I'm in alot of pain, trying to accept something that doesn't seem right

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I practice good boundaries with people that are emotionally unstable. Of course,

in the workplace, I sometimes maintain relationships I would not choose to

maintain otherwise, because I can't always choose the people I have to interact

with. However, with family, while I can't choose them, I have a choice to put up

boundaries with emotionally unstable family members.

My mom in BPD, a real ringleader, and one of my sisters is sociopath with a

history of criminal behavior and being with abusers. The other sister is dating

a felon with 3 strikes, putting my nephew's life at stake. When all

communication is reduced to taking things out of context to extort money and

rationalize abuse, when I can't give agreement, the choice is clear. I have to

accept the situation, to accept that critical thinking is not on the table, and

create a safe boundary after having tried to communicate. However, when children

are involved, in this case, my teenage nephews, my choice to create a safe

boundary seems at their expense.

I know how acceptance is not approval, but does that mean that I have to accept

the loss of my nephews being in my life, and let go of the fear for the way they

are being raised, because I have to put a boundary up because of my mother's and

my sisters' abuse? If I have no means to find a legal solution (go to court to

insist my no one can brainwash my nephews, or that they don't have the right to

associate with whomever they please??), I have to accept that what happens to my

nephews is out of my hands? I have to accept that my sisters will represent me

as a villain to them, and be able to claim that it's the boys' choice to

disassociate with me because I have the audacity to not give agreement?

I can't accept emotional abuse or change it, so I believe all I can do is walk

away with a prayer in my heart for those boys.

Am I missing anything?