Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 TINA, I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, I HAD MY EP IN MARCH OF 2000, RIGHT AFTER I CAME TO WORK FULL-TIME, ONE OF MY EMPLOYEES, TOLD ME SHE WAS 6 WEEKS PG. IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME TO DEAL WITH AND SHE EVENTUALLY QUIT IN JUNE. AFTER SHE LEFT I WAS ABLE TO PULL MYSELF BACK TOGETHER AND SHE CAME BACK TO WORK IN JULY. SHE IS NOW 7MTHS AND HUGE AS A HOUSE, AND WE LAUGH AND TALK ABOUT IT. SOMETIMES I WILL EVEN WALK OVER TO HER JUST TO SEE WHERE THE LITTLE GUY IS. SO HANG IN THERE, IT GETS EASIER, BUT YOU MAY WANT TO DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM YOUR FRIEND FOR AWHILE. YOU'VE FOUND A GREAT GROUP, THEY'VE HELPED ME ALREADY. LORI P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina, I am so sorry for your loss. But you have come to the right place for support. There are a lot of ladies here w/ a ton of info. So ask any questions you may have. I will keep you in my prayers. Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tine, I had my EP in July, and like you I thought I had my period but it was lighter than normal, when it lasted longer than normal I went to the doctor who did a pg test and told me it was +++ I was very excited only to be devastated 2 days later when I found out it was ectopic. It was in my right tube as well. Welcome to the group. You'll find more understanding and compassion than you could ever imagine. Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina Welcome to the group. I'm, sorry its under these circumstances. Having and ep is emotionally devastating. I think you will find the support here that you need. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Dear Tina, I am so sorry for your loss. This group is great and I hope it can be of some comfort to you. As far as your friend goes, maybe you can tell her about your loss and if she could keep things quiet around you for awhile. I am sure she will understand and in the long run it might help her to be sensitive with others she may encounter dealing with a loss. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina, This is a again I forgot something sorry. Some times people don't understand unless they have been where we are I have lost one friend and almost lost my very best friend over this. First my best friend called when I told her I would call when I felt up to talking and was just going on about her life like nothing happened to me. I finally got a chance to get a word in and I told her I just wasn't ready to talk yet. She then said well I thought you would be ok by now it has been a week. I said no it's been 4 days and I don't know anyone that's ok 4 days after losing a child. The other friend had miscarried 6 months before then found out she was PG again the same time as me. I was and still am happy for her. The thing that blew me away was at a school function a week after the EP that i had to go to she cornered me to go on about how her PG was going great they saw the baby's heart beat and even told me the beats per min. I felt this was very rude!!!! I really don't want anything to do with her anymore. I am very happy for her of course!!!! Well, I just thought I would share. If this friend is a good one you should be able to tell her right now you really can't be of much support to her. Hopefully she will understand. Again sorry this is so long !!! Take care and God bless~~ shawna Re: Upset and Hurt Dear Tina, I am so sorry for your loss. This group is great and I hope it can be of some comfort to you. As far as your friend goes, maybe you can tell her about your loss and if she could keep things quiet around you for awhile. I am sure she will understand and in the long run it might help her to be sensitive with others she may encounter dealing with a loss. Take care, eGroups Sponsor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is very therapeutic to tell your story, especially to other people who understand what you're going through. I had surgery on 9/29 and just joined this group a week or so ago and it has helped me already. Everyone is really wonderful. They're extremely supportive and very knowledgable. So if you have questions, ask and I'm sure someone will answer. I will be praying for you. -Amy R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 hi we are all here to listen and help if we can, sometimes the best thing to help you get thru this is to talk about it. i had my ep in june and lost my left tube. everyday it get easier to handle things it just takes time. jeanette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Lori, I just wanted to say " thank you " .It's good to know other people know how I feel and I can actually talk to people about it. Tina >From: JONES50@... >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2000 14:04:05 EST > >TINA, >I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, I HAD MY EP IN MARCH OF 2000, RIGHT AFTER I CAME TO >WORK >FULL-TIME, ONE OF MY EMPLOYEES, TOLD ME SHE WAS 6 WEEKS PG. IT WAS VERY >HARD >FOR ME TO DEAL WITH AND SHE EVENTUALLY QUIT IN JUNE. AFTER SHE LEFT I WAS >ABLE TO PULL MYSELF BACK TOGETHER AND SHE CAME BACK TO WORK IN JULY. SHE >IS >NOW 7MTHS AND HUGE AS A HOUSE, AND WE LAUGH AND TALK ABOUT IT. SOMETIMES I >WILL EVEN WALK OVER TO HER JUST TO SEE WHERE THE LITTLE GUY IS. SO HANG IN >THERE, IT GETS EASIER, BUT YOU MAY WANT TO DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM YOUR >FRIEND >FOR AWHILE. YOU'VE FOUND A GREAT GROUP, THEY'VE HELPED ME ALREADY. >LORI P. _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tara, Thank you for email.I already feel a little better. Tina > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: " 'ectopicpregnancyegroups' " <ectopicpregnancyegroups> >Subject: RE: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2000 14:11:06 -0500 > >Tina, > >I am so sorry for your loss. But you have come to the right place for >support. There are a lot of ladies here w/ a ton of info. So ask any >questions you may have. I will keep you in my prayers. > >Tara > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Pam, Thank you that's very nice.I think it's great that everyone's so nice. Tina >From: giguerepw@... >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 19:35:04 -0000 > >Tina > >Welcome to the group. I'm, sorry its under these circumstances. >Having and ep is emotionally devastating. I think you will find the >support here that you need. > >Pam > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 , I think you're right.This group is great.Everyone seems to be so positive.It has definitely lifted my spirits.Thanks for the advice about my friend. Tina > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 19:49:34 -0000 > >Dear Tina, > >I am so sorry for your loss. This group is great and I hope it can >be of some comfort to you. > >As far as your friend goes, maybe you can tell her about your loss >and if she could keep things quiet around you for awhile. I am sure >she will understand and in the long run it might help her to be >sensitive with others she may encounter dealing with a loss. > >Take care, > > > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina, We all know your pain and frustration. Losing a baby is so painful. Ithis group is a great place for support. We will help you through this. (((HUGS))) Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Tina, I so sorry you are hurting so much right now, but with time things will get better. The good news is that you have found a wonderful group of women who can completely understand what you are going through. And we will be support you through it all. I remember very well how much it hurt me to see pg women or to find out someone else was pg after my loss. It's just a sad reminder of what I had gone through and what would never be. With time it will be easier. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love & hugs, Jo-Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2000 Report Share Posted November 2, 2000 Hi Tina, I just wanted to say first of all that you will feel better, it just might take some time. It's hard to lose your baby and some friends aren't as sensitive to that as they should be. I had a friend call me 3 weeks after my ectopic and tell me that she was pregnant. Her husband wanted her to wait until they saw the u/s and heartbeat to tell people, but she said she knew she was normal, so she called the day she took a + test. People just don't always understand your feelings. I cried an awful lot after that conversation, and sometimes I still do, but it does get easier! I hope and pray that you feel better soon, but take your time dealing with your grief. Take care, Dominique ______________________________________________________________________ ___ > Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. > > Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at > http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 a, Thank you so much for your story.You had your ep right around the same time I had mine.At first I thought I should be over this but i'm glad to see i'm not " crazy " .I love my husband so much but he doesn't understand why i'm still upset about it.I told him it must be a woman thing because I just can't get it out of my mind somedays.I really enjoy talking to you perhaps we can email each other one on one.I live in Arlington,Texas.My email address is: fanetta@... Thanks for your help,please email me anytime. p.s.-I have an angel that my husband and his mother bought for me while I was in the hospital.I hung it for a rack in my room and on the tag in the back I wrote, " In loving memory of my little angel,10-17-00 " > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: <ectopicpregnancyegroups> >Subject: Re: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2000 12:57:17 -0700 > >Tina, > This is a again I forgot something sorry. Some >times people don't understand unless they have been where we are I have >lost one friend and almost lost my very best friend over this. First my >best friend called when I told her I would call when I felt up to talking >and was just going on about her life like nothing happened to me. I finally >got a chance to get a word in and I told her I just wasn't ready to talk >yet. She then said well I thought you would be ok by now it has been a >week. I said no it's been 4 days and I don't know anyone that's ok 4 days >after losing a child. The other friend had miscarried 6 months before then >found out she was PG again the same time as me. I was and still am happy >for her. The thing that blew me away was at a school function a week after >the EP that i had to go to she cornered me to go on about how her PG was >going great they saw the baby's heart beat and even told me the beats per >min. I felt this was very rude!!!! I really don't want anything to do with >her anymore. I am very happy for her of course!!!! Well, I just thought I >would share. If this friend is a good one you should be able to tell her >right now you really can't be of much support to her. Hopefully she will >understand. Again sorry this is so long !!! Take care and God bless~~ >shawna > Re: Upset and Hurt > > > Dear Tina, > > I am so sorry for your loss. This group is great and I hope it can > be of some comfort to you. > > As far as your friend goes, maybe you can tell her about your loss > and if she could keep things quiet around you for awhile. I am sure > she will understand and in the long run it might help her to be > sensitive with others she may encounter dealing with a loss. > > Take care, > > > > > eGroups Sponsor > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 I forgot to put my name on that email. Tina > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: <ectopicpregnancyegroups> >Subject: Re: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2000 12:57:17 -0700 > >Tina, > This is a again I forgot something sorry. Some >times people don't understand unless they have been where we are I have >lost one friend and almost lost my very best friend over this. First my >best friend called when I told her I would call when I felt up to talking >and was just going on about her life like nothing happened to me. I finally >got a chance to get a word in and I told her I just wasn't ready to talk >yet. She then said well I thought you would be ok by now it has been a >week. I said no it's been 4 days and I don't know anyone that's ok 4 days >after losing a child. The other friend had miscarried 6 months before then >found out she was PG again the same time as me. I was and still am happy >for her. The thing that blew me away was at a school function a week after >the EP that i had to go to she cornered me to go on about how her PG was >going great they saw the baby's heart beat and even told me the beats per >min. I felt this was very rude!!!! I really don't want anything to do with >her anymore. I am very happy for her of course!!!! Well, I just thought I >would share. If this friend is a good one you should be able to tell her >right now you really can't be of much support to her. Hopefully she will >understand. Again sorry this is so long !!! Take care and God bless~~ >shawna > Re: Upset and Hurt > > > Dear Tina, > > I am so sorry for your loss. This group is great and I hope it can > be of some comfort to you. > > As far as your friend goes, maybe you can tell her about your loss > and if she could keep things quiet around you for awhile. I am sure > she will understand and in the long run it might help her to be > sensitive with others she may encounter dealing with a loss. > > Take care, > > > > > eGroups Sponsor > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Thanks Kim I already feel alot better. Tina > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: <ectopicpregnancyegroups> >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 2 Nov 2000 14:48:59 -0800 > >Tina, > We all know your pain and frustration. Losing a baby is so painful. >Ithis group is a great place for support. We will help you through this. >(((HUGS))) Kim > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Amy, I already feel 10x's better.Everyone is great and just telling my story made my chest feel alot lighter.I just wish I had found it a couple of weeks ago when I thought I would never stop crying. Thanks again, Tina >From: amrichey@... >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 21:07:04 -0000 > >Tina, > >I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is very therapeutic >to tell your story, especially to other people who understand what >you're going through. I had surgery on 9/29 and just joined this >group a week or so ago and it has helped me already. Everyone is >really wonderful. They're extremely supportive and very >knowledgable. So if you have questions, ask and I'm sure someone >will answer. I will be praying for you. > >-Amy R > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Jo-Ann, Thanks for the email.I know that time heals all wounds and that this is just sometime that will take time. Tina > >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 18:26:57 -0500 > >Tina, > >I so sorry you are hurting so much right now, but with time things will >get better. The good news is that you have found a wonderful group of >women who can completely understand what you are going through. And we >will be support you through it all. I remember very well how much it >hurt me to see pg women or to find out someone else was pg after my >loss. It's just a sad reminder of what I had gone through and what >would never be. With time it will be easier. > >You are in my thoughts and prayers. > >Love & hugs, >Jo-Ann _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Dominique, Just joining this group has helped already.It makes me feel like i'm not going through this alone.Everyone is great.Thanks!!! Tina >From: dkcarlton@... >Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >To: ectopicpregnancyegroups >Subject: Re: Upset and Hurt >Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2000 23:52:07 -0000 > >Hi Tina, > >I just wanted to say first of all that you will feel better, it just >might take some time. It's hard to lose your baby and some friends >aren't as sensitive to that as they should be. I had a friend call me >3 weeks after my ectopic and tell me that she was pregnant. Her >husband wanted her to wait until they saw the u/s and heartbeat to >tell people, but she said she knew she was normal, so she called the >day she took a + test. People just don't always understand your >feelings. I cried an awful lot after that conversation, and sometimes >I still do, but it does get easier! I hope and pray that you feel >better soon, but take your time dealing with your grief. Take care, > >Dominique >______________________________________________________________________ >___ > > Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at >http://www.hotmail.com. > > > > Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at > > http://profiles.msn.com. > _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Sorry to butt in, but I saw your message to a...You're not alone, my dp doesn't really understand what I'm feeling either. I'm starting to have a lot more good days than bad ones, but when I do have a bad one it seems to completely surprise him that I'm still very sad. He's been great to me though, he doesn't push me or anything and he freely admits he has no idea what I'm feeling. It's strange, but it's kind of nice he says that. I think he's the only person who has done that. Everyone else trys to sympathize with me, but they have no idea. -Amy R Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2000 Report Share Posted November 3, 2000 Amy R My dh said the same thing. The bad thing about it is he thinks I shouldn't be as upset as I am because he can't understand what I am feeling. He has gotten a lot more sensative to my feelings. Especially when he knows a situation is going to upset me. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2000 Report Share Posted November 7, 2000 Tina, Wanted to say welcome and so sorry you had to find this fine group of women. As I'm sure you are becoming aware they are very special and willing to answer any question thrown out at them or support you any way you wish. I hope you find what you are looking for here. Take care and just handle one day at a time. Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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