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a,

I just wanted to welcome you to the group as well. When I came here in July

looking desperately for someone who could understand what I was going through

I had no idea what a tremendous support group I would find. This is the BEST

place to get answers to ANY questions, get advice or just vent your

frustrations. Believe someone here has already been in your shoes. Glad you

found us.

Dana

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Thank you!!!!! God bless~~ a

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Hi a,

I had a tube rupture and had surgery to repair the damage. I was told to

wait three cycles before TTC again to allow time for my body to heal and

regain normal rhythm. I was charting and found that I did not ovulate for

two of the three cycles, so TTC before then would have been pretty pointless

anyway. Besides that, we were restricted from intercourse for 8 weeks post

surgery and couldn't do anything about it anyway.

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Thank you for the info on the psuedosac. My tubal reversal DR.

saw the pic i have of the U/S and said mine didn't look like one because there

was a rind. I guess that is the white layer on the outside of the sac. He even

said he thought i might have had a heterotopic PG. My Ob said he didn't think

so. It is very rare but when women have this happen they usually carry the one

in the uterus. I guess I need to stop thinking about this. I go over the whole

ordeal over and over!!! I also kept the pic of the U/S. My Dr. also gave me pics

from the lap. They were very scary looking!! The size of the EP was half the

size of my uterus. My Mom's DR. in Ca can't believe my DR. gave me a copy of

those pics. At least I have a copy of my good tube :-)

My friend and i are now talking again. A few weeks later

she apologized for everything. I love her unconditionally so of course I had to

forgive her. The other friend the one who cornered me at the hospital well, I

don't plan on talking to her. She wasn't a close friend or anything. I do pray

that her PG works out. The first time she M/C was a molar PG which is pretty

scary it can cause cancer. She is 40 so she doesn't have much time.

Again I thank you so much for writing me. I haven't been

very active since I joined a few weeks ago kinda lurking and trying to get to

know other people. I am feeling somewhat better but things are still very hard

for me. I pray time will heal!!! God Bless~~ a

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Hi a,

You might have joined this group after we had this

discussion, but a lot of us also had sacs spotted in

the uterus. Apparently, with eps there are often

groupings of fluid that look like real sacs (but are

not). That's why so many women start out thinking

they're having a normal pg, when it's really an ep.

They are called " pseudosacs. " I actually had 2 of

them with my ep, and they first told me I was having

twins. I still have the U/S picture of the two

buggers, side by side.

I'm also losing a friend over this whole ep. I've

been close with her since the 6th grade, but she's

been so completely unsupportive. Over the past year,

I had told her about my 3 early mcs and it seemed to

go in one ear and out the other. I told her about the

ep about 1 week after metho, and she said that her

coworker was currently in the hospital for the same

thing (so she does knows how devastating it is). This

was about 6 weeks ago and she hasn't even called me to

see how I'm doing. Actually, she did call me yesterday

to tell me she's coming in town this weekend, but I

didn't even answer the phone (she left a message and

didn't mention anything except her visit). Granted

she is busy with a 1-year old and a full-time job, but

I'm still disgusted at her insensitivity.

When one of my other friends had a D & C, I made a

conscious effort to call her everyday to see how she

was feeling. I tend to expect others to act how I

would, and get frustrated when they don't.

I find that everytime I have a crisis in life, I

realize who my true friends are. My father died when

I was only 27, and at that time, a different friend

was totally unsupportive. I haven't talked to her

since, and feel great about it. On the other hand,

during a crisis, there are lots of people who come out

of the woodwork with tons of support--people you

weren't even that close to. My thought with my

father's death and with this ep is that if your

friends can't be there for you during a crisis, then

why have them?

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a,

I'm glad to hear you're feeling more upbeat. It sounds like you have

a good plan that will start in motion after the new year and things

should be pretty positive. I'm afraid the stock market doesn't look

half as good...

Dominique