Guest guest Posted May 1, 2000 Report Share Posted May 1, 2000 UK Your " Delurk . . " received on a cold afternoon in Cardiff (brilliant sun this morning, so everyone's out in the park beneath ominous grey clouds). So I'm back at home warming up with a cup of cheap British tea and wishing you luck, All the best, Doug. > >Reply-To: 12-step-freeegroups >To: 12-step-freeegroups >Subject: Delurk and Hi :-) >Date: Mon, 01 May 2000 16:00:13 -0000 > >Hi Folks > >Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been >reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in >understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. > >Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 years >as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have now >wound down from four a week to just the one though. > >My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real >friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) plus >my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) aspect >is still important at some level. > >Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of you >have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly >always appreciate perspectives on this. > >All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. > >(from da UK too :-) > > > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2000 Report Share Posted May 1, 2000 Hi Chris: I can relate. I've been sober 13 months as well. Welcome to the list. I've felt your pain on the lonely sober world out there. All of my friends moved out of the area within the last two years. I found myself actually trying to make friends in meetings. The problem I found with that scenario was that most of the people there don't know how to relate to anyone else there but through the program. So while I was hoping to make myself feel better I always ended up feeling worse. I eventually just stopped trying and surprise surprise I found not trying in AA forced me to take a really hard look at what I was all about. What I found was pretty surprising. I had been looking externally to alleviate boredom and depression. Things which I was fully capable of at least attempting to fix myself. Without Mumbo Jumbo to boot. The result for me is I now have new friends outside the program who could give to shits whether or not I've taken a moral inventory or made meetings lately. Having friends who don't second guess themselves constantly is refreshing as well. The result after I pulled myself out of the gloom and doom atmosphere of the rooms emotionally I found it did wonders for my outlook. Hang in there bud. Delurk and Hi :-) Hi Folks Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 years as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have now wound down from four a week to just the one though. My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) plus my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) aspect is still important at some level. Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of you have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly always appreciate perspectives on this. All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. (from da UK too :-) --------------------------------------------------------------------- --- Get paid for the stuff you know! Get answers for the stuff you don't. And get $10 to spend on the site! http://click./1/2200/1/_/4324/_/957196826/ --------------------------------------------------------------------- --- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2000 Report Share Posted May 2, 2000 Hi Chris Well done for succeeding at " moderating " your AA attendance! We dont insist on an abstinence-only approach round here. I agree that the social aspect of XA can be tempting, but have you thought of other ways you can meet your social needs? OA was desperately important to me when Iwent regularly for the social life until I went back to Uni and got the degree I never got after leaving school. Not only that, but I got into playing chess and now play almost every day at a chess-friendly cafe. I've made a lot of friends that way (plus met the odd wanker) and I have great fun - the only downside is that you dont mean many single women that way, but if youre looking for a gf just do something where youre likely to meet them - I met lots of women on my Psychology course. Where are you in the UK? If you can get to London easily why not come down to London and look up Joe and me? I can even put you up overnight if need be. This goes for you too Doug! I cant afford to travel outside London and Joe is pretty well housebound, so if you can come to us it would be handy. welcome, > Hi Folks > > Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been > reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in > understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. > > Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 years > as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have now > wound down from four a week to just the one though. > > My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real > friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) plus > my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) aspect > is still important at some level. > > Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of you > have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly > always appreciate perspectives on this. > > All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. > > (from da UK too :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2000 Report Share Posted May 2, 2000 Dear Pete, Thanks for the offer of hospitality. I'd enjoy it, though I'm hardly ever in London the last couple of years. If you're down Cardiff way, dopn't hesitate to take me up on a recirocal offer. Doug. >From: watts_pete@... >Reply-To: 12-step-freeegroups >To: 12-step-freeegroups >Subject: Re: Delurk and Hi :-) >Date: Wed, 03 May 2000 00:11:24 -0000 > >Hi Chris > >Well done for succeeding at " moderating " your AA attendance! We dont >insist on an abstinence-only approach round here. > >I agree that the social aspect of XA can be tempting, but have you >thought of other ways you can meet your social needs? OA was >desperately important to me when Iwent regularly for the social life >until I went back to Uni and got the degree I never got after leaving >school. Not only that, but I got into playing chess and now play >almost every day at a chess-friendly cafe. I've made a lot of friends >that way (plus met the odd wanker) and I have great fun - the only >downside is that you dont mean many single women that way, but if >youre looking for a gf just do something where youre likely to meet >them - I met lots of women on my Psychology course. > >Where are you in the UK? If you can get to London easily why not come >down to London and look up Joe and me? I can even put you up >overnight >if need be. This goes for you too Doug! I cant afford to travel >outside London and Joe is pretty well housebound, so if you can come >to us it would be handy. > >welcome, > > > > > > Hi Folks > > > > Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been > > reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in > > understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. > > > > Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 >years > > as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have >now > > wound down from four a week to just the one though. > > > > My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real > > friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) >plus > > my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) >aspect > > is still important at some level. > > > > Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of >you > > have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly > > > always appreciate perspectives on this. > > > > All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. > > > > (from da UK too :-) > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2000 Report Share Posted May 29, 2000 > Hi Folks > > Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been > reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in > understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. > > Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 years > as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have now > wound down from four a week to just the one though. > > My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real > friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) plus > my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) aspect > is still important at some level. It is nice to have someplace to go in the evenings with people who won't offer you a drink! I do recall how that felt. > > Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of you > have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly > always appreciate perspectives on this. > > All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. > > (from da UK too :-) Welcome to 12-step free, Chris Best, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2000 Report Share Posted May 31, 2000 Chris -- welcome to the UK gang! . > >Reply-To: 12-step-freeegroups >To: 12-step-freeegroups >Subject: Re: Delurk and Hi :-) >Date: Mon, 29 May 2000 21:00:00 -0000 > > > > Hi Folks > > > > Just to say Hi and a thanks for the material and links I have been > > reading over recent weeks here. It has been a great help to me in > > understanding my perspectives - and my desire to stop AA meetings. > > > > Where am I coming from? Well, now some 13 months sober after 20 >years > > as a drunk. Yes, it is true, I still attend meetings... I've have >now > > wound down from four a week to just the one though. > > > > My main difficulty is that at the end of my drinking I had no real > > friends, family, job, money (You name it, i didn't have it! LOL) >plus > > my health was and remains rather poor. So the " sociability " (?) >aspect > > is still important at some level. > >It is nice to have someplace to go in the evenings with people who >won't offer you a drink! I do recall how that felt. > > > > Hey it's a big 'ol lonely sober world out here. I'm sure many of >you > > have felt this and come to terms with this over time... I certainly > > > always appreciate perspectives on this. > > > > All I can say is more power to yer elbow(s) keep up the good work. > > > > (from da UK too :-) > >Welcome to 12-step free, Chris > >Best, > > > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 31, 2000 Report Share Posted May 31, 2000 Thank you and (once again). Best Wishes, (the eternal lurker ;-) > > > Hi Folks > > > > > > >Welcome to 12-step free, Chris > > [bit of my rubbish snipped ;-] > >Best, > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ __ > Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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