- Re: Darn it

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

If you feel you would like to be at the ceremony for your nephew's sake but the

thought of travelling with the family turns you off is there any possibility of

you travelling there on your own? It would probably be more expensive but may

be a way around a difficult situation. Anyway, it was just a thought. I can

fully understand why you don't want to spend time with such unsupportive people,

especially in the close confines of a long car journey.

Cheers,

Marie

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Aan: weightlossbuddies2 <weightlossbuddies2 >

Datum: donderdag 27 maart 2003 2:09

Onderwerp: Darn it

My nephew is graduating college with high honors and being commissioned into

the Navy in May. His parents are naturally going down to watch him and my

father is going with. He's been after me to come too, and today I said I

would.

I don't really want to, I'm doing it because my father really seems to feel

like it's important. Seven hours each way in the van with my idiot

sister-in-law and two of her ill mannered children? A whole day of

graduation BS? Trying to pretend that every other word out of my foul

mouthed brother isn't F#@%? My father likes to pretend we all get along. We

don't fight because we avoid each other. That's why we " get along. "

Obviously, I'm dealing with a lot of issues here. Things like my parent's

treating me very differently than my brothers from the time the first one of

them was born right up to today. My brother is a jerk, and he's doing the

same thing to his daughters that my parents did to me. He wouldn't come to

see Mom for weeks when she was sick, and then when he did show up, he start

trying to boss us all around. And Dad still thinks the A-hole hung the moon!

My sister-in-law? Well, there was the time I had to take my daughter to the

baby-sitter when my parents went on vacation because my sister-in-law

wouldn't watch her (we were all living in the same house at the time and she

was home with her three kids). Then she told my brother she was hurt because

I didn't trust her to watch , the lying little drama queen. I think

the final straw for me was finding out she was sharing intimate details of my

mother's struggle with cancer with her exercise class at the YWCA. My mother

would have been so mortified if she'd ever found out, she was a very private

person.

I do not want to spend three days with these people. Dad keeps telling me

how nice it would be for me to get out because the closest thing I've had to

a vacation since 1998 was two days in the hospital. I'd love to take a

vacation. A long weekend in a spa would be a vacation. A science fiction

convention would be a vacation. A trip Tulsa to visit my best friend would

be a vacation. This is not a vacation.

Oh well. I'll survive. I can take my knitting and try to ignore the

stupidity drifting back from the front seat. I'll be in misery because my

ankle will swell with that much sitting, and I have no idea what I'm going to

wear. I have a decent outfit that fit me three weeks ago. Hopefully it will

be too large in six weeks but all my nice clothes will still be too small and

I really don't want to spend the money on more " fat " clothes.

I'm just kicking myself for letting my father pressure me into saying " yes. "

On the other hand, it wasn't a bad day today. I overslept a bit, but still

got the bike ride in. As I was going out the door I asked Dad to feed the

fish and check the cat bowls because I was running late. Tonight when I got

home, the lights in the fish tanks were still off and the cat bowls were

empty. Duchess and Zep met me by the door and yowled a list of complaints.

At least I think it was complaints, I don't speak cat very well. I didn't

feel much like cooking, so I sliced the last of Sunday's roast, shredded the

half a head of cabbage in the fridge, and served sandwiches and slaw for

dinner. I'll need to go to the store tomorrow and get more veggies. I think

my grocery bill has doubled.

" ... inside every old person is a young person wondering what happened. "

Terry Pratchett

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