Re: Question for the ladies only

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Kimmie _ I am 44 and had my surgery 7/4/03, so there are no babies in my

future. But I have 4 and they are my greatest joy in life. IMNSHO, you should

wait on that. If you get down to goal, your pregnant weight will still be less

than your old weight. Also, I nursed my babies and did pretty well losing the

weight after they were born, back to my pre-pregnancy weight, which was never

all that good. It was between pregnancies that I really gained. I think if

you are under control you can control your weight gain, although if you are at

goal I think you should gain at least 30. By getting back on the plan, I

think you would be able to lose the pregnancy weight. But I guess this is a

personal decision. -- Jody

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Kimmie:

I am single and not married and YES, I do plan on having children.

Remember, when you're pregnant you really shouldn't gain 40-60

pounds (which a lot of woman do or have done) you will gain some

weight of course, but you'll be better in control of your weight

(hopefully) by then. I want children in the worse way and I know at

this weight I couldn't do it, nor would I. I would suggest really

weighing the option of having your tubes tied first, this is nothing

to jump into without some thought, but maybe you've thought about it

a lot? Again, I'm not Post-op yet and I might change my mind once

I'm down to a 14 and then 12 to a 10 I hope. I might say forget it,

it took me X to get where I am and why have children now, but I hope

that isn't the case because I really want to have children and watch

them grow up and share my life. Again, just my opinion. Good luck!

Beth K.

> This is a question for those of you who don't have children. Have

any of you

> thought about what it would be like to lose all this weight, then

have to gain

> it again for a pregnancy?

> I don't have any kids but I'm seriously thinking about getting my

tubes

> tied... Especially now that I can fit into a size 14 pair of

shorts.

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hmmm, kimmie. this is a constant thought of mine. my hubb is

impatient for us to start a family. timing is one of the 1st

questions i'll ask my plastic surgeon; have an appt in a couple

weeks.

in my heart of hearts i (we) want a child more than anything, so

i'll toss vanity aside, i guess. luckily, the pouch'll keep me from

eating too much, plus factoring in morning sickness, i'm praying not

to gain tooo much. i'll deal with the weight redistribution & all

that later.

lori h.

PS no rush, though, dh travels quite a bit

> This is a question for those of you who don't have children. Have

any of you

> thought about what it would be like to lose all this weight, then

have to gain

> it again for a pregnancy?

> I don't have any kids but I'm seriously thinking about getting my

tubes

> tied... Especially now that I can fit into a size 14 pair of

shorts.

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> Kimmie

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[Guest guest]

Wow, that's a tough decision. I guess you just really need to decide

on whether or not you want children. Are you married? Does your

spouse want children? I realize that a tubal is reversible, but what

a pain to do it, then have to have it reversed.

I have an 8 year old, I'm 32 and me and my husband want another. I

can't get pregnant because of the weight, so yea, I'm hoping to lose

my weight and in 2 years, get pregnant. I only gained 13 pounds when

pregnant with my daughter.

Just sounds like you need to prioritize........not gaining an ounze,

or maybe gaining a little in order to have a little bundle of joy (in

which case you can then lose the weight).

Sorry......hope that didn't sound too preachy.

Kim in NorthTexas

402/160

Open RNY scheduled for 9/8/03

> This is a question for those of you who don't have children. Have

any of you

> thought about what it would be like to lose all this weight, then

have to gain

> it again for a pregnancy?

> I don't have any kids but I'm seriously thinking about getting my tubes

> tied... Especially now that I can fit into a size 14 pair of shorts.

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> Kimmie

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Kimmie,

I think you have gotten some good advice. Your weight gain shouldnt be that

substantial and you should definitely wait. Besides, you would be hard

pressed to find any surgeon who would tie your tubes since you have no children

and

your reasoning is because you are afraid to gain weight. There are lots of

temporary ways to prevent pregnancy and it sure would be a shame to do something

permanant and then later decide you wanted children

~ami~

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In a message dated 7/13/2003 10:40:37 PM Central Standard Time,

huschke@... writes:

> Wow, that's a tough decision. I guess you just really need to decide

> on whether or not you want children. Are you married? Does your

> spouse want children? I realize that a tubal is reversible, but what

> a pain to do it, then have to have it reversed.

>

Hello...

I just wanted to add that a tubal is not considered reversible. No matter

what kind you have (coagulation where they destroy your tubes, or fallop clamps)

you sign an acknowledgement that it is a permanant surgery. They very rarely

do reversals anymore and when they do, then chance is slim to none that it

will be successful.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/14/03 11:55:41 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

reev7056@... writes:

> want kids so bad.. I couldn't imagine having them tied.. but yes,

> it is a great question.. My thoughts are: I have always wanted to be

> a cute pregnant person.. you know, little person, big belly.. so I

> will be okay if I lose all this weight, gain it for pregnancy.. right

> now, if I were pregnant you wouldn't be able to tell..

>

Thanks going out to all who answered my question:)

Well I've never really wanted children. I don't know why but I've never been

the " mommy " type. Maybe that is seeping into my other reasoning for going

ahead and having my tubes tied.

I called a doctor near me and he WILL tie tubes of childless women if they

are over 25 so that's no problem since I'm 32.

It's probably hard to see my POV for most of you since it sounds like you all

want children. I don't mean to sound selfish here, but I am working HARD on

getting the body I want. I just don't think I want to risk losing it again by

going thru something like a pregnancy, which in all honesty here grosses me out.

Kimmie

Lap RNY 12/19/02

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[Guest guest]

Kimmie;

Yes, that has been brought to my attention.. I had a friend ask me the other

day, " So have you ever thought that you might go through with surgery, come

out just fine, lose all your weight, accomplish all what you set out to

accomplish, and then get pregnant.. And get fat again? Then what are you going

to do? "

It made me think, but considering I'm getting on birth control a.s.a.p., I'm

not worried.. And by the time I do decide to have another child, I will be

able to deal with it.. But I think that is a common concern.. Since I'm pre-op,

I

don't have all the answers to this one either, but I know I can get pregnant

from the get go.. So I'll have to take preventive measures to make sure that I

don't.. (THERE'S NO WAY, HE'S GOING WITHOUT SEX).. He's a phene.. Well

anyway, I'd like to know what others have to say concerning this issue as well..

WELL???????? Let me know..

Greer

Greer

[Guest guest]

I want kids so bad.. I couldn't imagine having them tied.. but yes,

it is a great question.. My thoughts are: I have always wanted to be

a cute pregnant person.. you know, little person, big belly.. so I

will be okay if I lose all this weight, gain it for pregnancy.. right

now, if I were pregnant you wouldn't be able to tell..

> This is a question for those of you who don't have children. Have

any of you

> thought about what it would be like to lose all this weight, then

have to gain

> it again for a pregnancy?

> I don't have any kids but I'm seriously thinking about getting my

tubes

> tied... Especially now that I can fit into a size 14 pair of shorts.

>

> Kimmie

> Lap RNY 12/19/02

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Kimmie,

I just wanted to add something here… you CAN get preggers after this

surgery if you wish. A friend of mine did it about 2 ½ years after her

surgery and all the weight that she gained she lost again and didn’t

have any trouble. Just something to keep in mind in case you ever decide

you want children. Are you married? Planning on it? Ever?

Re: Re: Question for the ladies only

In a message dated 7/14/03 11:55:41 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

reev7056@... writes:

> want kids so bad.. I couldn't imagine having them tied.. but yes,

> it is a great question.. My thoughts are: I have always wanted to be

> a cute pregnant person.. you know, little person, big belly.. so I

> will be okay if I lose all this weight, gain it for pregnancy.. right

> now, if I were pregnant you wouldn't be able to tell..

>

Thanks going out to all who answered my question:)

Well I've never really wanted children. I don't know why but I've never

been

the " mommy " type. Maybe that is seeping into my other reasoning for

going

ahead and having my tubes tied.

I called a doctor near me and he WILL tie tubes of childless women if

they

are over 25 so that's no problem since I'm 32.

It's probably hard to see my POV for most of you since it sounds like

you all

want children. I don't mean to sound selfish here, but I am working HARD

on

getting the body I want. I just don't think I want to risk losing it

again by

going thru something like a pregnancy, which in all honesty here grosses

me out.

Kimmie

Lap RNY 12/19/02

343/213/135

[Guest guest]

Hey,

I totally support ya here.. You are right.. It's your body! And

besides.. if you decided later that you did want kids.. man, there

are so many out there that need loving homes...

I just know for me personally, it's one of the reasons I am having

the surgery!! but each one of us is different and we should celebrate

our differences! I think it's brave to recognize in yourself that you

aren't the mommy type.. I mean how many women out there have kids

anyway and then end up resenting them or themselves.. (not to say

that you would.. but you know what I mean)

We'll support ya!!!

Trish

> In a message dated 7/14/03 11:55:41 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

> reev7056@b... writes:

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> > want kids so bad.. I couldn't imagine having them tied.. but

yes,

> > it is a great question.. My thoughts are: I have always wanted to

be

> > a cute pregnant person.. you know, little person, big belly.. so

I

> > will be okay if I lose all this weight, gain it for pregnancy..

right

> > now, if I were pregnant you wouldn't be able to tell..

> >

>

> Thanks going out to all who answered my question:)

>

> Well I've never really wanted children. I don't know why but I've

never been

> the " mommy " type. Maybe that is seeping into my other reasoning for

going

> ahead and having my tubes tied.

> I called a doctor near me and he WILL tie tubes of childless women

if they

> are over 25 so that's no problem since I'm 32.

> It's probably hard to see my POV for most of you since it sounds

like you all

> want children. I don't mean to sound selfish here, but I am working

HARD on

> getting the body I want. I just don't think I want to risk losing

it again by

> going thru something like a pregnancy, which in all honesty here

grosses me out.

>

> Kimmie

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