Re: what is WRONG with that child?

[Guest guest]

YIKES! I had a friend like that when I was little. Drove my mom

crazy! I cant believe her tried the doorknob either.

Jacquie H

>

> 7pm, came knocking on the door.

>

> I thought it'd take a couple days, at least.

>

> I didn't open, or even go to, the door. stood at the glass

yelling, " GO AWAY! MY MOM SAYS YOU CAN'T COME HERE! "

>

> Even HE knows is a little premature in trying again.

>

> Jacquie

> -who was shocked when began turning the knob on the inner

door! (which is always locked)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have only kept up on this thread and other threads sporadically simply

because I am just too busy these days to post or even read the posts. Anyway.

Remember you saying at one point that the home this boy comes from is less than

favorable. I'm wondering if he keeps coming over because he sees your home as a

safe place, even if he doesn't act appropriately which wouldn't be surprising if

he isn't being nurtured at home. I am just wondering if it has more to do with

a lack of understanding about how to be nice and a desire to be in a safe harbor

if even for a few minutes than with " wanting " to be mean to . Certainly it

doesn't make his behavior excusable but it could be a reason as to why he does

the things he does. I don't know the situation like I said , it is just a

thought.

CHRIS

I'M THANKFUL FOR LAUGHTER, JOY AND THE HIGH SPIRITED GLEE THAT FILLS MY HEART TO

OVERFLOWING (SIGH).

-EEYORE

what is WRONG with that child?

7pm, came knocking on the door.

I thought it'd take a couple days, at least.

I didn't open, or even go to, the door. stood at the glass yelling, " GO

AWAY! MY MOM SAYS YOU CAN'T COME HERE! "

Even HE knows is a little premature in trying again.

Jacquie

-who was shocked when began turning the knob on the inner door!

(which is always locked)

[Guest guest]

I'm telling you Jacquie, the kid is an aspie who's had no help whatsoever

and parents who don't give a damn! He just doesn't get the point or even

the idea that what he's done is wrong. Period.

Aren't you glad you knew enough to look for help for ?! I know I am!

Sue

[Guest guest]

> I'm telling you Jacquie, the kid is an aspie who's had no help whatsoever

> and parents who don't give a damn! He just doesn't get the point or even

> the idea that what he's done is wrong. Period.

> Aren't you glad you knew enough to look for help for ?! I know I am!

> Sue

Youknow, Sue, when he kept coming back and ringing the doorbell, I started

to believe again that he might very well be an aspie... and I feel GUILTY

for not wanting him anywhere near .

But the truth is, I can't nurture two children, not when the other one has

NO support in his home. There's nothing I can do for him in the scant hours

a week he spent here, and there's much damage HE can do to if I try. I

can't undo the damage his parents have caused by neglecting him, and I can't

convince them to look into it for themselves, although goodness knows I've

tried.

He haunts me, that child. He really does. Mostly I just carry a burden of

guilt around knowing that at this point, I MUST stop him and from

playing together because learns nothing but how to treat others badly

from him. I feel guilty knowing that I SHOULD be trying to help him, but I

just can't.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

----- Original Message -----

>

> Youknow, Sue, when he kept coming back and ringing the doorbell, I started

> to believe again that he might very well be an aspie... and I feel GUILTY

> for not wanting him anywhere near .

You shouldn't feel guilty about this, but I can understand why you would.

I'm certain I'd feel the same way :-(

>

> But the truth is, I can't nurture two children, not when the other one has

> NO support in his home. There's nothing I can do for him in the scant

hours

> a week he spent here,

Also, you didn't choose to have this child. And you're right, he needs

support and training at home and at school if anyone is going to succeed in

helping him.

and there's much damage HE can do to if I try.

Oh, most definitely! If you ever do let play with him, you'd always

have to be supervising closely and be able to tell what is and isn't

apppropriate. (if this ever comes to be again, you might try telling

that you think he has some type of 'difference' like what he has, and that

no one knows it and they aren't helping him to 'learn' the right way to be

with friends. this way you could undo some of what sees this kid

doing?)

I

> can't undo the damage his parents have caused by neglecting him, and I

can't

> convince them to look into it for themselves, although goodness knows I've

> tried.

That's all you can do, Jacquie.

>

> He haunts me, that child. He really does.

Especially when he lives next door and tries to come in daily, huh? j/k I'm

sure you're referring to the fact that he may be like and that he's

getting no support.

Mostly I just carry a burden of

> guilt around knowing that at this point, I MUST stop him and from

> playing together because learns nothing but how to treat others badly

> from him.

This is certainly not something any of us want our kids to model!

I feel guilty knowing that I SHOULD be trying to help him, but I

> just can't.

Jacquie, you are only one person, with your own issues in life to deal with.

Try not to feel like YOU are letting him down. His Parents are! You've

tried to tell them, that's all you can do.

Maybe if they ever ask why he can't play with , you could tell them that

he seems to need help with his social skills and you can't have him keep

hurting like he has been.

Big hug to ya!

Sue

[Guest guest]

I think little has a very unhappy little home.

Very sad.

Penny

what is WRONG with that child?

7pm, came knocking on the door.

I thought it'd take a couple days, at least.

I didn't open, or even go to, the door. stood at the glass yelling,

" GO AWAY! MY MOM SAYS YOU CAN'T COME HERE! "

Even HE knows is a little premature in trying again.

Jacquie

-who was shocked when began turning the knob on the inner door!

(which is always locked)

[Guest guest]

> Don't feel guilty Jacquie.

> You are under no obligation to nurture this child. I know you feel bad.

You

> feel bad because you are a good person. Any one of us would feel the same

> way.

>

> The reality is, he's not yours. He has parents. He has a home. He has

> siblings.

>

> What more can you possibly do? comes first.

>

> Penny

I second everything Penny said!

Sissi

[Guest guest]

Don't feel guilty Jacquie.

You are under no obligation to nurture this child. I know you feel bad. You

feel bad because you are a good person. Any one of us would feel the same

way.

The reality is, he's not yours. He has parents. He has a home. He has

siblings.

What more can you possibly do? comes first.

Penny

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But the truth is, I can't nurture two children, not when the other one has

NO support in his home. There's nothing I can do for him in the scant hours

a week he spent here, and there's much damage HE can do to if I try. I

can't undo the damage his parents have caused by neglecting him, and I can't

convince them to look into it for themselves, although goodness knows I've

tried.

He haunts me, that child. He really does. Mostly I just carry a burden of

guilt around knowing that at this point, I MUST stop him and from

playing together because learns nothing but how to treat others badly

from him. I feel guilty knowing that I SHOULD be trying to help him, but I

just can't.

Jacquie

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