Re: I need to vent

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Pam -

Nobody understands what it's like to want something so badly and not

be able to get it except those who had gone through this. I now know

what is feels like, and I sympathize with you. Sometimes I feel like

putting blinders on, retreating from the world so that there is no

chance of being confronted by things that upset me, but that's no way

of living either. Try to focus on the positive, on the things we do

have, whether it is a good job, or a loving relationship.

a

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a

its so hard to focus on something else. I can;t see anything else

right now. My friend called me before she even went to the dr to

confirm. She knows that I have stopped speaking to another friend

because she is pg. I know she knows I wont talk to her now. It caught

me off guard because she had told me they wanted another child but

wanted to wait until they poured the foundation for their house. I

think because all I have gone through she started to worry about it

taking awhile to get pg. It obviously didn't since she hadn't even

told me they were ttc. At least if I had known I could have started

to prepare myself.

Pam

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Hi Pam,

Sometimes it feels like the whole world is getting pg apart from me, with me

it's not so much friends, but everytime I open a magazine it seems full of

pg women. But it will end, one way or another you will have a baby and be

the best Mummy,or should I say Mommy!!!

I need to vent

> Well my dh just told me that when I was out yesterday one of my good

> friends called to say she was pg. I am not going to have any friends

> left. It just isn't fair!!Whether I do IVF or adoption it just isn't

> fast enough. I knew my friend wanted another child but she said they

> were going to wait awhile. She got pg w/her first kid by accident. So

> I am sure she got pg quickly again. I just can;t take this. Is it

> ever going to end.

> Pam

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Tina

I can totally understand why you are upset. It doesn't seem fair how

someone can get pg on their first try and we can try a thousand times

and look at our results. Its so depressing. Hang in there. Your turn

will come. Its just much harder for us. If you need to cry, cry.

Pam

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Tina,

My sympathies are wih you. I just had my third ectopic on

11/25/00 and found out my sil is pg with her third. Her due date

is what mine was! Not to mention that this week (Dec,2nd) is the

edd for my last ep earlier this year. It is okay to be angry and

upset, they are perfectly natural. You said your sister was very

supportive during your last loss...I am sure she will understand

that you are happy for her but at the same time it hurts you as

well. Hang in there.

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I wanted to say i'm sorry for your loss.Are you doing okay?Also,thanks for

the advice.I'm trying to keep my head on about this.It just feels good to

let it all out.I'm glad I have you all to talk to.

Tina

>From: .Dewan@...

>Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>Subject: Re: I need to VENT

>Date: Fri, 01 Dec 2000 14:08:37 -0000

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>Tina,

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>My sympathies are wih you. I just had my third ectopic on

>11/25/00 and found out my sil is pg with her third. Her due date

>is what mine was! Not to mention that this week (Dec,2nd) is the

>edd for my last ep earlier this year. It is okay to be angry and

>upset, they are perfectly natural. You said your sister was very

>supportive during your last loss...I am sure she will understand

>that you are happy for her but at the same time it hurts you as

>well. Hang in there.

>

>-

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi Tina,

After you experience an ep or miscarriage, it's very

natural to feel upset when you see others getting

pregnant so easily. When I get stuck in that rut, I

try to think about it rationally and maturely. For

example, it's really not your sister's fault that she

became pg easily, and it's also not her fault that you

had a loss either. However, if she acts insensitive

or hurtful towards your loss, that's another story. I

have a ton of close friends that are pg right now, and

I try like hell to be happy for them.

It'll get easier with time.

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Pam

I sometimes forget that alot of women are going the same thing I am.I just

get so depressed sometimes.I really appreciate that this group is so

great.Thanks for the advice.

Tina

>From: giguerepw@...

>Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>Subject: Re: I need to VENT

>Date: Fri, 01 Dec 2000 12:28:51 -0000

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>Tina

>

>I can totally understand why you are upset. It doesn't seem fair how

>someone can get pg on their first try and we can try a thousand times

>and look at our results. Its so depressing. Hang in there. Your turn

>will come. Its just much harder for us. If you need to cry, cry.

>

>Pam

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