Nada's Birthday Update! The gift that keeps on giving...

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She never fails to deliver!!!

Drama that is....

The " normal " stuff - employment, housing, food, money... all those are tossed on

the fire of her whims.... but Drama? She's GOLDEN!

Here's how it played out:

Nada comes to town 4 days " late " (Sat instead of Tues) after saying all week

she's coming cause she has " friends " and it doesn't matter that I'm not

availalbe to amuse her... she'll go " hang out " with THEM... However, when she

gets here, she still whines that it's not much fun " sitting alone at dad's while

everyone else is busy... " So she went shopping alone. So... I resisted the urge

to say, " What about your friends? " Gold star for me!

We go over to dad's on Sun (her Bday.) Things are weird, tense and off...

nothing I'm not fully used to by now, only difference is I fight the urge to

" care and fix it. " She's asking me Q's about what I'm doing. I share, safely.

In the middle of a response, she says, " You know... I expect EQUAL TIME or I'm

not listening. " I laughed. Didn't say anything. She said, " I knew that would

get you to quit talking. You can never listen to anyone elses stuff... " I just

looked at her and saw the " I'm crazy " bubble forming above her head.

We ate dinner. It was akward but, " whatever... "

After dinner she said in a hushed tone... " I want 10 minutes of YOUR attention

on MY birthday... " I said, " sure. " She said, " In the bedroom, alone.... " I

said, " no. Let's keep it out here.... " She started to bully me and I thought,

" oh what the h... " So I went in the bedroom with her but kept the door open

(she was NOT happy.) So she takes out these pictures of her match.com guy from

30 years ago... " he told me he loves me last week. Isn't that WONDERFUL????

Looks, he's just LIKE ME... I knew we were meant for eachother.... " She's going

on and one... my dad comes by and looks in... (remember, he gives her $$$ and

pays her cell,insurance,gas bills because he has a decent bone and he's trying

to keep her out of my hair while I finish my E.D.) She tosses a pillow on the

pictures and tells him to get out cause this is private " girl talk. " Well,

after he leaves, I say, " This is fine and dandy and I'm happy that you're happy

but I've asked you before and I'll say it again - don't expect me to keep your

secrets with regard to these lies. You are keeping this man from dad's

awareness because you know he'll stop giving you $$$... asking me to be a part

of it is not something I'm comfortable with and I've told you that. " Her

response, " Whatever!!! You're so selfish! You can't EVER be happy for me.... "

I went in the other room. She followed shortly. Gave her a fabulous bday

present I made and we left 10 minutes later.

Happy Bday, Nada!

So glad I have a therapy appt next week.

Lynnette