Guest guest Posted July 22, 2003 Report Share Posted July 22, 2003 continue your soul searching & researching, you don't sound ready. life is full of horror stories (childbirth, divorce, lawsuits) but TG, there are courageous people that LIVE LIFE. lori h. > Hi everyone I just found this site and it seems to have alot of > info. on it. I am going to speak to my surgeon tomorrow (Tuesday > 22) and I am about to back out. I have heard so many horror > stories. I hate I ever told anyone about wanting this done. My > daughter (10 yrs.) has heard family memembers telling me about some > scary things you know like I know someone who's brother's wife's > sister's friend etc...you understand what I mean...well how did > anyone who had this surgery done get thru all that I am totally > scared to death! I am 31 (32 in August) BMI of 43. My surgeon does > the open RNY. Any advice out there? Thanks, > Lynn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Hey guys. I’m waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will do it, and the next day I’m thinking of calling and canceling the appointment. I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers at me and say ‘I told you so!’. About never being able to taste a Hershey’s chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and discomfort (if it isn’t too very bad). But will the rest of it be an OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every day MUST for the rest of my life also? I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in another “doom and despair” pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I’m a worrier. There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, “Why did I do this to myself?!!!” I don’t want to be sorry later. This isn’t just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And there is no going back once it is done. I am 55 years old, 5’ 6” and weigh 263. People tell me that I don’t look like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my knees and feet. I can’t walk very far without getting tired. I’ve been on numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I’m sure this sounds very similar to most everyone on this list. I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined-etc. As I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just don’t know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over ‘in a heartbeat’. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don’t know, maybe I just haven’t researched long enough. Thanks guys, Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2003 Report Share Posted July 23, 2003 Remember this lifestyle change for a healthier you! Everyone that post.....its just their experiences and yours will be different from ours and the next ones! Its a commitment! Think of the things you would like to do now and cant? Will the surgery change some of that? Does having that hershey bar really mean that much to you? Weigh your pros and cons........I know you'll do great!~~Vicki~~ > Hey guys. I'm waiting for my first visit with my surgeon (Aug. 15), and I > am getting so nervous about this whole procedure. I have been reading this > egroup for several weeks now trying to get a grasp on what it will be like > just after the surgery, several months after surgery, and years after too. > I saw a couple posts where the person said that they were about to back out > of the whole thing. I bounce back and forth. One day I think that I will > do it, and the next day I'm thinking of calling and canceling the > appointment. > > > > I read about people throwing up every day for months, about not losing > anything for weeks at a time, about having to be obsessed with counting > protein and ounces of water EVERY day, about the inevitable hair loss-- > when this happens, my family and friends will probably shake their fingers > at me and say `I told you so!'. About never being able to taste a > Hershey's chocolate bar again? I can deal with a few days of pain and > discomfort (if it isn't too very bad). But will the rest of it be an > OBSESSION that takes up my waking hours, that I have to figure and plan > each day? Will I just live on protein the rest of my life, very little > vegetables, and give up most all fruit? Will protein shakes be an every > day MUST for the rest of my life also? > > > > I wrote a letter similar to this one a week or so ago, when I was in > another " doom and despair " pit, and got very nice responses that lifted me > up --- for a while. I know that no one can make this decision for me. My > husband is for me 110 percent. He is just great. But I'm a worrier. > There have been so many posts (maybe because I dwell on them) that say, > " Why did I do this to myself?!!! " I don't want to be sorry later. This > isn't just a little diet that I am going to try for a few months til I get > tired of it or til I reach my goal. This is for the rest of my life. And > there is no going back once it is done. > > > > I am 55 years old, 5' 6 " and weigh 263. People tell me that I don't look > like I weigh that much (is this a compliment???), but I am tired of being > uncomfortable. Each day I take 3 hypertension meds, a thyroid pill, a > cholesterol pill, an acid reflux pill, occasional Advil for pain in my > knees and feet. I can't walk very far without getting tired. I've been on > numerous diets the last several years and have lost and regained the same > dadgum 30-40 pounds over and over again. I'm sure this sounds very similar > to most everyone on this list. > > > > I read and read but I just get scared-determined-scared-determined- etc. As > I read back over this letter, it sounds so depressing. Sorry. But I just > don't know what to do. Most of you say that you would do it all over `in a > heartbeat'. I pray for wisdom and guidance. I don't know, maybe I just > haven't researched long enough. > > > > Thanks guys, > > Charlotte > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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