Re: GOING THROUGH UPS AND DOWNS

[Guest guest]

Bonnie,

GO TO SLEEP! Just kidding but compounding the sleep is not going to help 'ya

know! LOL

I guess the way I think about it is that it is in Gods hands and I trust him

not to drop me if it is not my time to go. I think that my fear is more for

my hubby and my family than myself and since decideing on this as my way to

go I have had extensive discussions and got all my cards on the table so to

speak and all the problems are aired out and put away so I do not need to

worry about them. Just think that you are on the way to a wonderful full

life and that you will be able to do so much more. Tell me, would your 17Y/O

totally flip if you got on rollerblades???? Maybe you should make yourself a

plan for after surgery and then you will be looking to future and then when

you are up to par you can start on that list of things to do that are fun

and freeing. Good Luck and tell that 17 Y/o to help you with your list you

may be surprised how much they might like to help!!!!! Godspeed! Paige:)

>From: JBSETM@...

>Reply-To: MiniGastricBypassonelist

>To: MiniGastricBypassonelist

>Subject: Re: GOING THROUGH UPS AND DOWNS

>Date: Tue, 3 Aug 1999 01:28:50 EDT

>

>From: JBSETM@...

>

>Hey gang,

>It's me, Bonnie. I don't post very much but have been on with this group

>for

>several months. I just need some of those wonderful words of encouragement

>that you guys are so well noted for.

>

>I was approved for surgery with Dr. R last week and my date is Aug 23. I am

>so excited and nervous. I am having the stress week from Hell and am up and

>down emotionally. I am seeing my mother tomorrow and going to tell her

>about

>the surgery. I am not sure how she will react. I think she will be very

>surprised and might not like the idea at first. I am very sure that I want

>this but am nervous about how she will react. Also, I had my psyche app

>last

>Thursday, my physical today, an app with an allergist and my pap test

>tomorrow. Then, work 12 hours the next day and, just to make things really

>fun, I have to try to clep out of 2 tests on Thursday. Not to mention the

>argument I had with my 17 y/o. I know this to shall pass but at this

>moment,

>I am ever so slightly STRESSED OUT.

>I am not afraid of surgery per say, but I am concerned about the chance of

>death. I have researched Dr. R. and know that he is good surgeon and to be

>honest, if I really thought the risk of dying was that great, I wouldn't do

>it. As I said, I just need some words of encouragement. ( did I forget to

>tell you that I only got 3 1/2 hours of sleep last night? ) I think that is

>my problem but would love to hear from anyone with a min. to write.

>Sorry to whine.

>BTW, Kathy S. I have followed your posts for several months and am soooo

>glad

>for you. I think are on your way!

>Bonnie

>

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[Guest guest]

Hey gang,

It's me, Bonnie. I don't post very much but have been on with this group for

several months. I just need some of those wonderful words of encouragement

that you guys are so well noted for.

I was approved for surgery with Dr. R last week and my date is Aug 23. I am

so excited and nervous. I am having the stress week from Hell and am up and

down emotionally. I am seeing my mother tomorrow and going to tell her about

the surgery. I am not sure how she will react. I think she will be very

surprised and might not like the idea at first. I am very sure that I want

this but am nervous about how she will react. Also, I had my psyche app last

Thursday, my physical today, an app with an allergist and my pap test

tomorrow. Then, work 12 hours the next day and, just to make things really

fun, I have to try to clep out of 2 tests on Thursday. Not to mention the

argument I had with my 17 y/o. I know this to shall pass but at this moment,

I am ever so slightly STRESSED OUT.

I am not afraid of surgery per say, but I am concerned about the chance of

death. I have researched Dr. R. and know that he is good surgeon and to be

honest, if I really thought the risk of dying was that great, I wouldn't do

it. As I said, I just need some words of encouragement. ( did I forget to

tell you that I only got 3 1/2 hours of sleep last night? ) I think that is

my problem but would love to hear from anyone with a min. to write.

Sorry to whine.

BTW, Kathy S. I have followed your posts for several months and am soooo glad

for you. I think are on your way!

Bonnie

[Guest guest]

Hi Bonnie!

This is Amy from Illinois. You certainly are having a hell week. And

you are right...this too shall pass.....until it does know that we are

pulling for you!

As with any surgical procedure, and with life itself, there is the

chance of death. That chance is always around us. I don't want to die(or

why would I be investing in the procedure), but I am prepared to. That has

made the difference for me. I think a little anxiousness is

expected.....and any you may be having is probably enhanced by all the stuff

going on in your life right now. So.. don't for get to slow down, breathe

deeply, and check out those roses, too.

Hang in there. We care.

A

Re: GOING THROUGH UPS AND DOWNS

>From: JBSETM@...

>

>Hey gang,

>It's me, Bonnie. I don't post very much but have been on with this group

for

>several months. I just need some of those wonderful words of encouragement

>that you guys are so well noted for.

>

>I was approved for surgery with Dr. R last week and my date is Aug 23. I am

>so excited and nervous. I am having the stress week from Hell and am up and

>down emotionally. I am seeing my mother tomorrow and going to tell her

about

>the surgery. I am not sure how she will react. I think she will be very

>surprised and might not like the idea at first. I am very sure that I want

>this but am nervous about how she will react. Also, I had my psyche app

last

>Thursday, my physical today, an app with an allergist and my pap test

>tomorrow. Then, work 12 hours the next day and, just to make things really

>fun, I have to try to clep out of 2 tests on Thursday. Not to mention the

>argument I had with my 17 y/o. I know this to shall pass but at this

moment,

>I am ever so slightly STRESSED OUT.

>I am not afraid of surgery per say, but I am concerned about the chance of

>death. I have researched Dr. R. and know that he is good surgeon and to be

>honest, if I really thought the risk of dying was that great, I wouldn't do

>it. As I said, I just need some words of encouragement. ( did I forget to

>tell you that I only got 3 1/2 hours of sleep last night? ) I think that is

>my problem but would love to hear from anyone with a min. to write.

>Sorry to whine.

>BTW, Kathy S. I have followed your posts for several months and am soooo

glad

>for you. I think are on your way!

>Bonnie

>

>---------------------------

[Guest guest]

Bonnie,

Just wanted you to know that I'm right here with you. As you know, my date

is also scheduled for 8/23 and I literally think I am losing my mind. I'm

not so concerned about the actual surgery as I am about dealing with it

afterwards. Will I deal with the eating? Will I get enough vitamins? Will

exercise make me pass out because I won't have enough food for energy? Will

my hair fall out? Will I even lose the weight? Will I be nauseous all the

time? I could go on and on...and that's all I constantly think about. I

have two Summer classes to complete also (are we living parallel lives) and I

cannot concentrate to save my life. I even told my husband that I would like

to stop school for a while and just chill out. That is so totally unlike me.

I will be graduating in May if I can just hold on, but I think I'm going

crazy (and as of this Summer my 4.0 GPA is out the window). Good thing my

psyche evaluation is tomorrow. Lords know I tried to get out of it. LOL I

just need to know how I can pull away and not think about all this stuff. I

know that is wishful thinking. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that

you are not going through this alone. Hopefully we can support each other.

Sheesh, we only live 20 minutes away from each other. Hang in there

girlfriend. Lord knows I'm trying.

in MD

BMI ~ 48

Approved! Tentative surgery date 08/23/99.

[Guest guest]

Dear Bonnie,

You obviously want to have this very badly. You need to steel yourself now

for all the negative things you might hear in the coming weeks. I actually

had people calling me the night before I left trying to talk me out of this.

Now that it's done many people are far more supportive. They can see the

weight loss, and they can see that I haven't changed and I don't look

unhealthy. people that would not have dared give me advise about my weight

felt open to give me advice about this surgery.

Yes, having this surgery does expose you to the risk of death. But if you

are obese you face that risk just living day to day. Every year you live

obese you face a much greater chance of dying that someone your age that is

a normal weight.

You have made the correct choice I'm sure and will be very happy when it's

done. keep telling yourself that and you will be fine!

Hang in there....the best is yet to come.

KathyT

Re: GOING THROUGH UPS AND DOWNS

>From: JBSETM@...

>

>Hey gang,

>It's me, Bonnie. I don't post very much but have been on with this group

for

>several months. I just need some of those wonderful words of encouragement

>that you guys are so well noted for.

>

>I was approved for surgery with Dr. R last week and my date is Aug 23. I am

>so excited and nervous. I am having the stress week from Hell and am up and

>down emotionally. I am seeing my mother tomorrow and going to tell her

about

>the surgery. I am not sure how she will react. I think she will be very

>surprised and might not like the idea at first. I am very sure that I want

>this but am nervous about how she will react. Also, I had my psyche app

last

>Thursday, my physical today, an app with an allergist and my pap test

>tomorrow. Then, work 12 hours the next day and, just to make things really

>fun, I have to try to clep out of 2 tests on Thursday. Not to mention the

>argument I had with my 17 y/o. I know this to shall pass but at this

moment,

>I am ever so slightly STRESSED OUT.

>I am not afraid of surgery per say, but I am concerned about the chance of

>death. I have researched Dr. R. and know that he is good surgeon and to be

>honest, if I really thought the risk of dying was that great, I wouldn't do

>it. As I said, I just need some words of encouragement. ( did I forget to

>tell you that I only got 3 1/2 hours of sleep last night? ) I think that is

>my problem but would love to hear from anyone with a min. to write.

>Sorry to whine.

>BTW, Kathy S. I have followed your posts for several months and am soooo

glad

>for you. I think are on your way!

>Bonnie

>

>---------------------------

[Guest guest]

,

Just take some slow cleansing deep breaths...!!!!

Yes, you may experience some hair loss ... yes you can get the vitamins

you need and you may be tired at first but you will gradually regain

your strength and find you have sooooo much more energy. No, you

probably won't pass out from exercise .. although you may get tired. I

can't promise anything on the nausea, we are all different, however I

experienced VERY LITTLE. And finally, YES YOU WILL LOSE WEIGHT!!!!!!!

I had my surgery June 17, have lost 28 lbs to date. For a total of 58

lbs (had to lose 30 presurgery). I am sometimes a little tired but I

feel great .. I have some gas but that is decreasing. I have an

occasional bout with diarrhea (had that before anyways) and its usually

just one event then I am fine.

Take it easy, you'll do fine....I love losing weight and I love having

more energy and I love the impending weight I will lose!!

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

Hey Kiddo,

You have that virus that is going around I believe Shari in CA has the web

page to ge trid of it ! Good Luck!!! Paige

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[Guest guest]

And I love how encouraging how you are to me!! Thank you Cheryl. I will try

my best to keep all of your insight in mind.

in MD