suing fada? advice

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1) My fiance and I are having money crunch because of deposits and stuff for the

new apt, and moving costs, and the fact that we're both almost unemployed in

anticipation of the move. And my fiance is angry on my behalf at my dad for

taking a ton of my money through a contract, and breaching it.

My senior year of HS, fada took me out to the car dealership and we picked out a

used Malibu and agreed that he would pay half, and I would pay half, of the

monthly payment. He would use the car sometimes, and I would use it most of the

time. When the car was paid off, I was going to get the title to it, for my own.

It was a verbal contract he would repeat a couple of times in the future, and I

agreed, even though every single penny of what I earned went toward that car's

payment and insurance. This would be about March 2006, I would think.

And then in March 2009, my fada disowned me, and said that I had to give back

the car, in email. Then later he said that I could buy the car out from him, by

taking out a personal loan so he could pay it off, and then I would pay in

installments the personal loan.

My fiance and his father at this point went out and bought a used car outright

so that my fiance and I could use it to get to places. It was really really nice

of them. They didn't want me to be beholden to my dad anymore, and the personal

loan interest rate was crazy high. I left the car in the parking lot of their

parish. And mailed the keys. Basically, I lost a lot of my payments in the car

this way, though. About $4000, and I was 3 years into a 4 year car loan. I

haven't received any recompense, and my fada wouldn't give me anything, anyway,

because he would see it as me paying for my use. He would say that I was paying

for the privlege of using the car, instead of paying for the car in anticipation

of owning it.

So, my fada breached the contract. And my fiance has been saying ever since

March 2009 that I needed to sue him to recover some of that lost car payments,

due to breach of contract. It would be very nice to even get just $3500 of that,

it would go a LONG way. but I'm kinda afraid of suing him. I'm afraid of him

gaslighting in court. I'm afraid of causing more financial strain on them, even

though I know it's my fada's fault that he spends his huge income quickly.

(paying for 4 kids nonetheless). I'm afraid of causing even more strain in

family ties...but then again, what ties? Fada and nada and bada have all

disowned me. And that money would be extremely helpful.

Anybody have any experience about legal battles with bpds? and do you think that

money is worth suing for?

thanks!

~Holly