Guest guest Posted November 12, 2000 Report Share Posted November 12, 2000 Dawn, I, personally, am for talking about issues that are bothering us. I just was afraid I had talked too much and that it might be upsetting people. I didn't want people crying. But, I also feel crying helps. I guess I have mixed emotions about crying. If this subject is helping people, inspite of tears, I am for it. We would be facing things head on and sharing our stories with others and would have found another common bond between us. Sally Dawn wrote: > Sally, > > Personally I feel like if people want to share this to each other, and it > helps, why not? If this is a sore subject for the majority, I agree to > stop. What does everyone else think? > > Dawn > > Re: losing parents > > Cheryl, > I am really sorry for all your losses. It must be difficult with your > three > little ones. I can't remember how we started on this thread of sickness, > losing parents, Alzheimers disease. It obviously is and naturally would be > a > part of our lives which is hard to get over (I don't think we can get > completely > over this). I didn't mean to cause anyone pain by discussing myself and > the nursing home. If this thread is too painful, should we change to > another? > I know I have put a lot of weight on since my parents have been gone. > Nervous eating. We can continue this thread if people need to get their > feelings out or we can change to another less painful subject. What do you > all think we should do? I just don't want people suffering because of it. > Majority rules here. Opinions, please. Sally > > cebplus3@... wrote: > > > TO all who wrote on the heartbreak of losing parents, whether to > Alzheimer's, > > or death. > > > > Thank you so much for sharing such intimate, painful parts of your lives. > > > > I too have lost both my parents.. My father died when I was 9 and my > mother > > passed away 9 years ago (almost ten - January 29th). I also lost my only > > sibling - my sister - to throat cancer last March. My mother was the > > youngest of 12 kids and so all my aunts and uncles are also deceased. I'm > > pretty much the matriarch of my family (at age 42!). I'm crying just > > reliving all this loss. Is it any wonder I have abandonment issues??? > > > > Anyway, just wanted to say I'll never get over missing my Mom the most. > She > > was my everything. I miss both her and my sister everyday as I have no > one > > to really turn to for advice about the kids, cooking, old stories, health > > history, etc. Every day brings another reminder of what I'll never have > > again. > > > > I'm hoping my Mom would be happy and proud of me for having this surgery. > I > > hope it gives me the chance to live long enough to see my kids independent > > and on their own. > > > > Thanks for the opportunity to talk. > > > > Cheryl - Mom to , Emma and Drew (2/21/98) - We LOVE being 2!! > > pre-op: 11/21 - 12:20 p.m. > > Dr. Thayer > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2000 Report Share Posted November 12, 2000 I approach everything head on...including houses! LOL! Dawn Re: losing parents > > Cheryl, > I am really sorry for all your losses. It must be difficult with your > three > little ones. I can't remember how we started on this thread of sickness, > losing parents, Alzheimers disease. It obviously is and naturally would be > a > part of our lives which is hard to get over (I don't think we can get > completely > over this). I didn't mean to cause anyone pain by discussing myself and > the nursing home. If this thread is too painful, should we change to > another? > I know I have put a lot of weight on since my parents have been gone. > Nervous eating. We can continue this thread if people need to get their > feelings out or we can change to another less painful subject. What do you > all think we should do? I just don't want people suffering because of it. > Majority rules here. Opinions, please. Sally > > cebplus3@... wrote: > > > TO all who wrote on the heartbreak of losing parents, whether to > Alzheimer's, > > or death. > > > > Thank you so much for sharing such intimate, painful parts of your lives. > > > > I too have lost both my parents.. My father died when I was 9 and my > mother > > passed away 9 years ago (almost ten - January 29th). I also lost my only > > sibling - my sister - to throat cancer last March. My mother was the > > youngest of 12 kids and so all my aunts and uncles are also deceased. I'm > > pretty much the matriarch of my family (at age 42!). I'm crying just > > reliving all this loss. Is it any wonder I have abandonment issues??? > > > > Anyway, just wanted to say I'll never get over missing my Mom the most. > She > > was my everything. I miss both her and my sister everyday as I have no > one > > to really turn to for advice about the kids, cooking, old stories, health > > history, etc. Every day brings another reminder of what I'll never have > > again. > > > > I'm hoping my Mom would be happy and proud of me for having this surgery. > I > > hope it gives me the chance to live long enough to see my kids independent > > and on their own. > > > > Thanks for the opportunity to talk. > > > > Cheryl - Mom to , Emma and Drew (2/21/98) - We LOVE being 2!! > > pre-op: 11/21 - 12:20 p.m. > > Dr. Thayer > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2000 Report Share Posted November 12, 2000 Sally Just my two cents, but isn't the point of this little club of ours is to be able to vent sometimes? I say continue. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2000 Report Share Posted November 12, 2000 Don, You are absolutely correct. I was just feeling badly if it was really emotionally upsetting people. But, we are here to support, vent, care for, listen to, etc. Maybe it helps to get the emotions out. I am for continuing. I was just a little worried about others. I like " this little club is ours " . Sally Dondj@... wrote: > Sally > Just my two cents, but isn't the point of this little club of ours is > to be able to vent sometimes? I say continue. > > Don > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2000 Report Share Posted November 12, 2000 Sally, I have contributed to this stream also. Yes, I too cried while reading and writing. I agree that we should be able to discuss this subject or any other subject which helps us to cope. My two cents. Joni - 14 days pre-op, Dr. Thayer NWH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2000 Report Share Posted November 13, 2000 I agree with you Sally. It is good to get it out especially for you guys that are pre-op. I when remember when I was. Every little thing upset me and I thought of the damnedest things. But, once it's done, a lot of those things tend to take the back burner and you are on your way to a new life. It's good to remember the past but it's also good to try to look at the bright side of things as well. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2000 Report Share Posted November 13, 2000 I have always loved the " Micky Mouse Club " , let's put on our ears and listen! Dawn Re: Response to Sally Don, You are absolutely correct. I was just feeling badly if it was really emotionally upsetting people. But, we are here to support, vent, care for, listen to, etc. Maybe it helps to get the emotions out. I am for continuing. I was just a little worried about others. I like " this little club is ours " . Sally Dondj@... wrote: > Sally > Just my two cents, but isn't the point of this little club of ours is > to be able to vent sometimes? I say continue. > > Don > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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