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Kayla and our dear moderators, I hate to give you the bad news but the doctors

who are telling you that you are too young for pain management meds won't give

them to you when you are older either. I have seen this first hand with my late

husband, elderly parents and in myself. These types just don't want to deal

with giving out prescription drugs.

As for the old, " You don't look like you are in pain " garbage, I don't look like

I am missing my entire stomach either, but I am. It is like the people who used

to follow my husband and I into the mall and give us grief when we had to park

in the handicapped spot because of his MS. He didn't look like he needed that

spot but believe me, he did.

Doctors are just people with a medical degree and just like other people, if

they don't see an appendage hanging off or missing then it isn't real. We have

invisible disabilities.

There is not one ailment that I have had, and they are many, that has not been

able to be confirmed by tests and scans. In other words they have the evidence

to back it up but to look at me you would never know it and because of that they

still question me.

As for pain tolerance, I too have learned to live with a certain level of pain

all the time but is it costing me? Certainly and I believe that chronic pain

left untreated shortens our lives. It puts our bodies in a constant state of

stress which releases chemicals that should not be released constantly. Pain is

exhausting and wears down our bodies and our wills.

I have been on a kind of tirade lately due to my pain issues, my parents pain

and my father in laws pain. I have seen alot of suffering in the past two

months with all of them and alot of it was ignored or undertreated. The guilty

parties need to spend a week in bed totally dependant on another person and then

they would see us differently.

Unfortunately, I am afraid it is going to get worse when our system gets

overwhelmed by too many patients and too few doctors. Scary.

Terry