Insecurity

[Guest guest]

I find myself to be completely insecure. Especially when it comes to my

husband. I know he loves me and he is really great. But, still, I get

insecure. I always feel like if he doesn't do something he usually does it's

because he doesn't love me or is mad at me. Isn't this weird? Now I've noticed

it, but I'm having trouble stopping the insecurity. I am thinking that if I

can't find a way to stop being so insecure he will get fed up and leave, and I

really don't want that to happen. Not to mention it just plain strains our

relationship sometimes. The bad part to me is that I notice it, but I can't

really stop it. Does anyone have any tips on how to become more secure? Does

any one else feel insecure in partner relationships?

Thanks,

Lucky

[Guest guest]

I use affirmations and they have helped me tremendously.

Here are some more affirmations, grouped together in a gradual build up. 

Starting here with real simple ones rather than ones that you feel you might gag

on at this point.  You could do each group for a period of time - 3 days, a

week, whatever - and then go on to the next group across.  It would be great if

you could read the group of affirmations 3 times a day out loud.   It would be

more wonderful if you could do that a dozen times.

I am a capable person. 

I am a competent person. 

I am an intelligent person. 

I am a worthwhile person. 

I can dare to take a risk. 

I can dare to see what I see. 

I can dare to think what I think. 

I can dare to question anything. 

I can dare to feel what I feel.

I have a right to exist. 

I have a right to come to my own conclusions. 

I have a right to make mistakes. 

I have a right to be wrong. 

I can say what I feel. 

I can ask for what I want. 

I am free to be me. 

I do not need to prove myself. 

I am entitled to good.

I choose to be happy. 

I trust and follow my inner guidance. 

I am an unlimited being. 

I picture abundance for myself and others. 

I am Happy Joyous and Free. 

I have within myself the answers to all my needs. 

I am a beautiful person. 

I send Love to my fears. My fears are the places within me that await my Love.

I am a success to the degree that I feel warm and loving to myself.

Comparison of myself with another is meaningless.. 

I am whole and balanced within myself. 

I always have everything I need. 

I am enough.

The Light within me is creating miracles in my body mind and relationships here

and now. 

God wants me to be happy, healthy, Loved, and successful!

Abundance is my natural state of being. I accept it now!

I Love myself and naturally attract Loving relationships into my life.

I am the co-creator of my life, I am fully involved in co-creating my life in an

exciting, Joyous, and harmonious way.

I am now celebrating life, having fun and enjoying myself.

I am glad I was born and I Love being alive.

I am a radiant expression of God / Goddess. 

I am now celebrating my life, having fun and enjoying myself. 

I am always deeply relaxed and centered, balanced in every way. 

I don't have to worry about what I say or what I do, because you who sent me

will direct me.

My mind and body are now in balance and harmony and manifest divine perfection.

I accept responsibilities in my life happily and enthusiastically. 

I am the master of my being and an active co-creator of my life.

The entire Universe Loves me, serves me, nurtures me and wants me to win.

My debts represent my & others beliefs in my future earning ability.

The most important thing to my loved ones' happiness is that I be happy first.

I am a Magnificent Spiritual Being having a Joyous and exciting human adventure

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> I find myself to be completely insecure. Especially when it comes to my

husband. I know he loves me and he is really great. But, still, I get

insecure. I always feel like if he doesn't do something he usually does it's

because he doesn't love me or is mad at me. Isn't this weird? Now I've noticed

it, but I'm having trouble stopping the insecurity. I am thinking that if I

can't find a way to stop being so insecure he will get fed up and leave, and I

really don't want that to happen. Not to mention it just plain strains our

relationship sometimes. The bad part to me is that I notice it, but I can't

really stop it. Does anyone have any tips on how to become more secure? Does

any one else feel insecure in partner relationships?

>

> Thanks,

> Lucky

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Lucky. I do understand your feelings and have struggled with them myself. I

don't know that I have one particular solution for you. I will say that therapy

has been VERY helpful to me. I am learning to stop in the middle of those

feelings and look at them more logically and less emotionally. The truth is a

powerful thing, but in a lot of ways I think we carry around more lies than

truths about ourselves as KOs. I will tell you one thing my T told me: Your

husband is a good, intelligent, loving man, and he would not have married

someone who was not his equal. That was very sobering to me, even as I wrestled

through these issues after my husband's death. I really do think that finding

someone to help you more in-depth would be beneficial. These are basic issues

about self-identity that children are supposed to get from their parents, but we

did not. You deserve to have the truth inside you and at the core of who you

are.

Take care,

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> I find myself to be completely insecure. Especially when it comes to my

husband. I know he loves me and he is really great. But, still, I get

insecure. I always feel like if he doesn't do something he usually does it's

because he doesn't love me or is mad at me. Isn't this weird? Now I've noticed

it, but I'm having trouble stopping the insecurity. I am thinking that if I

can't find a way to stop being so insecure he will get fed up and leave, and I

really don't want that to happen. Not to mention it just plain strains our

relationship sometimes. The bad part to me is that I notice it, but I can't

really stop it. Does anyone have any tips on how to become more secure? Does

any one else feel insecure in partner relationships?

>

> Thanks,

> Lucky

>