Re: OMG!!! A small bit of validation!!!

August 20, 2009

Wonder if your nada focussed her attentions on her sister and now she gets it.

>

> Hey Aunt L,

>

> I hope this email finds you, it was the only one I remember that you had. I

know you had others, but could not find them.

> I just wanted to tell you that I miss you, and that I think of you a lot. I

also wonder how G is doing. He must be huge by now. My sister told me a while

back that you are working for the govt again, and I wonder where you are. It

would be so nice to hear from you.

> I hope you're doing well....I'm doing pretty good, and still in KY.

>

> Hope to hear back from you soon. Love, Sara Jo

>

> And here is the email response I got this morning:

>

> Dear Sara Jo,

> You can't even imagine how glad I was to hear from you! I miss you and your

sister and your mom so much! You're right, is getting huge and has an

ornery streak and sweetness that reminds me of you so much when you were a

little girl. He is going to have a baby brother in a couple of months. At least

we are pretty sure it's a boy.

> I started working for the govt again last June and had a deployment in

Bridgeport of all places. Then went to TX for 3 months. Uncle B is now on his

first deployment and we are in WV. We arent's too far away from each other, are

we? We will only be here for a couple more weeks, maybe we can meet?

> Listen, between all the every day disfunction of our family, something has

weighed terribly on my mind. I owe you a huge apology. I should never have

asked you to send those trumpets back to me. It was a cold and thoughtless

thing to do, especially since I don't even play them. I hope you will forgive

me. I think about it often and believe me, it wasn't one of my better moves.

> I have heard about you some over the years, and my congratulatins are very

late about your marriage and your buying a house. I am very proud of you and I

hope things just keep getting better for you. Both you and your sister deserve

the best.

> I know there is so much more to say, but I won't over do it this time.

> Please keep in touch. If there is anything you ever need, please let me know.

> Take care,

>

> Love,

>

> Lori Jo

>

> This is the first time a family member has ever apologized for me about

anything. Maybe my persecution is over. This email made my day.

>

> Thanks, Sara Jo

>

August 20, 2009

Sara Jo,

That's wonderful! Sometimes mentally healthy people do see the

error of their ways, unlike our nadas who mostly can't admit to

ever having made mistakes.

At 01:13 PM 08/20/2009 love_the_music2000 wrote:

>So two years ago, when I started seperating from NADA,

>everything was turned upside down. Nada had turned the whole

>side of the

>family against me and it was really tough to go through it.

>My aunt made me send her trumpets back to her that she had

>given me years before. She wrote me a cold and nasty letter

>requesting me to send them back, I guess because she was mad

>about me because of nada, or whatever. It broke my heart in

>half. We used to be close. But I send them back anyway and

>moved on with my life.

>

>For some reason, last night, I decided to make contact with

>this aunt. I don't know why, but I just felt safe doing it,

>even though I am normally scared to death about stuff like

>that. But here is what I wrote:

>

>Hey Aunt L,

>

>I hope this email finds you, it was the only one I remember

>that you had. I know you had others, but could not find them.

>I just wanted to tell you that I miss you, and that I think of

>you a lot. I also wonder how G is doing. He must be huge by

>now. My sister told me a while back that you are working for

>the govt again, and I wonder where you are. It would be so nice

>to hear from you.

>I hope you're doing well....I'm doing pretty good, and still in

>KY.

>

>Hope to hear back from you soon. Love, Sara Jo

>

>And here is the email response I got this morning:

>

>Dear Sara Jo,

>You can't even imagine how glad I was to hear from you! I miss

>you and your sister and your mom so much! You're right,

> is getting huge and has an ornery streak and sweetness

>that reminds me of you so much when you were a little girl. He

>is going to have a baby brother in a couple of months. At

>least we are pretty sure it's a boy.

>I started working for the govt again last June and had a

>deployment in Bridgeport of all places. Then went to TX for 3

>months. Uncle B is now on his first deployment and we are in

>WV. We arent's too far away from each other, are we? We will

>only be here for a couple more weeks, maybe we can meet?

>Listen, between all the every day disfunction of our family,

>something has weighed terribly on my mind. I owe you a huge

>apology. I should never have asked you to send those trumpets

>back to me. It was a cold and thoughtless thing to do,

>especially since I don't even play them. I hope you will

>forgive me. I think about it often and believe me, it wasn't

>one of my better moves.

>I have heard about you some over the years, and my

>congratulatins are very late about your marriage and your

>buying a house. I am very proud of you and I hope things just

>keep getting better for you. Both you and your sister deserve

>the best.

>I know there is so much more to say, but I won't over do it

>this time.

>Please keep in touch. If there is anything you ever need,

>please let me know.

>Take care,

>

>Love,

>

>Lori Jo

>

>This is the first time a family member has ever apologized for

>me about anything. Maybe my persecution is over. This email

>made my day.

>

>Thanks, Sara Jo

--

Katrina

August 20, 2009

what a sweet letter your aunt sent you !! I am so happy for you, and so

glad she mentioned the trumpets, as she's right, she should never have asked

for them back....it looks like your extended family has seen the light :-)

Jackie

So two years ago, when I started seperating from NADA, everything was turned

upside down. Nada had turned the whole side of the family against me and it

was really tough to go through it.

My aunt made me send her trumpets back to her that she had given me years

before. She wrote me a cold and nasty letter requesting me to send them

back, I guess because she was mad about me because of nada, or whatever. It

broke my heart in half. We used to be close. But I send them back anyway and

moved on with my life.

For some reason, last night, I decided to make contact with this aunt. I

don't know why, but I just felt safe doing it, even though I am normally

scared to death about stuff like that. But here is what I wrote:

Hey Aunt L,

I hope this email finds you, it was the only one I remember that you had. I

know you had others, but could not find them.

I just wanted to tell you that I miss you, and that I think of you a lot. I

also wonder how G is doing. He must be huge by now. My sister told me a

while back that you are working for the govt again, and I wonder where you

are. It would be so nice to hear from you.

I hope you're doing well....I'm doing pretty good, and still in KY.

Hope to hear back from you soon. Love, Sara Jo

And here is the email response I got this morning:

Dear Sara Jo,

You can't even imagine how glad I was to hear from you! I miss you and your

sister and your mom so much! You're right, is getting huge and has

an ornery streak and sweetness that reminds me of you so much when you were

a little girl. He is going to have a baby brother in a couple of months. At

least we are pretty sure it's a boy.

I started working for the govt again last June and had a deployment in

Bridgeport of all places. Then went to TX for 3 months. Uncle B is now on

his first deployment and we are in WV. We arent's too far away from each

other, are we? We will only be here for a couple more weeks, maybe we can

meet?

Listen, between all the every day disfunction of our family, something has

weighed terribly on my mind. I owe you a huge apology. I should never have

asked you to send those trumpets back to me. It was a cold and thoughtless

thing to do, especially since I don't even play them. I hope you will

forgive me. I think about it often and believe me, it wasn't one of my

better moves.

I have heard about you some over the years, and my congratulatins are very

late about your marriage and your buying a house. I am very proud of you

and I hope things just keep getting better for you. Both you and your

sister deserve the best.

I know there is so much more to say, but I won't over do it this time.

Please keep in touch. If there is anything you ever need, please let me

know.

Take care,

Love,

Lori Jo

This is the first time a family member has ever apologized for me about

anything. Maybe my persecution is over. This email made my day.

Thanks, Sara Jo

August 20, 2009

I'm so happy to hear that! Keep listening to your instincts!