opinions on a letter?

[Guest guest]

The 18 yr old who has lived with us for a year, whose father has BPD and whose

mother is uBPD, got a letter in the mail from his mother today. As a bit of

background, the last envelope he got from her was right after Mothers Day and

included old Mothers Day cards he had sent her in the past, some old school

papers and a very mean-spirited letter that demanded he return his bicycle,

stated that they had cashed in his savings bond for a trip to Disney with his

sisters and their families, and was signed " Mr. and Mrs. M, not Mom and Dad

because you don't consider us your parents anymore. " He moved in with us for

his senior year of high school because he was fed up with the abuse (mostly

emotional, but some physical) in his FOO. I have had to take out a protective

order against his nada because she has threatened to kill me.

Anyhow... today's letter arrived and we are having different interpretations of

it here. The teen and I both think it continues to show her craziness,

particularly given her last contact with him. My husband and daughter both

think it seems like a relatively reasonable letter. I'm wondering what you guys

think.

Thanks,

" Dear W,

I hope you will read this letter because it is truly from my heart. Not a day

goes by that I don't think about you, wonder where you are, and what you are

doing. I know you must be in [college town] already as most football practices

have begun and I assume marching band has as well.

I have made so much improvement, you would not believe it. I am seeing a new

doctor in Defiance as well as continuing with my therapist in Lima. I am also

in a new job at the health dept and am considering taking on an additional

part-time job.

I have so much guilt and regret over things that happened here; I can only hope

you can find it in your heart to forgive me and let us re-establish a

relationship with you. Dad and I would love to see you march at one of your

home games and also maybe come see you on 'parents " weekend. I don't want to

push for too much too fast.

We missed your entire senior year which we can never get back. Please allow us

to be part of your college experience. (We still have savings bonds for you

that only you can cash.) I want you to have that money; Since you have blocked

our numbers, you will have to make the first call. Also, I wanted you to be

Uncle W to [niece]. She is a year old now and is so beautiful.

Aunt B is dying. She needs a kidney and will probably be on dialysis in a few

months. Her function is at 23% of normal and you get put on a donor list if it

drops below 20%. So far the meds have kept her off the list. Aunt J only has 1

kidney, Uncle T isn't speaking to anyone, Uncle R isn't related biologically so

that leaves Dad and with all his meds, I don't think he would qualify either.

So that means she will be dependent on a stranger or cadaver who matches.

Dad and I went to see " Chicago " at the [local theater]. It was very well done.

THere were songs in it I had not heard before.

We also went to [amusement park]. I had the most fun at the water park; the

lazy river and 4 person tube ride. The wave pool was kind of crowded and the

waves weren't very big.

We spent a week with [sister and family] and went hiking at Bushhill falls in

the Poconos, swimming at one of [sister's] friends pools, and gambling in

Atlantic City. (only lost $4.00) - can't lose too much at the penny slot

machines. [niece] loved the ocean and when a wave broke up against her and got

her all wet she didn't even cry!! She has been to Texas already, and is going

to Disney in December. I don't think she'll remember it as she'll only be 16

months! Oh well, you can't keep [sister] from her " Disney fix. "

Guess that's all for now. Please let us know if you need or want anything.

Hope you like your classes.

Love, Mom and Dad