Question about my daughter

May 15, 2010

I know it has been discussed here before about BPD and whether it is hereditary

or in the genes. My daughter has always been spirited and is now 8 years old.

She still has major melt downs when I try to discipline her. I thought she

would grow out of these tantrums. The problem is that yestereday I took her

shopping for winter clothes. We had a lovely day and because the focus was on

her as usual she had great behaviour. The problem happened when we got home and

she wanted me to go through what we had bought and I told her that I had to get

dinner on and would do it after that.

She did not accept this and threw herself on the lounge and gave me a bit of

lip.

I was very angry put the clothes away we bought and sent her to her room.

Usually there is a full blown temper tantrum kicking yelling etc. (this is

becoming less). She immediately came to me saying sorry and realised what she

had done. It seems she is now aware of her snapping behaviour but has no control

over it. I understand that she is only young and learning but when she came out

to talk about what had happened, she showed me that she had bitten herself and

scratched herself because she was angry at herself for how she had acted. Of

course I was very distressed about this.

She has always been a child that needs to be fed on time as her behaviour

changes due to hunger. I know she was needing to have dinner.

I just feel worried about her behaviour and hoping that she doesn't have BPD as

well. It seems she needs so much attention and when she doesn't get it then

acts out. She feels remorsefull after her tantrum and knows it is not the right

thing to do but says she can't control it.

She is like a different child when this happens. When she looses it you can't do

anything until it is expelled. She even went on to say how she felt bad after

all I did for her and that she had treated me like that. So she does have

empathy. Just wondering if other's out there with children can give me some

advice. Is this normal behaviour for a child or am I going to have to deal with

another generation of BPD? How can we tell????????

I feel I am walking on Egg shells with my daughter all the time too.

Kazam x

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