Re: What is going on with me?

[Guest guest]

I have to stress not to get upset with numbers. While the scale may not move,

you may be loosing inches. Make sure you measure monthly! I haven't lost a

thing now for almost a month, yet the inches are coming down. That is what

matters. Keep in mind you will always reach a level that may last sometime and

not loose a thing. As you are increasing your exercise level and building

muscle, this also will weigh more. Muscle is heavier than fat, thus another

possible reason you are not loosing right now. Hang in there, again been there,

done that and still doing it.. but eventually it comes off. What a great

feeling, you are not a failure! May just take a little longer we are all

different!

[Guest guest]

Toni, 4 weeks isn't long enough to work on this!!! Easy for me to say I am

sure, but I hear everyone loses at a different rate. some of these people

have reported months before they lost a chunk of weight!!! Isn't that

true??? EC.

[Guest guest]

How can you say it hasn't worked, you've lost 22 lbs. I know every diet I

ever went on I never was this successful. Don't be a slave to the scales.

Compare how things fit you now. I have lost 100 lbs. in the 7 months since

my surgery and I have reached several stuck spots but I have continued to

lose inches. When we go into this we expect miracles and we get them but

sometimes we expect more. Hang in there, 6 months from now you will be

several sizes smaller. You too will have the awesome experience of shopping

on the " other side " instead of having to shop only on the plus side.

> What is going on with me?

>

>

>

> I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh, 22

> lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am still

> stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing. WHY????

> Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few WLS

> surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was for

> nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am I

> just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

>

> Toni

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

Having my surgery on December 7th, 1998 I want to take an opportunity to respond

to this posting. At times, I also feel like a failure especially when I see

photos or read that some are almost at their ideal weight. What I have to keep

reminding myself is that we all loose at different rates and our bodies are so

different ... we will not be alike. I also was much larger than the average

person having this procedure so for me, that extra hundred pounds more than the

average person having the surgery, also will mean that I will need more than

just a year or so to reach a weight suitable for my height. I feel it is

important to stress that this is not a " diet " to fail at but rather a lifestyle

modification that you do have to surrend and accept that you need to change your

lifestyle and eating habits to be a success. I always failed in the past with

attempts at weight loss, but this is the first time ever that I can honestly

say, I am going to succeed with this surgery. I !

have faith that it will work. I also know due to my original weight that I will

probably take two years to reach an ideal weight. What is important to me is

that the " quality " of my life has improved so much with my " improved health "

that should I never loose any additional weight, I will be happy at a size 20.

When you go from wearing a size 5x top or 52 waist pants down to a 2x top or

20/22 pants ... that is a miracle to me.

I feel fantastic! I want to stand on the highest mountain and shout to everyone

how wonderful I feel.

Toss out your scale and just judge how you are doing with this surgery on your

inches and how does your body feel! People know better now than to ask me, how

much have you lost ... now, they ask how do you feel! Don't worry about what

your family is expecting ... did you have the surgery for them or for you?

Before you get all bent out of shape ( easy to say now that I can bend over) ask

why did I have this surgery? Nothing or no where is it etched in stone, this is

the easy way out ..

so don't expect it to just " melt " away either. You have to make it work with

lifestyle modifications, diet changes and exercise.

Just my feelings but I hate when I see people getting frustrated over not

loosing! Sorry to ramble.

[Guest guest]

Thank you Amy,

This is just one more time I am afraid that I will feel like a defective

Typewriter and I guess I am a bit afraid of me being a failure with weight

loss one more time.

I will just have to learn to wait it out.

Thanks,

Toni

" Kribbs, Amy " wrote:

> From: akribbs@... (Kribbs, Amy)

>

> Toni,

>

> I know it can be discouraging not to see all the weight fall off all at

> once...or at least that is how I felt at one time...but it does come off,

> sometimes slowly but always surely. Be patient, be gentle with you, and

> relax-it will happen.

>

> Amy

> sd 8/9/99

> What is going on with me?

>

> >

> >

> >I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh, 22

> >lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am still

> >stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing. WHY????

> >Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few WLS

> >surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was for

> >nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am I

> >just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

> >

> >Toni

> >

> >>This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> >Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

> >

> >

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

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[Guest guest]

You are right. I DO see inches coming off. At least it looks that way in the

shorts I am wearing right now. I put them on and boy are they big. That sure

made me feel better.

Thank you,

Toni

APEXKAS@... wrote:

> From: APEXKAS@...

>

> I have to stress not to get upset with numbers. While the scale may not move,

you may be loosing inches. Make sure you measure monthly! I haven't lost a

thing now for almost a month, yet the inches are coming down. That is what

matters. Keep in mind you will always reach a level that may last sometime and

not loose a thing. As you are increasing your exercise level and building

muscle, this also will weigh more. Muscle is heavier than fat, thus another

possible reason you are not loosing right now. Hang in there, again been there,

done that and still doing it.. but eventually it comes off. What a great

feeling, you are not a failure! May just take a little longer we are all

different!

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

Toni,

I know it can be discouraging not to see all the weight fall off all at

once...or at least that is how I felt at one time...but it does come off,

sometimes slowly but always surely. Be patient, be gentle with you, and

relax-it will happen.

Amy

sd 8/9/99

What is going on with me?

>

>

>I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh, 22

>lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am still

>stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing. WHY????

>Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few WLS

>surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was for

>nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am I

>just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

>

>Toni

>

>>This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

>Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

>

>

[Guest guest]

I, too, am a slow loser-8 weeks and 35 lbs. I'd be

curious if there are others-? Peggy

--- Toni wrote:

> I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I

> have only lost oh, 22

> lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only

> lost 1 lb. I am still

> stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am

> not losing. WHY????

> Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will

> be one of the few WLS

> surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I

> went through was for

> nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried

> for nothing? Or am I

> just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

>

> Toni

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Toni, everyone is different. Water is lost first and your body adjusts to

its new digestive system. I'm a pre-op, but from what I've been told by

those who have already had WLS, the plateau of " no weight loss " is common.

You're probably still losing inches. Toss the scale (scales are for fish)

and use your measuring tape instead. If that isn't handy, try on your

clothes. You'll probably find the clothing is looser and looser on you, even

though the scale doesn't show any weight loss. We all expect so much of

ourselves, it's a wonder that we don't go stark raving mad!

[Guest guest]

Carlissa, you can decide whether they will be right or they will be wrong.

What does your heart tell you about this? Is this something you plan on

failing at? I sure don't think that you're planning to fail...you have

sounded so positive about wanting this surgery to help you lose your excess

weight. So! If you aren't planning to fail, you must be planning to

succeed! Let the nay-sayers titter and giggle all they want, Carlissa. YOU

are a capable and bright woman. You don't have to do what they expect you to

do; you have a choice. Sit down and write (yes, write) down three things

that you don't like about yourself. Take that piece of paper and fold it up

and put it off to the side. Now, woman!, take a piece of paper and write

down six things about yourself that are pretty darn neat! (I know that this

part usually takes longer than the first part....<smiles>) You don't have

any choice about what these other people think of you or expect of you...they

aren't you. You only have a choice about your reaction to them and their

attitudes or behaviors. What's your choice, Carlissa? Are you going to take

good care of yourself or let them bully you again?

[Guest guest]

Peggy,

SLOW LOSER HERE!!! I was getting worried I was the only one!! I had my

surgery on 8/2/99 and three weeks ago I had lost 36.5 lb. I weighed about

and no change at all for the second week in a row!!! I am going to try to

weigh again tomorrow and see if there is a change. I know something is

happening though because my jeans that were to tight a week ago are

definitely fitting a little better (they aren't cutting off my breath when I

sit down! LOL!)

in AL

[Guest guest]

Toni, hang in there and have faith. You know if you are eating 1/4th of what

you use to that you are going to lose the weight. I found that my body did

not like the less food situation and held onto a lot of water for several

weeks then one day it just all started working. You have to realize that you

have changed the whole way your body does business and it will put up all the

defenses possible to maintain the old way of life. You have done the right

thing and it will work. Put your scales in the closet and don't get them out

for 3 months, okay. Haven't you let the numbers rule your life long enough.

Start living by the way you feel!!! Don't you notice a difference in the way

you feel when you are walking up a flight of stairs or putting on your cloths

or taking a shower. Learn to notice the small changes and be grateful for

them and forget the numbers. It will work for you!!!! Start being kind to

yourself both mentally and physically.

Debbie

MGB 9/15/99

[Guest guest]

What an awful feeling isn't it? You fear you may fail as it is but to have other

people waiting for it to happen? I am sorry your family feels this way. Maybe it

is because of lack of knowledge? WLS has sure come a long way from even just a

few years ago. Makes me wonder how long ago the person that re-gained the weight

had the surgery. I too know of someone that had it about years ago and is even

bigger now. Her surgery was done alot different then mine though.

Good luck. You will make it and so will I. I guess it took me my whole life to

gain this weight. I can't expect it to come off over night.

Toni

" Carlissa R. " wrote:

>

>

> Toni

> Im afraid also. Im so afraid that this surgery will not work for me. My

> sister has already made a comment about someone that she works with that

> had surgery and now she is big again. She made that comment right before my

> surgery and everybody in my family is waiting for me to fail. I can just

> feel it.

>

> Carlissa

>

> ----------

> >

> > To: Bypass <MiniGastricBypassonelist>

> > Subject: What is going on with me?

> > Date: Thursday, October 21, 1999 3:00 PM

> >

> >

> >

> > I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh, 22

> > lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am still

> > stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing. WHY????

> > Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few WLS

> > surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was for

> > nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am I

> > just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

> >

> > Toni

> >

> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

You are so right Debbie and I know it but I guess I am my toughest critic. I

have

to be more patient and stop expecting the weight to come off so quickly. I think

it's time to throw my scale away, Hehehe. I will put it away for awhile. That

should help.

Thanks,

Toni

DebbieW930@... wrote:

> From: DebbieW930@...

>

> Toni, hang in there and have faith. You know if you are eating 1/4th of what

> you use to that you are going to lose the weight. I found that my body did

> not like the less food situation and held onto a lot of water for several

> weeks then one day it just all started working. You have to realize that you

> have changed the whole way your body does business and it will put up all the

> defenses possible to maintain the old way of life. You have done the right

> thing and it will work. Put your scales in the closet and don't get them out

> for 3 months, okay. Haven't you let the numbers rule your life long enough.

> Start living by the way you feel!!! Don't you notice a difference in the way

> you feel when you are walking up a flight of stairs or putting on your cloths

> or taking a shower. Learn to notice the small changes and be grateful for

> them and forget the numbers. It will work for you!!!! Start being kind to

> yourself both mentally and physically.

>

> Debbie

> MGB 9/15/99

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

Toni

Im afraid also. Im so afraid that this surgery will not work for me. My

sister has already made a comment about someone that she works with that

had surgery and now she is big again. She made that comment right before my

surgery and everybody in my family is waiting for me to fail. I can just

feel it.

Carlissa

----------

>

> To: Bypass <MiniGastricBypassonelist>

> Subject: What is going on with me?

> Date: Thursday, October 21, 1999 3:00 PM

>

>

>

> I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh, 22

> lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am still

> stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing. WHY????

> Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few WLS

> surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was for

> nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am I

> just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

>

> Toni

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/21/1999 4:09:21 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

flowers@... writes:

<<

>>

You girls are being so pessimistic. You have lost 22 pounds in a month, you

are right on schedule. Did you lose that much weight before the surgery?

You all are doing just wonderfully. Stop worrying about all of the negative

comments that you hear and concentrate on the positive input that you can

read about on the daily email featured on the www.clos.net. I too am 4 weeks

post-op and I've lost 26 pounds and I am confident that I will lose more. If

you continue too worry about failing and then you will. I will be at the

meeting on Oct 30 and I hope to see you all there. Keep the FAITH.

EWALKER298

[Guest guest]

Peggy,

That is over 4 lbs a week for 8 weeks. What is slow about that dear?

When have you EVER lost that much. Remember we are all individuals and

this is not a race.

You are doing great.

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

Toni

You are right. I need to get this overnight thing out of my head.

Carlissa

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>

> To: MiniGastricBypassonelist

> Subject: Re: What is going on with me?

> Date: Friday, October 22, 1999 12:14 AM

>

>

>

> What an awful feeling isn't it? You fear you may fail as it is but to

have other

> people waiting for it to happen? I am sorry your family feels this way.

Maybe it

> is because of lack of knowledge? WLS has sure come a long way from even

just a

> few years ago. Makes me wonder how long ago the person that re-gained the

weight

> had the surgery. I too know of someone that had it about years ago and

is even

> bigger now. Her surgery was done alot different then mine though.

>

> Good luck. You will make it and so will I. I guess it took me my whole

life to

> gain this weight. I can't expect it to come off over night.

>

> Toni

>

> " Carlissa R. " wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > Toni

> > Im afraid also. Im so afraid that this surgery will not work for me. My

> > sister has already made a comment about someone that she works with

that

> > had surgery and now she is big again. She made that comment right

before my

> > surgery and everybody in my family is waiting for me to fail. I can

just

> > feel it.

> >

> > Carlissa

> >

> > ----------

> > >

> > > To: Bypass <MiniGastricBypassonelist>

> > > Subject: What is going on with me?

> > > Date: Thursday, October 21, 1999 3:00 PM

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > I am pretty upset here. I am 4 weeks post-op and I have only lost oh,

22

> > > lbs. I went in to the dr last week and I had only lost 1 lb. I am

still

> > > stuck in the same place right now. I seems that I am not losing.

WHY????

> > > Is this normal so soon after surgery? Maybe I will be one of the few

WLS

> > > surgery doesn't work for. I am so afraid that all I went through was

for

> > > nothing. Has this happened to others? Am I worried for nothing? Or am

I

> > > just one of the luck ones this won't work for?

> > >

> > > Toni

> > >

> > > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at

Onelist.com

> > > Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

> >

> > > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at

Onelist.com

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>

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[Guest guest]

Elaine

You just made me want to hide under the bed. Im so ashamed of myself for

complaining. I have not lost this much weight in years and I have the nerve

to complain. I must apologize to everyone who has read any of my negative

messages. I am blessed to have been able to have the surgery and lose 23

lbs. Sometimes we get used to moaning and feeling sorry for ourselves. Now

that I have something to be happy about I don't know how to act. No more

complaints from this day forward. I promise.Thanks for the Karate chop

Elaine.

Carlissa

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> From: E298@...

> To: MiniGastricBypassonelist

> Subject: Re: What is going on with me?

> Date: Friday, October 22, 1999 10:45 PM

>

> From: E298@...

>

> In a message dated 10/21/1999 4:09:21 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

> flowers@... writes:

>

> <<

> >>

> You girls are being so pessimistic. You have lost 22 pounds in a month,

you

> are right on schedule. Did you lose that much weight before the surgery?

> You all are doing just wonderfully. Stop worrying about all of the

negative

> comments that you hear and concentrate on the positive input that you can

> read about on the daily email featured on the www.clos.net. I too am 4

weeks

> post-op and I've lost 26 pounds and I am confident that I will lose more.

If

> you continue too worry about failing and then you will. I will be at the

> meeting on Oct 30 and I hope to see you all there. Keep the FAITH.

>

> EWALKER298

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net

[Guest guest]

umm aren't we all? or am i the only one i like the raving part.. the stark

is a little chilly but i always was a little on the abnormal side of the

psyche.

[Guest guest]

Speak for yourself..... I am stark raving mad. Have been for years over my

weight. I am just know learning to relax and know that the weight will come off,

and this time FOR GOOD.

My weight loss has started back up again and so that has helped greatly.

It took me my whole life to gain it so I guess it will take a bit of time to

shed

it too.

Thank you for the reply.

Take care,

Toni Pinkston

ICQ # 1202266

IM name rynkatsmom

Yarnmama@... wrote:

> From: Yarnmama@...

>

> Toni, everyone is different. Water is lost first and your body adjusts to

> its new digestive system. I'm a pre-op, but from what I've been told by

> those who have already had WLS, the plateau of " no weight loss " is common.

> You're probably still losing inches. Toss the scale (scales are for fish)

> and use your measuring tape instead. If that isn't handy, try on your

> clothes. You'll probably find the clothing is looser and looser on you, even

> though the scale doesn't show any weight loss. We all expect so much of

> ourselves, it's a wonder that we don't go stark raving mad!

>

> > This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass Mailing List at Onelist.com

> Please visit our web site at http://clos.net