Guest guest Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 one thing i havent been able to deal with since my sons diagnosis is peoples stares and ignorance. the community needs to learn about our children instead of commenting. i always say if your going to say something stupid, keep it to yourself. it really annoys me. sorry but your neighbor is IGNORANT! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 Maybe if they saw more of our children they would start asking questions instead of making stupid comments. People will never stop staring at something which is uncommon and not understood. You have to accept that because it won't go away. Put yourself in their shoes and you might end up doing the same thing. My suggestion is to forget the stares because your child has done nothing wrong. Take him out into the public arena as often as you can. We don't apologize to anyone! To: sList From: iluvmyangelsya@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:34:13 -0400Subject: Re: What do YOU think? one thing i havent been able to deal with since my sons diagnosis is peoples stares and ignorance. the community needs to learn about our children instead of commenting. i always say if your going to say something stupid, keep it to yourself. it really annoys me. sorry but your neighbor is IGNORANT! Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 Maybe if they saw more of our children they would start asking questions instead of making stupid comments. People will never stop staring at something which is uncommon and not understood. You have to accept that because it won't go away. Put yourself in their shoes and you might end up doing the same thing. My suggestion is to forget the stares because your child has done nothing wrong. Take him out into the public arena as often as you can. We don't apologize to anyone! To: sList From: iluvmyangelsya@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:34:13 -0400Subject: Re: What do YOU think? one thing i havent been able to deal with since my sons diagnosis is peoples stares and ignorance. the community needs to learn about our children instead of commenting. i always say if your going to say something stupid, keep it to yourself. it really annoys me. sorry but your neighbor is IGNORANT! Hotmail® has ever-growing storage! Don’t worry about storage limits. Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2009 Report Share Posted September 23, 2009 Be sure she keeps her pomise and doesn't come over again. To: rainbow.websites@...From: mizlydia@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:14:17 -0400Subject: What do YOU think? My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. She did say "busy" and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my child is and saying "I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can be polite and say hi."Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the "etiquette Nazis" who would say "good MORning" really loud if I failed to acknowledge their hallowed presence.Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was siding with my kid she said "well then, I'm not going to ever come over your house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada" Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.Oy.-- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 "Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word."~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designshttp://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." ~~Mahatma Gandhi found her dream laptop. Find the PC that’s right for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 hello. actually ive never been the type to stare at someone.i was taught otherwise. but yea im learning how to ignore the stares. i just think people have to be educated about autism. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Your neighbor is shamefully ignorant. I would send, no, bombard her with links to autism websites and any reading material you can send her. I know you're fuming (and I would be too), but use that energy to educate her, and any other knucklehead like her. That's the best weapon we have right now! If she still doesn't get it, she's beyond help and her husband and family have to deal with that!! B. : ) > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Your neighbor is shamefully ignorant. I would send, no, bombard her with links to autism websites and any reading material you can send her. I know you're fuming (and I would be too), but use that energy to educate her, and any other knucklehead like her. That's the best weapon we have right now! If she still doesn't get it, she's beyond help and her husband and family have to deal with that!! B. : ) > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 > First of all, I don't know what kind of relationship you have with this person but I would NEVER comment on a kid not greeting me, autistic or not, busy or not. I've been to many of my friends' houses, and some kids say hi back, others don't. None of them have Autism. No brainer, like said, make sure she keeps her promise. I would never let anybody lecture me regarding my kids in such a silly matter. Sorry you have to deal with her, but luckly that' will be the end of it! > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Ha ha ha. Now THAT would be rude!She and I fight like sisters, but she reserves her worst for her real sister LOL Be sure she keeps her pomise and doesn't come over again. To: rainbow.websites@...From: mizlydia@...Date: Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:14:17 -0400 Subject: What do YOU think? My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can be polite and say hi. " Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their hallowed presence. Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. Oy.-- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi found her dream laptop. Find the PC that’s right for you. -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 I've tried... she won't read it... or worse, she interprets it her own way. She's stuck in the stone age, gives me newspaper clippings all the time of stuff I read months ago on the 'net. She has a few quirks that make her as hard to get along with as I am. Her husband is a likely Aspie too... loves to collect things, often forgets to finish his sentences as if we can read his mind. Well... not exactly. He'll start the sentence, and say the end of it, but trail off into thought in the middle as if we're supposed to follow him into his own head LOL Gotta love 'em, or I'd have to hate... and I detest hatred. Your neighbor is shamefully ignorant. I would send, no, bombard her with links to autism websites and any reading material you can send her. I know you're fuming (and I would be too), but use that energy to educate her, and any other knucklehead like her. That's the best weapon we have right now! If she still doesn't get it, she's beyond help and her husband and family have to deal with that!! B. : ) > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 Well, she went on to say that my kid is always wanting something from her but just can't be bothered to be polite, etc.Yeah... no wonder I never tried to make friends with neighbors in the past. > First of all, I don't know what kind of relationship you have with this person but I would NEVER comment on a kid not greeting me, autistic or not, busy or not. I've been to many of my friends' houses, and some kids say hi back, others don't. None of them have Autism. No brainer, like said, make sure she keeps her promise. I would never let anybody lecture me regarding my kids in such a silly matter. Sorry you have to deal with her, but luckly that' will be the end of it! > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 You can start out by making them visual learners first. The last thing we should do is treat our children like they were insistutionalized. To: sList From: iluvmyangelsya@...Date: Thu, 24 Sep 2009 11:22:52 -0400Subject: Re: What do YOU think? hello. actually ive never been the type to stare at someone.i was taught otherwise. but yea im learning how to ignore the stares. i just think people have to be educated about autism. Bing™ brings you maps, menus, and reviews organized in one place. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 24, 2009 Report Share Posted September 24, 2009 I agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2009 Report Share Posted September 26, 2009 Did you point out to this woman that it is very poor manners to show up at another person's home un- invited w/out calling first? It is great that you are trying to be a good neighbor, but it has been my experience that people like this are people that are so insecure with themselves and the way they are raising their own children, that nothing you say or do will change the situation. People who come over un-announced are usually people who have very poor manners, or people who are trying to find out information to gossip about. You are probably better off without the friendship of this woman. Glenda > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2009 Report Share Posted September 27, 2009 Actually I had been on the phone with her earlier, and she's already past it. But when we reminded her she'd said she was never coming over again, she claimed that was not what she said... c'est la vie. She came over to roast a marshmallow over our fire and have a s'more with us last night. But still, quite often I have to walk into another room or go outside when she's inside because she's just too intense. I can't take her personality. And I bet there are a few people who feel that way about me. Fortunately I do most of my communicating online, so it's really easy to click away if something I say rubs you wrong. In person it can lead to childish shouting matches and I swear sometimes I think we should be a reality show. Did you point out to this woman that it is very poor manners to show up at another person's home un- invited w/out calling first? It is great that you are trying to be a good neighbor, but it has been my experience that people like this are people that are so insecure with themselves and the way they are raising their own children, that nothing you say or do will change the situation. People who come over un-announced are usually people who have very poor manners, or people who are trying to find out information to gossip about. You are probably better off without the friendship of this woman. Glenda > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi. > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can > be polite and say hi. " > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > hallowed presence. > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over your > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > Oy. > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2009 Report Share Posted September 27, 2009 You're funny Lydia. From: Lydia Glider- Sent: Sunday, September 27, 2009 12:36 PM To: sList Subject: Re: Re: What do YOU think? Actually I had been on the phone with her earlier, and she's already past it. But when we reminded her she'd said she was never coming over again, she claimed that was not what she said... c'est la vie. She came over to roast a marshmallow over our fire and have a s'more with us last night. But still, quite often I have to walk into another room or go outside when she's inside because she's just too intense. I can't take her personality. And I bet there are a few people who feel that way about me. Fortunately I do most of my communicating online, so it's really easy to click away if something I say rubs you wrong. In person it can lead to childish shouting matches and I swear sometimes I think we should be a reality show. On Sat, Sep 26, 2009 at 11:19 PM, hidden_garnet <hidden_garnet> wrote: Did you point out to this woman that it is very poor manners to show up at another person's home un- invited w/out calling first? It is great that you are trying to be a good neighbor, but it has been my experience that people like this are people that are so insecure with themselves and the way they are raising their own children, that nothing you say or do will change the situation. People who come over un-announced are usually people who have very poor manners, or people who are trying to find out information to gossip about. You are probably better off without the friendship of this woman. Glenda >> My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes> over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say hi.> She did say "busy" and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's> frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude my> child is and saying "I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she can> be polite and say hi."> > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I> kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the "etiquette Nazis"> who would say "good MORning" really loud if I failed to acknowledge their> hallowed presence.> > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing> this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was> siding with my kid she said "well then, I'm not going to ever come over your> house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada"> > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling> justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of> favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such> sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.> > Oy.> > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com> <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> "Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few> of them understand the simple meaning of the word."> ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> WE CAN DO THIS> http://www.nopom.info> <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs> http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules> <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then> you win."> ~~Mahatma Gandhi> -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 "Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word."~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designshttp://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows! Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > > > > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say > > hi. > > > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude > > my > > > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she > > can > > > be polite and say hi. " > > > > > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > > > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > > > hallowed presence. > > > > > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > > > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over > > your > > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > > > > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > > > > > Oy. > > > > > > -- > > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so > > few > > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > WE CAN DO THIS > > > http://www.nopom.info > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > > > you win. " > > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > Lydia > www.rainbow-websites.com > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > ~Ron > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > WE CAN DO THIS > http://www.nopom.info > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > you win. " > ~~Mahatma Gandhi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil. I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called " A Woman of Independent Means " starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation: " I'm going to New York " the heroine stated, " To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with. " So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with? 1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess 6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit " off the wall " and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to " be like everyone else " and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills. </rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows! Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > > > > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say > > hi. > > > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude > > my > > > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she > > can > > > be polite and say hi. " > > > > > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > > > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > > > hallowed presence. > > > > > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > > > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over > > your > > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > > > > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > > > > > Oy. > > > > > > -- > > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so > > few > > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > WE CAN DO THIS > > > http://www.nopom.info > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > > > you win. " > > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil. I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called " A Woman of Independent Means " starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation: " I'm going to New York " the heroine stated, " To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with. " So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with? 1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess 6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit " off the wall " and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to " be like everyone else " and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills. </rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows! Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > > > > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes > > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say > > hi. > > > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's > > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude > > my > > > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she > > can > > > be polite and say hi. " > > > > > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I > > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > > > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their > > > hallowed presence. > > > > > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing > > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was > > > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over > > your > > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > > > > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling > > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of > > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such > > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out. > > > > > > Oy. > > > > > > -- > > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so > > few > > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > WE CAN DO THIS > > > http://www.nopom.info > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs > > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 > > > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then > > > you win. " > > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 I like your list... From: Lydia Glider- Sent: Monday, September 28, 2009 10:30 AM To: sList Subject: Re: Re: What do YOU think? LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil.I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called "A Woman of Independent Means" starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation:"I'm going to New York" the heroine stated, "To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with."So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with?1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit "off the wall" and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to "be like everyone else" and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills.</rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL On Mon, Sep 28, 2009 at 8:13 AM, stacy <bartiksbellsouth (DOT) net> wrote: Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows!Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > >> > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes> > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say> > hi.> > > She did say "busy" and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's> > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude> > my> > > child is and saying "I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she> > can> > > be polite and say hi."> > >> > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I> > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the "etiquette Nazis"> > > who would say "good MORning" really loud if I failed to acknowledge their> > > hallowed presence.> > >> > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing> > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was> > > siding with my kid she said "well then, I'm not going to ever come over> > your> > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada"> > >> > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling> > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of> > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such> > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.> > >> > > Oy.> > >> > > --> > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > "Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so> > few> > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word."> > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > WE CAN DO THIS> > > http://www.nopom.info> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs> > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then> > > you win."> > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 I like your list... From: Lydia Glider- Sent: Monday, September 28, 2009 10:30 AM To: sList Subject: Re: Re: What do YOU think? LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil.I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called "A Woman of Independent Means" starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation:"I'm going to New York" the heroine stated, "To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with."So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with?1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit "off the wall" and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to "be like everyone else" and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills.</rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL On Mon, Sep 28, 2009 at 8:13 AM, stacy <bartiksbellsouth (DOT) net> wrote: Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows!Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > >> > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes> > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say> > hi.> > > She did say "busy" and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's> > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude> > my> > > child is and saying "I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she> > can> > > be polite and say hi."> > >> > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I> > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the "etiquette Nazis"> > > who would say "good MORning" really loud if I failed to acknowledge their> > > hallowed presence.> > >> > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing> > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was> > > siding with my kid she said "well then, I'm not going to ever come over> > your> > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada"> > >> > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling> > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of> > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such> > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.> > >> > > Oy.> > >> > > --> > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > "Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so> > few> > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word."> > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > WE CAN DO THIS> > > http://www.nopom.info> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs> > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then> > > you win."> > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 Thanks. It serves me well.: ) I like your list... From: Lydia Glider- Sent: Monday, September 28, 2009 10:30 AM To: sList Subject: Re: Re: What do YOU think? LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil.I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called " A Woman of Independent Means " starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation: " I'm going to New York " the heroine stated, " To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with. " So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with?1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit " off the wall " and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to " be like everyone else " and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills.</rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows!Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > >> > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes> > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say> > hi.> > > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's> > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude> > my> > > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she> > can> > > be polite and say hi. " > > >> > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I> > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > > > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their> > > hallowed presence.> > >> > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing> > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was> > > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over> > your> > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > >> > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling> > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of> > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such> > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.> > >> > > Oy.> > >> > > --> > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so> > few> > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > WE CAN DO THIS> > > http://www.nopom.info> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs> > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then> > > you win. " > > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2009 Report Share Posted September 28, 2009 Thanks. It serves me well.: ) I like your list... From: Lydia Glider- Sent: Monday, September 28, 2009 10:30 AM To: sList Subject: Re: Re: What do YOU think? LOL like water off a duck. Yeah, I complain, and she complains about me... but that's the test of true friendship, I guess or tolerance at least... whether or not you can get past petty squabbles. However, when she (or anyone else for that matter) really irks me I may stop speaking to her for months... eventually I get over it because I don't believe in holding grudges and poisoning myself with negativity. BUT that doesn't mean I want to be chummy with such people. Just civil.I learned, too, from a miniseries on TV (many autistic people who watch it seem to learn a lot from TV, some good, some bad...) called " A Woman of Independent Means " starring Sally Field. The following line stuck in my head, and I've considered it often over the years since then, in self-evaluation: " I'm going to New York " the heroine stated, " To see if I'm still the sort of person I would like to be friends with. " So... what sort of person WOULD I like to be friends with?1. Honest people who value truth above all else2. Kind people who value life3. Intelligent people who value learning4. Funny people whose sense of humor is not based in sarcasm or ridicule5. Capable people who may have the skills I don't... who can likewise make use of the skills I possess6. Quirky people who tend to be a bit " off the wall " and aren't ashamed of it7. Passionate people who have faith and believe strongly in somethingI think it's something we should ask ourselves. My mother taught me very young to choose my friends, don't let myself be chosen. I don't know how good THAT advice was, but when someone seems to want to be my friend, I do evaluate the possibility using the criteria above. I have no use for dishonest, mean, stupid, lazy or incompetent people who only want to " be like everyone else " and just drone along like robots. Especially when they have no sense of humor! If one or two of the above qualities are lacking it may be tolerable (for me)... but more than that will send me running for the hills.</rant>Oh, and she didn't exactly apologize, but interestingly enough she's bent out of shape over someone else not apologizing to her... (completely unrelated)Thanks for asking, LOL Lydia, I don't know you, but I'm suprised to see that after you were mad enough to come to the list to complain, you and your neighbor were hanging out and roasting marshmallows!Did she know that her actions made you upset, and did she apologize? She's already past it, but it left an impression on you. B. > > >> > > My neighbor is upset because she came into my house (uninvited, she comes> > > over frequently...) and my youngest, who was on the computer, didn't say> > hi.> > > She did say " busy " and went back to what she was doing. (Just as she's> > > frequently seen me, her mother, do) The neighbor is fuming about how rude> > my> > > child is and saying " I don't care if she has Asperger's or whatever, she> > can> > > be polite and say hi. " > > >> > > Well... one of the reasons said child is homeschooled is the fact that I> > > kept getting accosted at the school she attended by the " etiquette Nazis " > > > who would say " good MORning " really loud if I failed to acknowledge their> > > hallowed presence.> > >> > > Therefore I took my daughter's side but declined to explain why, knowing> > > this woman would cut me off and sure enough as soon as I said that I was> > > siding with my kid she said " well then, I'm not going to ever come over> > your> > > house again, because that's just plain rude and... yada yada yada " > > >> > > Finally I hung up on her in disgust and the whole episode left me feeling> > > justified in my comfortable hermitage ensconced in my little nest of> > > favorite things. Ari... I don't know how you stand to be around such> > > sanctimonious individuals day in and day out.> > >> > > Oy.> > >> > > --> > > Lydia > > > www.rainbow-websites.com> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so> > few> > > of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " > > > ~Ron > > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > WE CAN DO THIS> > > http://www.nopom.info> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs> > > http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules> > > <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3> > > " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then> > > you win. " > > > ~~Mahatma Gandhi -- Lydia www.rainbow-websites.com<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " Every politician on earth claims to support freedom. The problem is so few of them understand the simple meaning of the word. " ~Ron <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 WE CAN DO THIShttp://www.nopom.info<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3Autism/Aspergers T-Shirts & Designs http://www.cafepress.com/autismrules<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 " First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. " ~~Mahatma Gandhi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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