Re: Ebony--therapy decisions and today's drama

[Guest guest]

Tamara,

I am sorry. Do you have a whole house alarm system like fromADT

or something? They can be set to tell you everytime a door or window

is opened. Not just setting off an alarm and you dont have to reset

it all the time. I hope if you do get a visit from SS that it will be

one that could help you with an understanding person. But I hope you

dont get a visit.

Jacquie H

> Well, I had the big meeting today with the senior

> therapist and her supervisor and we decided to finish

> out this month and then do an " interuption of

> services " for two months. At the end of October if I

> want to start back up, they will. But I will get two

> months off. Yay!!

>

> Today's drama.....Ebony got out of the house again

> today. I had brought her naked butt in from

> outside...she had taken off a poopy diaper outside. I

> gave her a bath and got her dressed and put on her

> harness. Then I fed the baby that I sit for. What I

> forgot to do is re-set the alarm. So Ebony took off

> out the door. I had to call the cops....AGAIN. I was

> the only one here and I couldn't leave the other kids

> to go look for her. She was across the street and

> down their alley in someone's backyard...making

> herself at home of course. I just know I will be

> getting a visit from social services. We just had to

> call a couple of weeks ago and we have called twice

> before that. I was shaking so bad. I am just tired

> of this. I feel like I did during labor with her,

> like I just was hanging on by a thread to my sanity

> and if I started screaming I would never be able to

> stop and I would literally go crazy.

>

> I am soooo tired of this happening. I feel like I

> have done everything I can do, but there must be

> something I am missing if she keeps getting out on me.

> I hate this. I really do.

>

> Tamara

>

>

> =====

> Tamara

> mom to :

> Ebony, 4 yrs -- asd, ADHD, bi-polar

> , 1 year

> wife to:

> Terry, love of my life

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Jacqie: I don't know anything about training a dog,

but I would definetely get one if there was such a

thing as a autism dog.... Sara?...here's an idea for a

new business. I would pay good money for something

like that. Seriously, they have dogs trained for

everything else...why doesn't someone do this? There

has got to be a market out there with all the autistic

kids running around.

As far as the deadbolt...yeah...I can't do it with the

daycare and we can't survive without the daycare.

I'll just have to tie a string on my finger and make

sure I remember to set the alarm....AT ALL TIMES.

Thanks,

Tamara

--- The Hunny Family wrote:

> Tamara,

>

> I know NOTHING about this idea, but I was

> wondering...could you get a big

> dog and train it to keep Ebony away from the door?

> Like a service dog, with

> that specific mission? Or train it to bark like

> crazy if Ebony touches the

> door?

>

> OR, you could just do what we've done and install a

> double-keyed deadbolt,

> but that's probably against regulations when you

> have an in-home daycare.

>

> ???

>

> Jacquie

>

>

=====

Tamara

mom to :

Ebony, 4 yrs -- asd, ADHD, bi-polar

, 1 year

wife to:

Terry, love of my life

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

> > I am soooo tired of this happening. I feel like I

> have done everything I can do, but there must be

> something I am missing if she keeps getting out on me.

> I hate this. I really do.>>

Tamara,

Can you fence the front yard...or (what we did), put railing around

the front porch (think pool fencing)? It looks nice, and

stays put because we had it installed so that the latch is on the

outside of the gate.

Raena

[Guest guest]

Tamara, it's not your fault. You have taken so many steps to try to

prevent this from happening. The only way you could stop it is by

following her 24/7 which you know isn't possible. I understand how

you feel because for a while there Mark kept getting out too and I

felt like a dumb *ss when the neighbor came over and said Mark walked

right into there house. You are only one person and can only do so

much! I hope you feel better soon!

Tina W.

[Guest guest]

>>>>>>>>>>I don't know anything about training a dog,

> but I would definetely get one if there was such a

> thing as a autism dog<<<<<<<<<<<<<

I want to think that I heard on a different list that there are dogs

that you can get for autisic children. I will see if I can find

anything on that. ......I looked a little couldn't find anything. I

will look again later when I have a little more time. But I do know

I remember something about that.

Tina W

[Guest guest]

Tamara,

I know NOTHING about this idea, but I was wondering...could you get a big

dog and train it to keep Ebony away from the door? Like a service dog, with

that specific mission? Or train it to bark like crazy if Ebony touches the

door?

OR, you could just do what we've done and install a double-keyed deadbolt,

but that's probably against regulations when you have an in-home daycare.

???

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Oh, Tamara, I don't see why they would call social

services..considering you gave the police a photo and

all of Ebony's info..they know you are trying to keep

her safe. We have to remember to constantly lock the

screen doors...so can't go out by himself..and

it's not easy to remember every time.

I'm glad she is safe.

That's good news about the two month break with

Ebony's therapies! You will have time to decide what

to do next and have some time off from it all.

Hugs,

Mimi

>

>

> > Well, I had the big meeting today with the senior

> > therapist and her supervisor and we decided to

> finish

> > out this month and then do an " interuption of

> > services " for two months. At the end of October

> if I

> > want to start back up, they will. But I will get

> two

> > months off. Yay!!

> >

> > Today's drama.....Ebony got out of the house again

> > today. I had brought her naked butt in from

> > outside...she had taken off a poopy diaper

> outside. I

> > gave her a bath and got her dressed and put on her

> > harness. Then I fed the baby that I sit for.

> What I

> > forgot to do is re-set the alarm. So Ebony took

> off

> > out the door. I had to call the cops....AGAIN. I

> was

> > the only one here and I couldn't leave the other

> kids

> > to go look for her. She was across the street and

> > down their alley in someone's backyard...making

> > herself at home of course. I just know I will be

> > getting a visit from social services. We just had

> to

> > call a couple of weeks ago and we have called

> twice

> > before that. I was shaking so bad. I am just

> tired

> > of this. I feel like I did during labor with her,

> > like I just was hanging on by a thread to my

> sanity

> > and if I started screaming I would never be able

> to

> > stop and I would literally go crazy.

> >

> > I am soooo tired of this happening. I feel like I

> > have done everything I can do, but there must be

> > something I am missing if she keeps getting out on

> me.

> > I hate this. I really do.

> >

> > Tamara

> >

> >

> > =====

> > Tamara

> > mom to :

> > Ebony, 4 yrs -- asd, ADHD, bi-polar

> > , 1 year

> > wife to:

> > Terry, love of my life

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

Oooh! Another good idea! Pool Fencing! Yeah!

Penny

[Guest guest]

Tamara -

{{{{Hugs}}}}

We know you are doing everything you can do! That little girl is just too

clever!!!!

Social Services is just going to have to educate themselves on Autism and

runners...and HOPEFULLY, they will offer you suggestions that maybe you

haven't thought of...

Thinking of you...

Penny :-(

[Guest guest]

Tamara -

If you could afford to put in a whole house system, it might be worth it.

Maybe you could even claim it as an expense against your daycare income!!!

We have a system with ADT and, like Jacquie said, the doors/windows beep

whenever they get opened...

We pay $30/month for monitoring. You can also have your Home Owners

Insurance decreased a bit by having a system.

Good Luck!

Penny