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November 21, 1999

Jan, don't beat yourself up! Holy moly! We coudn't eat this way before

surgery! REALLY! How would you ever feel satisfied on half a burger & 3 fries?

That's not enough FOOD! And, even though I know you are proximal, that little

bit of bypass IS cutting out some of your calories, fats & protein. That's the

main loss when the food doesn't pass through the duodenum. And even proximals

get some loss there. So, you are still not getting 100% of the calories you eat,

unless they are milk or sugar calories.

For my distal, I always figure I get 150% of sugar (milk) and 25% of anything

good. Seems to have worked, in retrospect.

But don't EVEN think we could've lived the post-op life, pre-op. Remember,

morbid obesity is NOT a character flaw. It is a genuine physical illness that

manifest itself dozens of ways. We don't burn calories, we store 'em, so even

if we ate only 600 cal/day, we'd be gaining! And we don't feel full " in time " ,

since we have no stopper. EVERY meal was Tgvg dinner for us, followed by

regret, misery and wondering how we could be so stupid. But it's not a

character flaw. REALLY.

I mean, read the posts here. How many STUPID people do you see here? Not so

many, right? I mean, there are some pretty with it folks talking with us here.

These are not flawed or ignorant doofusses. These are intelligent, sometimes

well-paid, and certainly witty folks we got here. AND many are deeply caring

individuals, too. Proof there is no character flaw in my book.

While I do agree that some DO have " food issues " , I tend to think that they may

often times be a RESULT of our disease, rather than the cause of. I know they

were pulling food off my plate long before I was old enough to be making food

choices, good or bad. and that has ramifications. And so on. We could all tell

stories.

But please, do not beat your self so viciously. You do NOT deserve that kind of

treatment! NONE of is perfect, about food or any other area, but we are not as

nasty and gross as the general public has taught us to believe we are. And you,

dear, are WAY less nasty than most!

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