Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 Francisco: I think every one of us have had those feelings. Self recrimination helped us get here. The change in our lives will be extensive, but as you said those that love you will love you no matter what. The change must come from within, and the change will be for better health and happier feelings about yourself. But do start now...you deserve it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 Francisco: I think every one of us have had those feelings. Self recrimination helped us get here. The change in our lives will be extensive, but as you said those that love you will love you no matter what. The change must come from within, and the change will be for better health and happier feelings about yourself. But do start now...you deserve it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2003 Report Share Posted May 2, 2003 I just wanted to respond to your post. When I look at all the photos before surgery of me (and there are not many of them), I feel the same thing. How could I have gotten that way, how could anyone possibly love me looking like that, etc. The people that love us do not see what we see. If they were that shallow, they would have never gotten close enough to us to love us or for us to love them. Morbid obesity is a disease and I don't think I know anyone who has that disease that would rather not have it. It has nothing to do with willpower, determination, strength of character or the ability to love and be loved. Realizing that being fat was not all my fault was a turning point for me and helped me start on my journey of recovery. Once my mind was set to change my life, I did what needed to be done to be successful. So...there may not be many photos of me before surgery, but I never miss a photo op now! Hugs, Pat B. -----Original Message-----From: ciscozalvaje Sent: Thursday, May 01, 2003 9:48 PMTo: gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients Subject: Before photosHello everyone!Just wanted to share some feelings about some vacation photos we just got back. I look horrible in them. I purposely stuck out my stomach (well, I can't really hold it in), but that doesn't make much difference when you're as big as I am.I sat there with pictures of me in my hands, and I caught myself having repulsive feelings. I was saying things to myself like, "Oh my God, how can Babu (my partner's nickname) love me? I'm so fat and disgusting. How can I have good friends who want to be seen with me?" and on and on. I was just beating myself up.I've been working on countering negative self-talk (Dr. Phil would be proud) so I had to consciously, with great effort turn the dialog around and say some positive things to myself about myself.It's amazing. I see pictures of me with my friends and family. Some of them are bigger than me, yet I don't think those horrible things about them. Their faces and shapes--big or small--bring forth feelings of love and happiness. I imagine that they have a similar positive reaction to me. Yet why is it so difficult for me to have that positive reaction about seeing my own picture? Why is the negative reaction so automatic and hard to change?Well, I was just in the mood to share... And at least I'll have some good "before" pictures.Franciscopre-op (10% weight loss phase)299/287/?Kaiser Richmond Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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