Guest guest Posted August 14, 1999 Report Share Posted August 14, 1999 In a message dated 08/14/1999 7:23:26 PM Pacific Daylight Time, bfletch@... writes: > I argued long and > hard with my Doc to do a distal and he said I only needed a proximal and > I would lose all the weight I needed to. I was upset but this doc knows > wls and my hubby kept saying trust him. I'm about 17 months post op. I > didn't plummet down as fast as some people did but I have kept losing > steadily and while my original goal was somewhere around 180 I have kept > on losing until I'm down below that and have no reason to believe that I > won't get down to my new goal which is 155. Of course at the rate I'm > losing now it will take quite a while but that okay also. I know of one > other person who had a proximal RNY who is at or below their goal weight > so it isn't impossible. That is great Bev! My surgeon does not do distal RNY either, he said the long term stats are no better than proximal, that the risk of nutritional problems weren't worth and extra couple of pounds, and that you either learn to eat normally or don't. I know quite a few distals that have done very well, and they are right on top of their nutritional needs! BTW, my surgeon provides a weekly support group and his patients that attend, usually do get down to ideal weight. Sounds to me like you have been able to make the transition rather easily. I am more stubborn and have had to work harder to break my old habits and messages. Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 1999 Report Share Posted August 14, 1999 I had proximal RNY and am within 17 pounds of my goal weight after nine months time. I think it has to do as much with exercise and water consumption as it does with the type of surgery you have. The surgery is a tool, and if you use only that tool the weight will eventually come off. If you use that tool, but also add other tools to your job, it will get done better and faster. Just a thought. B in California Beverly Fletcher wrote: > > > Hi All, > I was interested in Vicki said about the proxiaml. I argued long and > hard with my Doc to do a distal and he said I only needed a proximal and > I would lose all the weight I needed to. I was upset but this doc knows > wls and my hubby kept saying trust him. I'm about 17 months post op. I > didn't plummet down as fast as some people did but I have kept losing > steadily and while my original goal was somewhere around 180 I have kept > on losing until I'm down below that and have no reason to believe that I > won't get down to my new goal which is 155. Of course at the rate I'm > losing now it will take quite a while but that okay also. I know of one > other person who had a proximal RNY who is at or below their goal weight > so it isn't impossible. > > What I keep wondering is if I will ever look in the mirror and not see > where the fat still is. I think I must but incredibly stupid on some > days I look fat to me no matter what. I wonder if that will ever go > away??? > > Hugs to all, Bev > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 1999 Report Share Posted August 15, 1999 , I read your post and I think how lucky you are and I am jealous. If in 9 months you could be 17 lbs from your goal weight then you obviously were not like I and many others who were way above the 100 lbs needed to even qualify for the surgery. I to be at goal (150, IM 5ft 7) would have to lose a total of 268 lbs.... I have already been told I have 20-30 lbs of hanging skin and I've only, well I wont say only, lost 168 lbs. I guess IM hypersensitive but I think you discount the long fight many of us have long past a year and then with looking like a charpe (sp). Please I know you didn't mean it that way but in my current state I read your post and all I could feel was sad, jealous and then somewhat more low. For everyone out there I say we all have different levels/degrees of emotional and physical layers we have to go through. I've said this a million times.... I lost 183 lbs in 13 months and I was on track now IM not....I'll never regret the surgery but right now IM feeling as if I may have to resign myself to being a 200 lb woman and never reach the quote on quote " goal I so believe I crave. Anyway God I have forced myself to stop holding back hoping it will allow me to stop reverting to stuffing my feelings instead of expressing them. Take this is no way as an attack... You are doing perfect and I applaud you. Damn have I made any sense...? RNY 11/18/97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 1999 Report Share Posted August 15, 1999 Hi Bev You know I reached goal at about 14 or 15 months out and actually went a little lower than I feel comfortable with. what I'm dealing with now sometimes is actually believing that it's gonna stay gone..I wonder if THAT ever goes away. One day about 6 months ago..I was washing my hands at a restaurant..and glanced up and saw this skinny woman looking back...I said to myself.. " who's THAT? " ...honestly..I didn't recognize me....I had always seen the " me " I was pre op..or the " me " I felt pre op..I catch myself looking at that stranger in the mirror all the time. I wear a size 4-6 depending on the manufacturer..and I ask my husband all the time if I look fat...because I still FEEL fat inside...I guess you have to give it time...we built up our self image during the years we actually WERE fat...for me thats at least 25 years..I suppose it's gonna take more than a couple years to make that go away?... love, De Proximal RNY August 15, 1997 5 ft 1 in Age 45 Beginning weight 308 Current Weight 114 (194 pounds GONE!) Proximal RNY > > >Hi All, >I was interested in Vicki said about the proxiaml. I argued long and >hard with my Doc to do a distal and he said I only needed a proximal and >I would lose all the weight I needed to. I was upset but this doc knows >wls and my hubby kept saying trust him. I'm about 17 months post op. I >didn't plummet down as fast as some people did but I have kept losing >steadily and while my original goal was somewhere around 180 I have kept >on losing until I'm down below that and have no reason to believe that I >won't get down to my new goal which is 155. Of course at the rate I'm >losing now it will take quite a while but that okay also. I know of one >other person who had a proximal RNY who is at or below their goal weight >so it isn't impossible. > >What I keep wondering is if I will ever look in the mirror and not see >where the fat still is. I think I must but incredibly stupid on some >days I look fat to me no matter what. I wonder if that will ever go >away??? > >Hugs to all, Bev > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 1999 Report Share Posted August 15, 1999 Yes, , you made perfectly good sense. And you're right that I did not have as much to lose as many do. I was at 274 when I had surgery (5'5 " ). But that is still medically obese and I had all the fun medical conditions to go with it. As well as the psychological issues. You'll get to a place where you are comfortable, but yes, your journey is going to be much longer than mine has been. B in California Gettinthin@... wrote: > From: Gettinthin@... > > , > > I read your post and I think how lucky you are and I am jealous. If in 9 > months you could be 17 lbs from your goal weight then you obviously were not > like I and many others who were way above the 100 lbs needed to even qualify > for the surgery. I to be at goal (150, IM 5ft 7) would have to lose a total > of 268 lbs.... I have already been told I have 20-30 lbs of hanging skin and > I've only, well I wont say only, lost 168 lbs. I guess IM hypersensitive but > I think you discount the long fight many of us have long past a year and then > with looking like a charpe (sp). Please I know you didn't mean it that way > but in my current state I read your post and all I could feel was sad, > jealous and then somewhat more low. For everyone out there I say we all have > different levels/degrees of emotional and physical layers we have to go > through. I've said this a million times.... I lost 183 lbs in 13 months and > I was on track now IM not....I'll never regret the surgery but right now IM > feeling as if I may have to resign myself to being a 200 lb woman and never > reach the quote on quote " goal I so believe I crave. Anyway God I have > forced myself to stop holding back hoping it will allow me to stop reverting > to stuffing my feelings instead of expressing them. Take this is no way as > an attack... You are doing perfect and I applaud you. Damn have I made any > sense...? > > > RNY 11/18/97 > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 1999 Report Share Posted August 17, 1999 I know the feeling of looking in the mirror and not recognizing yourself. People tell me every day how good I look, and I have a hard time accepting the compliments. I am a year post-op and have lost 186 lbs. I still look in the mirror and see the 376 lb person that I saw for so long before the surgery. It is something to get used to. It is getting better for me, but still takes some getting used to. I just returned from Seattle for my brother's wedding and he had not seen me since the surgery or seen a picture of me. He hugged me and lifted me into the air. Never had that happen before. He told me that he was so proud of me and that I looked so good. I think finally after a year that it is sinking in that I can shop in any store for a size 12 rather than at the Large Women's stores, but you know what, when I go into a store, I always walk to the large sizes first. My fiance will say, you don't need to be here anymore and I realize that I don't. I guess the moral of this story is that it takes time for all of us to realize that we are not the same people that we were before, at least physically and it took us a long time to get to our heaviest and we can't expect to get used to being skinny overnight. Best of luck to all of us who are dealing with this mind-set, but it will come for all of us someday. Brigitte Waterloo, Iowa RNY 07-28-99 Lost 186 lbs. --- De wrote: > > > Hi Bev > > You know I reached goal at about 14 or 15 months out > and actually went a > little lower than I feel comfortable with. what I'm > dealing with now > sometimes is actually believing that it's gonna stay > gone..I wonder if THAT > ever goes away. One day about 6 months ago..I was > washing my hands at a > restaurant..and glanced up and saw this skinny woman > looking back...I said > to myself.. " who's THAT? " ...honestly..I didn't > recognize me....I had always > seen the " me " I was pre op..or the " me " I felt pre > op..I catch myself > looking at that stranger in the mirror all the time. > I wear a size 4-6 > depending on the manufacturer..and I ask my husband > all the time if I look > fat...because I still FEEL fat inside...I guess you > have to give it > time...we built up our self image during the years > we actually WERE > fat...for me thats at least 25 years..I suppose it's > gonna take more than a > couple years to make that go away?... > > love, De > Proximal RNY August 15, 1997 > 5 ft 1 in Age 45 > Beginning weight 308 > Current Weight 114 > (194 pounds GONE!) > Proximal RNY > > > >From: Beverly Fletcher > > > > >Hi All, > >I was interested in Vicki said about the proxiaml. > I argued long and > >hard with my Doc to do a distal and he said I only > needed a proximal and > >I would lose all the weight I needed to. I was > upset but this doc knows > >wls and my hubby kept saying trust him. I'm about > 17 months post op. I > >didn't plummet down as fast as some people did but > I have kept losing > >steadily and while my original goal was somewhere > around 180 I have kept > >on losing until I'm down below that and have no > reason to believe that I > >won't get down to my new goal which is 155. Of > course at the rate I'm > >losing now it will take quite a while but that okay > also. I know of one > >other person who had a proximal RNY who is at or > below their goal weight > >so it isn't impossible. > > > >What I keep wondering is if I will ever look in the > mirror and not see > >where the fat still is. I think I must but > incredibly stupid on some > >days I look fat to me no matter what. I wonder if > that will ever go > >away??? > > > >Hugs to all, Bev > > > > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 1999 Report Share Posted August 17, 1999 Hi Vicki, I think I was lucky because I had changed most of my bad habits before the surgery. Food had been an enemy to me for a long time and I was surprised how easy it was to enjoy the really small portions we can eat now. Food and I aren't enemies any more but I think we have sort of an uneasy truce. I find I feel so much better eating only a little food that it has been easy not to want to overdo. Besides my tummy really has fits if I exceed its limit by only one bite even 17 months after surgery. I'm not sure why it has been easier for me than some. I dieted all my life and never was a very big eater which might have helped. I never have missed the amount of food and actually have enjoyed the feeling that I can have a few bites of dessert once in a while or part of a candy bar. I really don't think much about eating anymore. I can make a meal on a Balance bar and often do when I'm working. I try to make sure I'm getting enough protein by keeping cottage cheese around and having a few bites. So far all my blood work has come back normal so I guess everything is okay. I wish I understood better the best way to eat. Sometimes I worry I'm not eating enough and some days I really forget to eat for long periods and I don't get hungry. Of course eventually I realize my blood sugar is bottoming out and eat but I don't think this is the right approach. I'm terrible at organizing my meals in advance and we are a really busy family (isn't everybody) so without microwave defrost we would probably starve or eat out a lot. I think I'm wandering because I'm a little worried about not eating enough but then I don't know what enough is after this surgery and I still have about 20 pounds to lose before I'll be at goal so I don't think it is a problem yet. You know I think if I didn't have something to worry about I would have to make something up <GRIN> Hugs, Bev Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 1999 Report Share Posted August 22, 1999 CONGRATULATIONS BRIGITTE!!!! How wonderful for you. I got goose bumps when I read this: > I just returned from Seattle for my brother's > wedding and he had not > seen me since the surgery or seen a picture of me. > He hugged me and > lifted me into the air. Never had that happen > before. He told me that > he was so proud of me and that I looked so good. I > think finally after > a year that it is sinking __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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