Why do we self- sabotage???

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I have a separate group I go to deal with the verbal abuse issues with my

husband. It seems as those I get healthier with one relationship, and the other

relationship has moments that make me struggle. I know it is alot having a Bp

mother and an abusive husband.

I still do not understand why I a rational and intelligent woman with an

understanding of abuse and its effect- remain with a verbally abusive mother. I

am so tired of being afraid to leave and worried about the uncertainty. I want

to fall back on me and be strong for me, and I will go so far and then I want to

say I self sabotage me and retreat.

Anyone else know or understand why we can self-sabotage? Any insights?

Malinda