then chickenpox but all in all he's happy and healthy and I am thankful for

that. A fantastic victory for us is his toileting...He is fully trained!! I just

took a relaxed approach with him and eventually he just got it...I am SO proud

of him (and grateful that it was a lot easier than I thought when starting

out)...He has been dry most mornings too so as soon as I get a mattress

protector (for just in case) I'll take his pullups off. Jay has had an increase

in appetite recently to and has grown a bit taller. He has been a little more

aggressive and hyperactive than usual but I'm hoping that will settle down with

time. I am pretty much at ease with Jay's autism now...he is a horror to take

shopping but I just ignore the looks we get and get on with it. I have to say

life is good!

My wish for all of you is that your battles lessen, your joys increase and that

peace and contentment settles over you all. I still have some pretty bad days,

don't get me wrong, but for the most part I am enjoying life...

I believe our autistic children were sent to us to teach us something we were

having trouble " getting " (and I don't mean this in a religious way) Jay has

taught me many lessons already and the most important of them all is to

appreciate the little things...

Now get out there and 'smell the roses'

(inAus)

star_2000@...

Mum to:

Matt 14yrs (Adjustment disorder/anxiety/depression)

10yrs (SLD???)

Jayden 4yrs (Autism)

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good luck to you

in your new journey

in life...

take care--

nancy : )

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good luck to you

in your new journey

in life...

take care--

nancy : )

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I'm so glad to hear things are going so well for you and the boys (although

sorry to hear about Matts decisions)! It's wonderful you've found so much

peace of mind. I'll miss hearing your posts from time to time. Please take

care and do try to update from time to time!

Wonderful wishes for your future,

Sue

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I'm so glad to hear things are going so well for you and the boys (although

sorry to hear about Matts decisions)! It's wonderful you've found so much

peace of mind. I'll miss hearing your posts from time to time. Please take

care and do try to update from time to time!

Wonderful wishes for your future,

Sue

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You sound so....peaceful.

I'm very, VERY happy for you....all....

Please keep in touch.

We'll miss you.

Penny

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ditto.

Re: An Update and some thoughts...((long

sorry))

I'll have whatever she's having ...

,

Good luck. I wish you well.

Sissi