Guest guest Posted May 29, 2010 Report Share Posted May 29, 2010 I am engaged and was supposed to be married on June 12th, 2010. I have my wedding dress and have taken my bridal portraits and paid almost everyone. The day of my wedding shower, right after I had received all of my gifts and met his whole family, my borderline mom took me out to dinner and told me that she was calling off my wedding; not me, not my fiance...my mother. She told me it was out of love and a genuine concern for me, and while I know beyond any shadow of a doubt that my mother loves me, I can't help but feel that her rash reaction was more her intense fear of losing me, of admitting that her oldest daughter was grown up, of facing the fact that she was about to lose all control over me and her inability to come to terms with the fact that, in her eyes, I was choosing someone else over her, that I was abandoning her. I could have eloped, or had a small ceremony elsewhere, but I am so emotionally dependent on my mother that I will do almost anything not to lose her intermittent approval because I never stopped needing it because I never really got it. So I'm not getting married in June because, once again, another decision of mine that had nothing to do with her, in the end, had to be all about her. Any thoughts? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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