Guest guest Posted October 14, 2005 Report Share Posted October 14, 2005 Colleen- It's nice to have you back. Glad to hear all is well with . I hope she continues to make strides with drinking. That's got to be so frustrating for everybody. Michele W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2005 Report Share Posted October 25, 2005 Don't worry chantelle i am so coming.. I just had wag y too much fun at the last conference to miss it. I know i can save the money. and ill go on all the big rides! last time i went to Disney Land the only rides i can remember going on were the merry go round and the " its a smal worlod " ride > > Hey , > > > how can we get money for this trip? We need to get money under the > table i suppose. Dang too bad odsp is sooo low. I guess if we save up > say 50 bucks each month for the next 20 months or so... lol! > > > Im going on all the rides with you. > > Maby we can stay with Chip or someone so we dont have to worry bout > hotel? > > We need to get Belinda to Cali too. > > > Chantelle > > > > > > > Membership of this email support groups does not constitute membership in > the CHARGE Syndrome Foundation or CHARGE Syndrome Canada. > For information about the CHARGE Syndrome > Foundation or to become a member (and get the newsletter), > please contact marion@... or visit > the web site at http://www.chargesyndrome.org - for CHARGE Syndrome Canada > information and membership, please visit http://www.chargesyndrome.ca or > email info@... . > 8th International > CHARGE Syndrome Conference, July, 2007. Information will be available at > www.chargesyndrome.org <http://www.chargesyndrome.org> or by calling > 1-. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 25, 2005 Report Share Posted October 25, 2005 and ;;you are taking me bel come on and ill squish u > > Don't worry chantelle i am so coming.. I just had wag y too much fun at > the > last conference to miss it. I know i can save the money. > > and ill go on all the big rides! last time i went to Disney Land the only > rides i can remember going on were the merry go round and the " its a smal > worlod " ride > > > > > > > > > Hey , > > > > > > how can we get money for this trip? We need to get money under the > > table i suppose. Dang too bad odsp is sooo low. I guess if we save up > > say 50 bucks each month for the next 20 months or so... lol! > > > > > > Im going on all the rides with you. > > > > Maby we can stay with Chip or someone so we dont have to worry bout > > hotel? > > > > We need to get Belinda to Cali too. > > > > > > Chantelle > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Membership of this email support groups does not constitute membership > in > > the CHARGE Syndrome Foundation or CHARGE Syndrome Canada. > > For information about the CHARGE Syndrome > > Foundation or to become a member (and get the newsletter), > > please contact marion@... or visit > > the web site at http://www.chargesyndrome.org - for CHARGE Syndrome > Canada > > information and membership, please visit http://www.chargesyndrome.ca or > > email info@... . > > 8th International > > CHARGE Syndrome Conference, July, 2007. Information will be available at > > www.chargesyndrome.org <http://www.chargesyndrome.org> < > http://www.chargesyndrome.org> or by calling > > 1-. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2009 Report Share Posted March 26, 2009 Chasity, At Language Link Therapy, Inc. We offer speech/language therapy, occupational therapy, and pragmatic groups. If you are interested please feel free to contact us at . Sincerely, Ilene R. Rotman, M.S. CCC-SLP Director To: sList Sent: Thursday, March 26, 2009 1:14:27 PMSubject: (unknown) Hello, Thank you for allowing me to become a member of this group. I am a single mom to a little boy 10 y/o who was diagnosed with PDD in 2005 and febuary of this year ASD. I am looking to share and receive inforation regarding therapy social outings and awareness. Thanks again Chasity Ezzolo ~ The best moment you spend is the one you invest in your child! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2009 Report Share Posted June 18, 2009 Dear Ida, You always have kind words to say. As you do with Sebastian, I want Tyler to do well and succeed. I get frustrated, or maybe jealous, when other kids are doing things that Tyler isn't. I praise him for the things he does though, To: sList Sent: Thursday, June 18, 2009 5:36:15 AMSubject: (unknown) Dear ,I went through the same thing with Sebastian. No interest in writing whatsoever but with time it has gotten a little better. He will write his name now if I say "First write your name" then you can have the airplane video to watch.... Not to say he enjoys writing his name now but he will not cry and scream about it most of the time. I never force him though. I tell him the video will be waiting for him as soon as he is ready to write his name. This usually works. He still hates to draw though. But the teacher says he does it at school. He just is not into it at home I guess. Maybe one day he will... Don't lose hope, when he was a baby/toddle he would not touch a book. I worried so much! One day he picked up a book on his own and to my surprise less than 6 months later he was reading (without anyone teaching him). You just never know with kids, specially our intriguing ones! Keep the faith, little miracles are always around the corner.Ida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2010 Report Share Posted May 14, 2010 Fiona My mother is almost exactly like this. Fretting over the minor insignificant things and refusing to talke about important things. But mine is different in that she wants to know what we are doing. I don't know if she enjoys hearing bad news or what? Maybe she just wants to make sure that I am not happy. I don't know. Does your mother not do this? felicia i need to be hermits daughter 2. Subject: (unknown) To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 11:56 AM Â Called my mother today for the daily " proof of life " morning call. She went into her cross to bear for the day: the invasion of ants in her apartment. As someone else had posted about their mother, her reactions are utter panic over very small things (I know they're not small to her, but really, her reactions are on par with the way my five-year old daughter would respond). She went into a lengthy explanation of the ants' various locations and activities. Finally, I had the audacity to...gasp...CONVERSE and add something to our " dialogue. " I had the gumption to change the subject to something other than ants. I began telling her about how busy it's been getting at my job. As my mouth began to form a sentence, she said " oh yeah, that's too bad. did I tell you I haven't showered today? " I kept talking as though I were actually talking to someone who gave a rat's ass and finished my thought. I used to become absolutely enraged when she would do this, so upset at her lack of caring, utter lack of interest in anything I do. I would allow it to ruin my day and my attitude. I have to say, since being on this board--I guess it's the validation of seeing that I am not alone in this--I find it amusing and look forward to those moments in my conversations with her when I can do this. Just had to share!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2010 Report Share Posted May 14, 2010 She asks what I'm doing only to assure that she isn't interrupting anything so she can tell a long accounting of her day. This is back when I used to let her do that. She doesn't really ask about what I'm doing or how I'm doing. I wonder sometimes if she's unable to focus on what I'm saying. My brother has the same experience with her. It's like she can't tolerate any conversation that doesn't focus fully on her, her, her. It's better that she doesn't know anything; she would just drive me crazy with her anxious thoughts! So does your mother listen when you answer her question about how you are? Or does she just ask it to be polite? > > > > Subject: (unknown) > To: WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 11:56 AM > > > Â > > > > Called my mother today for the daily " proof of life " morning call. > > She went into her cross to bear for the day: the invasion of ants in her apartment. As someone else had posted about their mother, her reactions are utter panic over very small things (I know they're not small to her, but really, her reactions are on par with the way my five-year old daughter would respond). > > She went into a lengthy explanation of the ants' various locations and activities. > > Finally, I had the audacity to...gasp...CONVERSE and add something to our " dialogue. " > > I had the gumption to change the subject to something other than ants. I began telling her about how busy it's been getting at my job. As my mouth began to form a sentence, she said " oh yeah, that's too bad. did I tell you I haven't showered today? " I kept talking as though I were actually talking to someone who gave a rat's ass and finished my thought. > > I used to become absolutely enraged when she would do this, so upset at her lack of caring, utter lack of interest in anything I do. I would allow it to ruin my day and my attitude. > > I have to say, since being on this board--I guess it's the validation of seeing that I am not alone in this--I find it amusing and look forward to those moments in my conversations with her when I can do this. > > Just had to share!! > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2010 Report Share Posted May 14, 2010 She asks I think to maybe project her anxiety on me. She is a hermit and is afraid of everything so she maybe likes to hear stuff and then tell me how dangerout it is. She also tells me what to do as if I am incapable of planning things out. It's like she doesn't have a life so she fixates on telling me what to do and criticize it. She doesn't have a life period. I am extremely anxious about alot of things and I think I have let her transfer her fears to me. Does that make sense? But she does go on and on about her ailments and what she is going to eat....And then trivial stuff. She does rant about the ants-hey that rhymes or it is the black birds eating the bird food that she puts out. and the all time favorite is the weather. I DON'T CARE!!!!!!!! So i usually try to multi task and not really listen. Subject: Re: (unknown) To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 2:23 PM  She asks what I'm doing only to assure that she isn't interrupting anything so she can tell a long accounting of her day. This is back when I used to let her do that. She doesn't really ask about what I'm doing or how I'm doing. I wonder sometimes if she's unable to focus on what I'm saying. My brother has the same experience with her. It's like she can't tolerate any conversation that doesn't focus fully on her, her, her. It's better that she doesn't know anything; she would just drive me crazy with her anxious thoughts! So does your mother listen when you answer her question about how you are? Or does she just ask it to be polite? > > > > Subject: (unknown) > To: WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 11:56 AM > > >  > > > > Called my mother today for the daily " proof of life " morning call. > > She went into her cross to bear for the day: the invasion of ants in her apartment. As someone else had posted about their mother, her reactions are utter panic over very small things (I know they're not small to her, but really, her reactions are on par with the way my five-year old daughter would respond). > > She went into a lengthy explanation of the ants' various locations and activities. > > Finally, I had the audacity to...gasp...CONVERSE and add something to our " dialogue. " > > I had the gumption to change the subject to something other than ants. I began telling her about how busy it's been getting at my job. As my mouth began to form a sentence, she said " oh yeah, that's too bad. did I tell you I haven't showered today? " I kept talking as though I were actually talking to someone who gave a rat's ass and finished my thought. > > I used to become absolutely enraged when she would do this, so upset at her lack of caring, utter lack of interest in anything I do. I would allow it to ruin my day and my attitude. > > I have to say, since being on this board--I guess it's the validation of seeing that I am not alone in this--I find it amusing and look forward to those moments in my conversations with her when I can do this. > > Just had to share!! > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2010 Report Share Posted May 16, 2010 congrats!!  i think this is great.. each little step we make can make such a big difference in how we feel.  i am so happy and proud for you. blessings, annmay we all heal, as doug says. Subject: (unknown) To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 11:56 AM  Called my mother today for the daily " proof of life " morning call. She went into her cross to bear for the day: the invasion of ants in her apartment. As someone else had posted about their mother, her reactions are utter panic over very small things (I know they're not small to her, but really, her reactions are on par with the way my five-year old daughter would respond). She went into a lengthy explanation of the ants' various locations and activities. Finally, I had the audacity to...gasp...CONVERSE and add something to our " dialogue. " I had the gumption to change the subject to something other than ants. I began telling her about how busy it's been getting at my job. As my mouth began to form a sentence, she said " oh yeah, that's too bad. did I tell you I haven't showered today? " I kept talking as though I were actually talking to someone who gave a rat's ass and finished my thought. I used to become absolutely enraged when she would do this, so upset at her lack of caring, utter lack of interest in anything I do. I would allow it to ruin my day and my attitude. I have to say, since being on this board--I guess it's the validation of seeing that I am not alone in this--I find it amusing and look forward to those moments in my conversations with her when I can do this. Just had to share!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2010 Report Share Posted May 17, 2010 Thanks, Ann; one step forward, two steps back....etc! Take good care, Fiona > > > Subject: (unknown) > To: WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Friday, May 14, 2010, 11:56 AM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Â > > > > > > > > > > Called my mother today for the daily " proof of life " morning call. > > > > She went into her cross to bear for the day: the invasion of ants in her apartment. As someone else had posted about their mother, her reactions are utter panic over very small things (I know they're not small to her, but really, her reactions are on par with the way my five-year old daughter would respond). > > > > She went into a lengthy explanation of the ants' various locations and activities. > > > > Finally, I had the audacity to...gasp...CONVERSE and add something to our " dialogue. " > > > > I had the gumption to change the subject to something other than ants. I began telling her about how busy it's been getting at my job. As my mouth began to form a sentence, she said " oh yeah, that's too bad. did I tell you I haven't showered today? " I kept talking as though I were actually talking to someone who gave a rat's ass and finished my thought. > > > > I used to become absolutely enraged when she would do this, so upset at her lack of caring, utter lack of interest in anything I do. I would allow it to ruin my day and my attitude. > > > > I have to say, since being on this board--I guess it's the validation of seeing that I am not alone in this--I find it amusing and look forward to those moments in my conversations with her when I can do this. > > > > Just had to share!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2010 Report Share Posted June 6, 2010 Hi, My mom too was just diag. with BPD . she is 82 I knew she had a mental illness while growing up. but I became her emotiional caretaker at age 8 I have walked through hoops trying to fix her. NO MORE. Boundaries are my new friend with her. ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Sat, June 5, 2010 10:19:52 PM Subject: (unknown)  Hello ,   I am new to this group and thought i would intro myself. I am 30 year old Widow and mother of 2 , child of untreated BPD mom that i am not in contact with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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