Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 (((((((((()))))))))) I'm so sorry this is happening to you! This is plainly the last thing you need in your already complicated life! Do you think that there is possibly a chance that the other signs you've been seeing in her recently could be from the depression instead of ALHZ? I'm hoping it could be since medication could help it. I wish I could offer you an easy solution to the delemma of trying to tell her she needs help, but I think you're going to have to face her head on (with her Dr.s support) and if it's that bad, maybe have to hospitalize her against her wishes? (I hope you don't). Keep us posted...... Sue By the way, other than the shoulder, how's your dad's health? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 > but I think you're going to have to face her head on (with her Dr.s support) > and if it's that bad, maybe have to hospitalize her against her wishes? (I > hope you don't). Those are my thoughts as well. We shall see. Today when she threatened to jump off the bridge I told her she would not because it would be too hard on . Which she did acknowledge so at least that's something. > By the way, other than the shoulder, how's your dad's health? For a 70yo he's in pretty good health fortunately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 Glad to hear Gail and are doing well. Sorry to hear about your mom's depression. Does there seem to be a lot of alzheimers in autism families? I wonder. My grandmother would have probably been diagnosed with alzheimers if there had been such a word back then. The doctor said she was " senile. " She became bedridden and didn't know our names after a while. I was very young. She lived with us after she couldn't take care of herself any longer. I don't want to think about that. Why am I thinking about that? Sissi OT: Parent Worries > My mom is so seriouly depressed I may go up because I think she may > need to be hospitalized. Her sister, my aunt called me last night to > express her concerns, and that's when I found out that my > grandmother almost succeeded in committing suicide, except that my > aunt found her in time. Great. I knew my grandmother had suffered > from depression most of her adult life but I hadn't know that > detail. Nothing suits her at all. She wants to see no one, go > nowhere, and she speaks of not living any more. > > My dad is supposed to have shoulder surgery on the 23rd to reattach a > muscle. He needs to have that done, he can't really put it off any > more because it's pretty bad, but I'm thinking I'm going to need to > be there because I don't see how there is anyway possible my mom will > be able to drive my dad and take care of him when she is so bad > herself. On the other hand, if I go up to help I don't want to set > myself up to be her next target (right now that's my dad). I don't > know if she's said anything nice to him in weeks. > > I've also considered calling her doctor to make sure he understands > how severely depressed she is, but I don't want to do anything to > upset my mom either, and if she found out she'd never forgive me for > the rest of her life. She's so negative and resentful of almost > everyone it's difficult to stay neutral. I also think there is some > loss of reason/judgement but there is NO WAY I'm going to be heard > breathing those words where she might hear them. > > The other problem if I go now, is the young ones. I can't leave > , he's never been more than a few hours without me and the kid > would not do well if I left for several days. Besides the small > detail he's basically still a baby and I have no one to care for > him. On the other hand I can't imagine that taking with me > would be the grandest plan either if she's being really difficult. > > I hate being the middle man. > > On a side note so far Gail and appear to be adjusting well to > school and their medication adjustments seem to be effective. I'll > take those as minor miracles for the time being, and I'm grateful. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 , I am so sorry! It is so hard caring for a parent and children at the same time. I agree that something should be done for your mom. Do you have any siblings that could help out at all? It seems unfair for you to take on this burden all by yourself. Thinking of you. Amy H--in Michigan Kepler 5 ASD and Bethany 6 1/2 NT " Eternal vigilance is the price of liberty. " ~ Jefferson _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2002 Report Share Posted September 12, 2002 Do you have any > siblings that could help out at all? Just my dad and myself. I do have a brother, but long story short, let's just say he's more trouble and no help, or a little of him is too much for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 <<Does there seem to be a lot of alzheimers in autism families? I wonder.>> Sissi, There are some camps that believe that mercury exposure is the culprit for Alzheimer's as well as autism. Since there has been a rise in the number of people affected with Alzheimer's over the past two decades, some people believe that the amalgams (silver dental fillings in our mouths which contain up to 50% MERCURY) are the cause. The American Dental Association denies any connection (of course) but I recall that in one state (Maine, maybe?) the dentists are actually under some kind of gag order regarding this issue?? Andy Cutler has written a book about the connection. He is active over at the Autism-Mercury group at yahoo and this subject comes up fairly frequently. And, FWIW, he advises against amalgams for kids with autism (well, actually, he advises against amalgam fillings for everyone) and recommends we receive the white composite fillings which are mercury-free. Also, if anyone is planning to pursue chelation therapy to remove the mercury from our bodies, it is necessary to first remove all amalgam fillings, as the chelation process can actually leach the toxins from the fillings and then redistribute to cause even more damage elsewhere in our bodies. Probably more than you wanted to know, huh? -BJ in polis, MD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2002 Report Share Posted September 13, 2002 > Does there seem to be a lot of alzheimers in autism families? I wonder. < my grandma has it and salli's father does too... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2002 Report Share Posted September 15, 2002 Maybe it's a good thing that I can't find a dentist to put a permanent filling in Jacqui's teeth. Huh. Food for thought. Thanks BJ. Penny :-D >>>>>>> Andy Cutler has written a book about the connection. He is active over at the Autism-Mercury group at yahoo and this subject comes up fairly frequently. And, FWIW, he advises against amalgams for kids with autism (well, actually, he advises against amalgam fillings for everyone) and recommends we receive the white composite fillings which are mercury-free. <<<<<< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2002 Report Share Posted September 15, 2002 Maybe it's a good thing that I can't find a dentist to put a permanent filling in Jacqui's teeth. Huh. Food for thought. Thanks BJ. Penny :-D >>>>>>> Andy Cutler has written a book about the connection. He is active over at the Autism-Mercury group at yahoo and this subject comes up fairly frequently. And, FWIW, he advises against amalgams for kids with autism (well, actually, he advises against amalgam fillings for everyone) and recommends we receive the white composite fillings which are mercury-free. <<<<<< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2002 Report Share Posted September 16, 2002 In a message dated 9/14/2002 12:58:21 AM Eastern Standard Time, MUOLLO3@... writes: > my grandma has it and salli's father does too... > > My grandmother had it. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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