RE: 12/12...creeping up! Ruminations/panic

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

I felt the same way as a pre-op. Even after losing 60#, I STILL didn't

think the surgery would REALLY work for me. I still have to remind

myself that it will be a lifetime of being conscious of what I eat, but

hey, I actually can say that it's working! I know how you feel, and

don't worry about it. Be as leery as you want. I know you're going to

follow the rules as I have (not perfectly... no one is perfect!), and

you'll be amazed when you wake up and BELIEVE that you're really getting

thinner and healthier. Hang in there!

- AA

Lynn Coulombe wrote:

>

> My surgery is on 12/12 and people ask me what I am

> feeling and I honestly can't answer them. I'm not

> afraid, although I am pretty sure that will come; I'm

> not always excited either. What I have realized is

> that with such a history of failure in the area of

> weight loss in the past, I'm leery. Believe me, I

> intend to be the most compliant, (not a word usually

> applied to me...EVER) patient in every respect. Why

> would I put my body, finances, employer and family

> through this if I didn't intend to do everything I

> could to make sure it is successful? Yet I have failed

> before. Every time. Since about 1966, when I was 10.

>

> I am a psychotherapist so I try to respond as if to a

> client- " Well, Lynn, you have nore emotional tools at

> your disposal, a better support system, more mature

> attitude and serious motivation. " Yeah...OK...I've

> still never succeeded at this...

>

> Truth- I really am eager to get it done next Tuesday.

>

> HEEEELLLLLLLPPPPP! :0

>

> Lynn

>

> =====

> ***************Adopt a retired racing greyhound...a bet everyone

wins!******************

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Lynn,

I'll take your expertise anytime!

Don't be leary, this surgery is something someone can't explain 100% until

you do it. I failed at every diet out there also, but this time, because I

went through surgery itself, I'm determined to keep me smaller than I was.

I feel SO MUCH better, even though I still would like to lose about 80 lbs+.

To me, this was my final option...if this didn't work, NOTHING will!

Dawn

12/12...creeping up! Ruminations/panic

My surgery is on 12/12 and people ask me what I am

feeling and I honestly can't answer them. I'm not

afraid, although I am pretty sure that will come; I'm

not always excited either. What I have realized is

that with such a history of failure in the area of

weight loss in the past, I'm leery. Believe me, I

intend to be the most compliant, (not a word usually

applied to me...EVER) patient in every respect. Why

would I put my body, finances, employer and family

through this if I didn't intend to do everything I

could to make sure it is successful? Yet I have failed

before. Every time. Since about 1966, when I was 10.

I am a psychotherapist so I try to respond as if to a

client- " Well, Lynn, you have nore emotional tools at

your disposal, a better support system, more mature

attitude and serious motivation. " Yeah...OK...I've

still never succeeded at this...

Truth- I really am eager to get it done next Tuesday.

HEEEELLLLLLLPPPPP! :0

Lynn

=====

***************Adopt a retired racing greyhound...a bet everyone

wins!******************

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Lynn,

I have always felt exactly the same way. Many others assured me that weight

loss surgery will be different. It will be work--but you *can* succeed.

I am one week post op, and will probably get an official weight loss today.

But I am down significantly. My scale at home says I am down 24.5 lbs since

last Monday morning.

Hell, if Dr. Randall's scale indicates even half of that, I'll be happy

andrea

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

Surgery scheduled for 11/27/00

Lawrence Memorial Hospital

Dr. Sheldon Randall

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

[Guest guest]

Hi Lynn,

I think I met you at the last NWH meeting - you were sitting next to

me with your husband - was that you? I voiced these same fears in the

meeting about whether or not I'd have long-term success and you said

something to me like " I know what you mean, I'm a therapist and I

have the same questions " - In any case, whether or not that was you -

I think a healthy cautiousness is warranted. I keep reading the posts

here and talking to people outside of this group both on-line and in-

person and everyone's experience it seems is so different. I do

believe though that it's better to take it one step at a time and not

try to predict an outcome. The only thing you can do to be proactive

at this point is to have the best of intentions - which it sounds as

if you do. I wish you the best and will be rooting for your on-going

success in this ever-challenging battle.

Anita

> My surgery is on 12/12 and people ask me what I am

> feeling and I honestly can't answer them. I'm not

> afraid, although I am pretty sure that will come; I'm

> not always excited either. What I have realized is

> that with such a history of failure in the area of

> weight loss in the past, I'm leery. Believe me, I

> intend to be the most compliant, (not a word usually

> applied to me...EVER) patient in every respect. Why

> would I put my body, finances, employer and family

> through this if I didn't intend to do everything I

> could to make sure it is successful? Yet I have failed

> before. Every time. Since about 1966, when I was 10.

>

> I am a psychotherapist so I try to respond as if to a

> client- " Well, Lynn, you have nore emotional tools at

> your disposal, a better support system, more mature

> attitude and serious motivation. " Yeah...OK...I've

> still never succeeded at this...

>

> Truth- I really am eager to get it done next Tuesday.

>

> HEEEELLLLLLLPPPPP! :0

>

> Lynn

>

> =====

> ***************Adopt a retired racing greyhound...a bet everyone

wins!******************

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

best of luck !!!!!!!!

Dawn

Re: 12/12...creeping up! Ruminations/panic

Lynn,

I have always felt exactly the same way. Many others assured me that weight

loss surgery will be different. It will be work--but you *can* succeed.

I am one week post op, and will probably get an official weight loss today.

But I am down significantly. My scale at home says I am down 24.5 lbs since

last Monday morning.

Hell, if Dr. Randall's scale indicates even half of that, I'll be happy

andrea

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

Surgery scheduled for 11/27/00

Lawrence Memorial Hospital

Dr. Sheldon Randall

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

[Guest guest]

Lynn

Breath! You'll be fine. You sound very normal .. and lol you should know ha

ha. No seriously you're right. Very valid concerns and answers. I think

you'll do great. The surgery itself is set up in such a way that in the

beginning its almost impossible to screw up just based on the # of calories

going in being so greatly reduced. So while the unavoidable weight loss is

going on .. you have time to adjust, evaluate what needs to be done, and

work at it. Like with all things making new habits, choices and decisions

takes time.. sometimes with trial and error. Ultimately though remember we

are only human so we are bound to make mistakes now and again. Thankfully

there is always a new day to start anew.

You'll do fine! I am excited for you

Hugs

Lyssa

[Guest guest]

Remember it takes awhile for the mind to catch up to our body and adjust.

Lyssa

Re: 12/12...creeping up! Ruminations/panic

Lynn,

I felt the same way as a pre-op. Even after losing 60#, I STILL didn't

think the surgery would REALLY work for me. I still have to remind

myself that it will be a lifetime of being conscious of what I eat, but

hey, I actually can say that it's working! I know how you feel, and

don't worry about it. Be as leery as you want. I know you're going to

follow the rules as I have (not perfectly... no one is perfect!), and

you'll be amazed when you wake up and BELIEVE that you're really getting

thinner and healthier. Hang in there!

AA