Re: OT-I DID IT!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Well, you had the name right, just the wrong face!

Sue

[Guest guest]

> Good for you Tina W.!!!! I hope everyone will get their act

together

> for Grandpa's sake!

Thanks, me too. My mom is insisting on calling my aunt and saying

that my aunt and uncle and my mom and step-dad need to get together

and talk things out. I told her to just leave it alone because bring

up the past will only cause the anger all over again. It's really

between the four of them that started this whole mess anyway. I told

her to just leave it be and start from fresh. It doesn't mean she

needs to forgot but she can't keep bringing it up because no one can

go back and change all the things that have happened and that have

been said.

I called my grandma because my mom still insists on calling my aunt,

and this will ruin everything. My mom still has to much anger and

she is not willing to let it go. My grandma agrees with me and

thinks she should leave it alone, and just see what happens at

thanksgiving. If my grandpa can even go. He is so weak he had to

cancel plans they had today. So my grandma is going to call my mom

today and try to get through to her on this, but I don't think it

will work.

My mom is so self-centered it's unbelievable. She thinks the world

revolves around her. Some of the things she said to me last night

really hurt because she was pretty much telling me I mean nothing and

I'm a nobody. But maybe I'll post about this later if I fell up to

it. I don't know yet. I don't want you guys to get sick of hearing

about it.

Tina W.

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WTG Tina! I hope your mom comes around.

Tuna

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Tina,

I really hate to say this but you need to put some distance between you and

your mom. She has no right to tell you things to make you feel bad about

yourself. You're a great mom and you're looking out for your child's best

interests, and there's nothing she can say to change that.

Sue

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My mom is so self-centered it's unbelievable. She thinks the world

> revolves around her. Some of the things she said to me last night

> really hurt because she was pretty much telling me I mean nothing and

> I'm a nobody. But maybe I'll post about this later if I fell up to

> it. I don't know yet. I don't want you guys to get sick of hearing

> about it.

> Tina W.

[Guest guest]

> Tina,

> I really hate to say this but you need to put some distance between

you and

> your mom. She has no right to tell you things to make you feel bad

about

> yourself. You're a great mom and you're looking out for your

child's best

> interests, and there's nothing she can say to change that.

> Sue

Your right, and I liked it better off when it was that way!! But we

are on talking terms because of my grandpa. Now she keeps reminding

me why I like it better to not talk with her. She wasn't really

saying anything about my parenting this time though.

I was talking to my mom about how my brother wants to buy some of my

grandparents land to build a house on some day. It's two fields and

a woods. The woods is a big family thing. We always were in there

as kids. I told my mom how I think it would be a good idea for him

to have the one field and me the other (to put a house on) and then

share the woods. My mom told me that my brother deserves it more

because he is the boy in the family. Then she continued by saying

that my brother should have it all instead of me getting any because

when my grandpa dies it will be harder for him to deal with because

he has never had to deal with anyone dieing before.

I pointed out that I haven't either. So she said that I'll be able

to deal with it better because I'm older, and he has more rights to

the woods than I do. (Thanks for making me feel like shit in the

dirt.)

Then she made some commment on how my aunt was probably waiting for

her (my mom) to call. And how it would have been better for her to

call my aunt instead of me. (pound me in the dirt some more) This is

where the self-centered part comes in because everything revolves

around her.

She made a few more comments on how she is the important one. And

this and that. yada yada yada.

I brought up on how she shouldn't talk to my x. She has been lately

telling him about everything in my family. Then my x calls me up and

tries to use everything against me. So I told her he has no business

knowing anything in our lives. He is not part of our family

anymore. The reason I said this was because when she told him about

my grandpa, my x called me and made fun of the fact that he is

dieing. But I exspected that because when a friend of mine found out

she had luekemia he said " Good, I hope she dies " . I told my mom that

he made fun of the fact that he had cancer. She didn't believe me

because he's been really decent to them when he comes in the bar.

So the way I see it....fine, have him as your f*cking family and talk

to him because the only way I'm going to communicate with you is over

the phone. Of course I didn't tell her this but I wanted to.

Tina W.

[Guest guest]

Your ex sounds like a real prize now a days. What a jerk. Your mom is

something else! I'm glad at least you and your brother are close.

Sue>

[Guest guest]

Congrats Tina ...I hope you have a peaceful holiday with all of your

family....

Amy mom to Noah 6 Lucas 8 ASD's

>

> Tina wrote:

>

> > Well guys, it took a lot of guts, and I was scared to death but I

did

> > it. I called my aunt and uncle to see about getting together for

> > thanksgiving. My uncle wasn't home so I talked to my aunt. SHe

said

> > YES!!! I am so happy. And she was really nice about it which

really

> > shocked me but that's definetly a good thing!!!!! She said only

if

> > it was at her house and I figured I'll take what I can get. So

that

> > is the good news.

> > I was so happy I had to tell someone-so I called my mom to let her

> > know what was going on. Now I figured my aunt would be the hard

to

> > to talk into this, I was wrong. When I told my mom all she could

say

> > was thanksgiving is a hard one for her because they will be so

busy

> > with the bar. That pissed me off. What's more important? A damn

> > bar or family, especially since this will be my grandpas last

holiday

> > season. And I told her that I think she can figure something out

> > considering the situation. If anything she can close the darn

bar.

> > Then all she did was bitch about my aunt and uncle, even after I

told

> > her how nice my aunt was to me. So I'm taking back that my aunt

is a

> > bitch and I'm reasigning it to my mom.

> > When bitch (my mom) kept complaining about my aunt and uncle I

told

> > her that she won't be able to have that attitude when we all get

> > together. She is going to have to set her anger aside and make

the

> > best of it. And who knows maybe this will become a regular thing

> > agian, and we will get together all the time for holidays. That's

> > what I'm hoping for but I shouldn't get my hope's up especially

with

> > my mom and her husband. I can see them screwing this all up for

me.

> > Well anyway, that's how it went and I'm happy it was this easy to

> > talk my aunt into. Now if my mom would only get her head out of

her

> > ass!!!!!

> > Tina W.

[Guest guest]

> So the way I see it....fine, have him as your f*cking family and

talk to him because the only way I'm going to communicate with you is

over the phone. Of course I didn't tell her this but I wanted to.

> Tina W.

Tina,

She sounds a lot like my parents. All I have ever heard about from

the time I was little was " why can't you be like your sister? " . My

brother is 9 years younger than me and from the time he was born, I

ceased to exist except as a verbal punching bag and as child labor. I

don't talk to my parents except when I have to. We keep it civil or

my mother goes off the deep end...I'm stressing her too much and her

heart can't take it. (she's had angioplasty (spell???) a few years

ago.)

Anyway, I keep my distance, tune them out when they're going on and

on and on about how wonderful my good for nothing brother is, and

keep reminding myself:

You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

Tina

[Guest guest]

> Anyway, I keep my distance, tune them out when they're going on and

> on and on about how wonderful my good for nothing brother is, and

> keep reminding myself:

>

> You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.

>

That's exactely it!!! I wouldn't talk to her at all if I knew it

wouldn't bother my grandparents so much. Especially with everything

going on. I'm going to only talk to her when I have to. I will keep

it civil and bite my tough even though that's really hard for me.

That must be the woelfel blood in me, we can't keep our mouths shut--

we say what we think even when it pisses people off!

Tina W.

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>

> That must be the woelfel blood in me, we can't keep our mouths shut-

-

> we say what we think even when it pisses people off!

> Tina W.

I can sympathize. My mother lives to bitch. I've always said if she

couldn't complain, she'd probably explode. As a result, I've learned

that ignoring her irrates her far worse than anything I can say. >:]

(very, very evil grin.)

Tina