Socialization Program, etc.

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Hello everyone,

I just ran across a post from over a year ago. Debbie Matasker (hi Debbie!)

wrote about her son's socialization program. Debbie, do you or anyone else

have copies of your program? Would anyone be willing to email (or snail

mail me) a copy privately? I will be happy to pay for any expenses. I also

have a fax machine if anyone wants to fax them. My daughter is now 9 and I

can see that this (socialization issue) has got to become a priority...along

with several other things (what's new?!).

We do have a NeuroPsych appointment coming up - hopefully in April as

projected. We are on the list. They don't exactly schedule the

appointments far in advance. I am anxious to see what that evaluation says.

Another question - has anyone used this type of neurofeedback therapy? Here

is a link to a place in Providence, RI that does this type of therapy. My

friend's son (not with charge) had great success with this.

http://www.neurodevelopmentcenter.com/

FYI, she has weekly CranialSacral therapy and we use holistic/natural

supplements, both of which have helped her a lot.

Any info any of you can provide would be appreciated. Thank you!

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P.S. Here is that original post to which I was referring.

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>> ,

>>

>> I can tell you that you need to contact the school district or the

>> behavioralist working with the boys and sit down and explain to them what

>> you explained to us. They need to establish and socialization program

>> for

>> one, and either help you with the home difficulties or point you to

>> people

>> who can help. What about help from DDD? Do they get services from DDD?

>> There are behavioral programs that teach things such as boundaries.

>> Kennedy

>> Krieger has an outstanding behavioral program. You might want to get an

>> evaluation from them on the boys (they are in Baltimore).

>>

>> As far as socialization, 's teachers and therapists at Lake Drive

>> have been working with on socialization now for 5 years and we

>> have

>> made HUGE leaps and bounds. The boys should have a program that works

>> solely on socialization so if they don't have one, initiate the fact that

>> they need one. Socialization and boundaries definitely need to be

>> learned.

>> It's cool now to watch " hang out " with his friends and play.

>> But,

>> he was taught those skills, they didn't just magically appear.

>>

>> We never had a problem with what you are describing, we just have the

>> other

>> things like anxiety and OCD, but is completely aware of right and

>> wrong and consequences on becoming hurt, so, unfortunately, that is all I

>> can add. Good Luck. We still need to get together!

>>

>> Our behavioralist is Dr. Osborne who consults with Lake Drive

>> school.

>> Maybe she could recommend someone for you. She is pretty well-known in

>> the

>> " community " (actually as far as New Zealand).

>>

>> Debbie Matasker

>>

>> HELP HELP HELP-a bit long!!

>>

>>

>> Hello to everyone. I often feel bad when I write in because I admit

>> that I

>> do not respond to the list like I should. So I often feel guilty as to

>> why

>> should I write if I do not write to others, but I am feeling a bit

>> desperate

>> at the moment.

>> Things overall for the boys are good. School is going better then we

>> hoped

>> for both of them and the behaviors have seemed to slow down-the problem

>> is

>> at

>> home....

>> We went to a party today and once again we did not last very long because

>> the boys seemed to have trouble listening. I am over the fact that they

>> can

>> not interact with the other kids as I would like, but hopefully in time

>> they

>> will. The biggest problem we face when we go out is that they seem to

>> wonder,

>> and never listen to us saying no no mattter what the consequence may be

>> for

>> them later on. If the party is outside, they want inside-okay, maybe to

>> stimulating outside-not sure. THey wanted to explore and that seems

>> okay

>> too, but

>> we never can leave them alone, not even for a minute without them

>> gettting

>> into some trouble because they don't know their limitations of what is

>> right

>> and wrong (what is acceptable). I am feeling really upset and thinking

>> they

>> are 7 years old-when will it end were I do not have to follow them

>> around

>> every minute or keep them from not listening to us. They are not being

>> defient,

>> they really just seem to be in thier own world at times. As I am

>> writing I

>> feel like I can answer my own questions, but I was hoping for some

>> advice.

>> Have any of you experienced till a later age no boundaries. I feel like

>> we

>> have to teach this to the boys just like we do reading and writing, but

>> it

>> seems so hard.

>> For any of the New Jersey families do any of you have a good behaviorist

>> you

>> reccommend. We have a fabulous one at school, but that is really all

>> she

>> does-school visits. I feel I need someone at my home observing and

>> watching

>> what happens more so outside the home when we go places. Like I said,

>> it

>> is

>> teaching them boundaries that is so hard. I feel like a horrible mom

>> who

>> doesn't seem to have much control lately. I also know the medications

>> have

>> helped, but again medication cant teach boundaries!!!

>> I need HELP!!!!!

>> Thanks for listening,

>> Murray

>> mom to twin Chargers and and wife to Jay

>>

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