(abortion, child neglect mentioned)

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Geez, where do I begin... First I want to say that it was nice to hear from

you. I am very sorry about your dog. I remember you dealing with the dog's

health before. I know how it is to be attached to a pet, like it's a member

of the family and to see it suffer and be in pain. It's just like one of

your kids. I hope that the medicine works and that the Vet can do something

else to help it. By the way, what breed of Dog is it?

As for your Mom, geez... I am sorry. We need our Mom's so much as young

Mother's ourselves and when you have to worry about what to say and what her

response will be to your joys or sadnesses, it really makes it hard. When I

was a kid, my mother and I had a horrible relationship. I mean horrible!

Thank goodness that I think she recognizes it now and tries so hard to be the

type of Mom someone would want. And, she is... But, believe me... we had

major trouble. I went through years of blaming her for problems I had in my

life. For never having the type of childhood that all of my friends had (I

had divorced parents). I think it is a good thing though that you got your

feeling out, and her too. Maybe by laying it all out on the line it will

open the channels of communication a little bit and you two can try and mend

your wounds... Would you ever consider a weekend alone with her, or even an

afternoon? That may be hard, with you Dad and all, but it may help you two

get back to being " friends " . I know you probably want the dust to settle

after this blow up, but I hope you and your Mom can work things out in time...

And, as for your PG SIL, good grief!! It never ends, does it? My BIL (DH's

younger brother) has a baby by this girl he has been dating for years. They

won't get married because they fight non-stop and they both date other people

on occasion and my in-laws basically raise their baby and the poor kid is

basically neglected in my opinion, but that's an entire other story, but back

to my point... the girlfriend has had 8, yes I said 8 abortions... the last

one was about 4 weeks ago, 3 months after the one before that. ********HOW

CAN THIS BE?******** I'm going to go off for a minute... please excuse me...

but she breeds like an damn animal.... and then disposes of it as her chosen

method of birth control... she won't take the pill because it makes her gain

weight, she won't have her tubes tied because she is only 22 and wants more

kids... (can you believe?) she won't take depo-provera because it makes her

depressed (she should be depressed), and my BIL won't wear a condom... Ever

excuse there is. I don't speak to this disgusting excuse for a human, this

is all told to me by my dear MIL, who has no regard for the way it makes me

feel... this is the same MIL, who despite me explaining EP's, still tells

everyone that I " can't " get pregnant. Hell, I can get pregnant all I want

to, I just can't get it to the right spot. I don't know why it bugs me for

people to say that I can't get pregnant... It just rubs me wrong... oh, my

MIL also asks me why one of my friends won't act as a surrogate for me...

DUH! That just proves that she never listens to anything about my

problems... Why would I do that? I'd just do IVF and carry it myself! DUH!!!

Anyway, back to the abortion person... I stopped talking to her after the

abortion she had after the baby was about 6 months old... she had like 3 or 4

abortions before the baby who is 2 1/2 and then the rest since she was

born... this poor kid never smiles, she has no structure in her life

what-so-ever... Geez, when she was less than a year old, they would fill her

bottle up with Pepsi... YUCK!!! Last time we visited Florida, they let the

baby walk around eating Lucky Charms right out of the box... How can people

like this have children??? They are so incapable of raising her... and the

poor thing is so cute... but, she is always dirty, her hair is always stringy

and in her face.

Don't they know that Mike and I would take her and raise her as our own and

never think twice about it? No, they want to let her live the way she does

and it totally breaks my heart! UGH!!! Yes, there really are people in this

country that treat their babies like this... sad.

I'm sorry this turned into a novel about these people... I didn't mean it to

be! I, too am not going to read it because I feel like I probably wouldn't

send it...

Take Care and hope everything turns out alright...