Guest guest Posted July 17, 2003 Report Share Posted July 17, 2003 Hello,DEB. Just wanting you to know I have been thru the name calling and the finger pointing too and man it does hurt .If you ever need someone to talk with just write me I will always be here to listen. I live in Galesburg,IL. but we go to Iowa alot.my husband works in Ft. Madison Iowa.Plus these persons in here in this group are super to chat with.And are great with answers and questions too. HAVE A GREAT DAY.EVERYONE.... STACY BECK Bypass surgery info > My name is Deb I'm at the wt# 365 lb's at 5'7 " tall.In about 31 days > I going into surgery for the surgery called Ry type Gastric > Bypass.I'm > a little worried alot about the surgery.I have so many > questions and worried that I will not lose the wt#.I'm 43 years old > have 5 children ages 9-26 years of age.I have no family support.My > family has aways made fun of my wt# and called me names.Even now > that they are older and heavier they hurt my feeling and I always > want to run and hide and cry.I've been fat or The Word I hate the > most is Obesity.The Doctor I have has been doing bypasses for over > 20 years I was told and even had it done to his self.I need a friend > to help me > go through this.I have no friends were I live just people who have > hurt me and always pointing fingers and laugh at me.Love to > hear from anyone who can share their surgery info and how things > went and anything that will help me before and after the surgery.God > Bless and hope to > talk.Thanks for your time from Deb of Iowa. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 18, 2003 Report Share Posted July 18, 2003 Welcome Deb! I am 42 and had my surgery 5-1/2 months ago. It's been an awesome ride and 133 lbs later, it just gets better and better. I am 5'9 and started at 442 lbs, so I definitely know your weight woes. I am so sorry to hear of your lack of family support and compassion. Have you even just let go and tell them how much they hurt you? Maybe they just don't realize it. If they are somewhat overweight, I guarantee you they are facing the fact that they may have to go the same route some day. They don't want to see how successful you will be, because then they have to face reality. If you can muster it, tell them you are going ahead of if they don't have anything positive to say, to keep it to themselves and to quit the name calling. I know you are their mother and feel you can't call them names back but it might wake them up. All you have to do is get through to one of them and the rest might fall in place. My mom was the only one I told at the start. She was scared but supportive as she knew I could not continue on the train I was on. I did not want to tell my brothers at that point. It was hard for her to say nothing but she didn't. She did talk to a few of her friends about it, which was fine. She needed someone to talk to about her emotions. What shocked her is how positive all her friends were. You would think people in their 70's and 80's would see this as some new fangled thing and " why does she need to do that " . But most knew someone who had it done and were very supportive. It helped her be more comfortable. Once I had insurance approval she asked if she could tell my brothers. One of them that I thought would think it ridiculous, surprised me and drove a couple hours to come see me in the hospital. Shocked the heck out of me. I thought my oldest brother would think it was drastic etc. He is into all natural everything. Well his reaction was " thankgoodness " . He said he had been so worried that I would maybe die of a heart problem etc. The 3rd brother was faily quiet but supportive. Two of my brothers are in the category of being faced with maybe making a similar decision one day. So it also was a slap in the face. My sister-in-law is one who would greatly benefit also. Who knows, once she sees how I eat she may have a different opinion. When she found I don't eat much for refined carbs she was like, but their are the best. I would have agreed before surgery, but for some reason they no longer control my life and I also do not crave them. I have them when I want, but because I am comfortable with post-op life I just don't focus on them any more. When I look for food now, it's just automatically protein. Please feel free to e-mail me as I am more than willing to be one of your supports and offer what info I can about surgery and after life. I live in Oshkosh, WI, so not too far from you. I don't normally get down that way, but who knows maybe we could meet somewhere sometime. Just know that there will be lots of people on this website who will gladly provide you loving support and not judge you or call you derogatory names! I hope you have a wonderful day! D. 5'9 " – Age 42 – BMI 65.3 442/309/Anywhere under 250 lbs -133 lbs as of July 17th – BMI 45.6 21 before surgery, 112 after Open RNY-150 cm, 1/2 oz pouch - Feb 3, 2003 Surgeon - n, MD - Neenah, WI > My name is Deb I'm at the wt# 365 lb's at 5'7 " tall.In about 31 days > I going into surgery for the surgery called Ry type Gastric > Bypass.I'm > a little worried alot about the surgery.I have so many > questions and worried that I will not lose the wt#.I'm 43 years old > have 5 children ages 9-26 years of age.I have no family support.My > family has aways made fun of my wt# and called me names.Even now > that they are older and heavier they hurt my feeling and I always > want to run and hide and cry.I've been fat or The Word I hate the > most is Obesity.The Doctor I have has been doing bypasses for over > 20 years I was told and even had it done to his self.I need a friend > to help me > go through this.I have no friends were I live just people who have > hurt me and always pointing fingers and laugh at me.Love to > hear from anyone who can share their surgery info and how things > went and anything that will help me before and after the surgery.God > Bless and hope to > talk.Thanks for your time from Deb of Iowa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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