Guest guest Posted February 14, 2000 Report Share Posted February 14, 2000 Hi Bob, I have been feeling the same way lately. I feel like I am trying to find myself and God Forbid anyone should get in my way. I have been telling people off lately and have never done that before. My husband is not sure he is going to like me when I find me. I guess we just have some figuring out to do. Just didn't want you to feel alone. Take Care Mich Distal Bypass 1994 Start weight 425+ Current weight 250 > Hey gang, > > On the Graduate-OSSG list and on our local list (RouxNY) many are writing > about libido changes and self images. How about other changes in personality? > I've noticed (and so has my wife) that I am more short tempered and impatient > than I ever was before the surgery. Things get me upset more easily than > before my WLS (16 months ago). Maybe the fact that I had a near death > experience with my WLS (ruptured artery, 3 weeks on life support not expected > to live, 3 weeks in a nursing home for rehab and 2 months out of work) and > then another major bleeding episode with my hernia repair and tummy tuck 3 > months ago has something to do with it. Also, losing 220 pounds and literally > changing my entire appearance may have something to do with it. I don't know. > I am more concerned abut how I feel and perhaps this is just a natural > self-indulgence that comes with such enormous changes. Sometimes I feel that > I am going through another mid-life crisis. > > I also have a little short term memory loss from the life support (and from > being 55 years old). I get very frustrated and mad when I forget something or > have a problem processing something very simple. It is getting better, but it > is still frustrating. > > I know that I am very impatient and a lot quieter and more serious about > everything than I was before my surgery. I still have a sense of humor. I've > always felt that humor is what got me through all of this. It certainly > wasn't my love of cats (I just thought I'd throw that in for > vitalady[] and El). > > Seriously, has anyone else experienced such changes? > > BobA > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2000 Report Share Posted February 14, 2000 In a message dated 02/14/2000 9:41:11 PM Pacific Standard Time, RAltman813@... writes: > Seriously, has anyone else experienced such changes? > Bob, or anyone that cares, I used to use food to stuff feelings, of course I wasn't aware of this until months after surgery. If it had been put to me so blatantly before my surgery, I would have acknowledged it, but not given it much weight. Reality is, I am more affectionate, more compassionate, more considerate, more BITCHY, shorter tempered, less sympathetic to shallow causes, more forgetful and generally more emotional (good and bad) than I was when I had food to numb me. But ya know what? I wouldn't trade it for being fat again any day . . . I can hardly imagine how much that I felt, that I could have felt that I lived without. My children and my husband and all my friends love the " forgetful " hug, teary person that I am now . . . And those were people that knew me before the extra 100 pounds jumped on me! Vicki in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 In a message dated 02/15/2000 5:08:39 PM Pacific Standard Time, laemax@... writes: > " weigh down " > etc. I mean we now have it the obese persons fault that God does not love > them enough to take away their food obsession. Give me a break! I really > have to make myself shut up around this kind of talk, because I can really > go off. Otherwise, I am much less irritable then before, but that was > because my blood sugar was so high, and that can make you absolutely BITCHY. LOL . . . I am no expert on Weight Down or Gwen Shamblien, but I thought the same thing as you after skimming the book. Last hting I needed was a weight loss failure tied to my spirituality! Yikes! I had it explained to me last week that their principal is that non-hunger eating is a signal that you need more " God. " A person in my 007 group reframed that to mean, more peace, more introspection, more inner work . . . Now that I can relate to and live with. I still am doing the 7 secrets and think it is the best, it has changed my whole relationship with food and I do not DIET . . . that is how I got FAT! Vicki in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 I do have less patience in some areas, like talk of diets and other mythology. I am so sick of the " groups " like weight watchers, " weigh down " etc. I mean we now have it the obese persons fault that God does not love them enough to take away their food obsession. Give me a break! I really have to make myself shut up around this kind of talk, because I can really go off. Otherwise, I am much less irritable then before, but that was because my blood sugar was so high, and that can make you absolutely BITCHY. Thanks for the post.. Jan C. 3-11-98 RNY PErsonality Changes >From: RAltman813@... > >Hey gang, > >On the Graduate-OSSG list and on our local list (RouxNY) many are writing >about libido changes and self images. How about other changes in personality? >I've noticed (and so has my wife) that I am more short tempered and impatient >than I ever was before the surgery. Things get me upset more easily than >before my WLS (16 months ago). Maybe the fact that I had a near death >experience with my WLS (ruptured artery, 3 weeks on life support not expected >to live, 3 weeks in a nursing home for rehab and 2 months out of work) and >then another major bleeding episode with my hernia repair and tummy tuck 3 >months ago has something to do with it. Also, losing 220 pounds and literally >changing my entire appearance may have something to do with it. I don't know. > I am more concerned abut how I feel and perhaps this is just a natural >self-indulgence that comes with such enormous changes. Sometimes I feel that >I am going through another mid-life crisis. > >I also have a little short term memory loss from the life support (and from >being 55 years old). I get very frustrated and mad when I forget something or >have a problem processing something very simple. It is getting better, but it >is still frustrating. > >I know that I am very impatient and a lot quieter and more serious about >everything than I was before my surgery. I still have a sense of humor. I've >always felt that humor is what got me through all of this. It certainly >wasn't my love of cats (I just thought I'd throw that in for >vitalady[] and El). > >Seriously, has anyone else experienced such changes? > >BobA > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 I'll be anxious to hear if anyone else who had a normal (!) post-op experience notices these changes. ~~~~~~~~ I had a normal post op but I'm not sure I know what 'these changes' are referring to - maybe I missed the earlier email...... I know something is up with me, but I'm not sure what to tell you the truth.... I seem to get really frustrated and overwhelmed at work more often than before - I suspect that part of it is not having food to calm the emotions so I'm boiling over and part of it is the added work of a year long construction project that took an extra 500 hours of my personal time in UNPAID OVERTIME. I do seem to speak my mind more on statewide committees that I am on - not the fat person in the corner staying quiet so no one notices me. I'm certainly more confident because I'm doing more agency publicity and getting out there in the public, meeting and greeting and networking and all. But the frustration and overwhelmed feeling is what keeps coming back to haunt me - I've said it a few times that I need to get a handle on it cause it will kill me yet. of course if you've never done grant writing or worked with victims it is hard to imagine how a client being killed can impact you or how grant " season " when 8 of your 12 federal and state grants are all due within 3 weeks can overwhelm you! anyhow, I'm some different but I just think I'm not suffocating in flesh or food and the body is moving and the emotions are coming out. Sue in Va. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 Hmm. I've been watching this thread and remaining silent. I know, an impossible task for me. But I was thinking that yes, I suppose that I've changed, too. I was always a " busy " person, involved in this and that and a thousand things. Until I was just too ill to do anything. I'd get up, feed the fleet and go back to bed. Now, I think I might be just a TAD less shy & retiring than I was. Except about WLS. In which case, it's much like uncapping a volcano. It isn't wise to say anything unkind about any person who is remotely rounded without having me spring at one's throat. I am certain that I am more likely to speak my mind (or what's left of it) than before. People will actually look me in the eye now and give me the courtesy of their attention. When I was full size, they were just too rude to even pretend that anyone with such character flaws had anything intelligent to say. I never had a very high tolerance for frustration, though, so I can't say that's gotten any better or worse. And, like Bob, I'd have to say that a sense of humor AND the ridiculous got me through the heavy part, as well as the surgery. That, and the love of a good cat, of course. *** Please reply to me at: vitalady@... *** Thanks, www.vitalady.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 Sog, I appreciated your post. Some of the first post-ops I knew said they suddenly had to " cope " as they couldn't eat their way out of their problems. That was eye-opening for me. I hadn't ever thought of it that way before! Thanks for your honesty! *** Please reply to me at: vitalady@... *** Thanks, www.vitalady.com PErsonality Changes > > > > From: RAltman813@... > > > > Hey gang, > > > > On the Graduate-OSSG list and on our local list (RouxNY) many are writing > > about libido changes and self images. How about other changes in personality? > > I've noticed (and so has my wife) that I am more short tempered and impatient > > than I ever was before the surgery. Things get me upset more easily than > > before my WLS (16 months ago). Maybe the fact that I had a near death > > experience with my WLS (ruptured artery, 3 weeks on life support not expected > > to live, 3 weeks in a nursing home for rehab and 2 months out of work) and > > then another major bleeding episode with my hernia repair and tummy tuck 3 > > months ago has something to do with it. Also, losing 220 pounds and literally > > changing my entire appearance may have something to do with it. I don't know. > > I am more concerned abut how I feel and perhaps this is just a natural > > self-indulgence that comes with such enormous changes. Sometimes I feel that > > I am going through another mid-life crisis. > > > > I also have a little short term memory loss from the life support (and from > > being 55 years old). I get very frustrated and mad when I forget something or > > have a problem processing something very simple. It is getting better, but it > > is still frustrating. > > > > I know that I am very impatient and a lot quieter and more serious about > > everything than I was before my surgery. I still have a sense of humor. I've > > always felt that humor is what got me through all of this. It certainly > > wasn't my love of cats (I just thought I'd throw that in for > > vitalady[] and El). > > > > Seriously, has anyone else experienced such changes? > > > > BobA > > > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 15, 2000 Report Share Posted February 15, 2000 Carol, And you know, I think the worse thing about this whole WLS thing is that it happened and now I must GET OLDER while my body gets better. VERY frustrating! *** Please reply to me at: vitalady@... *** Thanks, www.vitalady.com Re: PErsonality Changes > > > Amen Vicki! Amen Bob! > I used to stuff EVERYTHING with food. Since becoming " liberated " , I am more sensitive, etc. Mainly because this is who I really am or so I am discovering. I no longer have to people please and hope that I am liked by one and all. I stand up for myself now and am quick on the comeback if I feel that I am being stepped on or treated wrong. > I guess my husband does think that he is married to an alien. I do hate the forgetful part. That part makes me angry. I have to arrange things in my home and office to configure with my brain capacity. It has to be organized now because if it isn't and I can't find stuff, I panic. When I panic I become touchy and angry. > I try not to get down about it because most people at some point experience some of these changes. I guess it has to do with age and self esteem. I rather have this than to be the " fat and jolly " person I used to be who hated to get up in the morning ruled by my food addiction all day. > Carol > Richmond, VA > > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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