Guest guest Posted May 7, 2010 Report Share Posted May 7, 2010 Big Red Flag. If she doesn't how to help you. Find a different therapist. > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > neone else at this point??? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2010 Report Share Posted May 7, 2010 I second that... I went to 2 different therapists before I found mine and she is terrific. Move on.... AJ > > > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > > > neone else at this point??? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2010 Report Share Posted May 7, 2010 " the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present. " OK that is ridiculous. What if your nada was dead? Would she say, " sorry I can never help you. " Drop her. And don't feel bad about it. Find someone else! Deanna > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > neone else at this point??? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2010 Report Share Posted May 7, 2010 I agree with the earlier posters. Not every therapist has the training, experience or talent to work with the adult survivors of child abuse, so, you have to " shop " for a therapist who has the right qualifications, and who is hopefully a good " match " for you personality-wise as well. I hope you find a good one! -Annie > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > neone else at this point??? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2010 Report Share Posted May 7, 2010 Absolutely, run don't walk away and look for a different therapist. The mistake I've made many times is to " give them a chance " because I feel bad about rejecting them based one appointment. But usually what you see in the beginning is a true reflection of how it will be. > > > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > > > neone else at this point??? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2010 Report Share Posted May 8, 2010 I totally agree with what everyone has said.It sounds like this particular therapist doesn't know about BPD--and if you're having to explain yourself/justify somehow your perceptions in the first session,that's not a good sign. If this helps,here's a link to Psychology Today's " find a therapist " search engine(for the US and Canada).I found several therapists to consult with in my area using this site--the therapists write their own intro and list their strengths and specialities (such as trauma/abuse issues or personality disorders,etc).I found it helpful to have the free consultation with all the therapists who dealt with my issues in order to narrow them down to the one I did choose to go with.(who turned out to be really good!) Best of luck to you... http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php > > > > > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > > > > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > > > > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > > > > > neone else at this point??? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2010 Report Share Posted May 8, 2010 thank you everyone for the advice!!! i didn't fully realize it when i was there but u r all so right...and thank you for the link christine...my " shopping " has begun...just wish more doctors took my insurane > > > > > > > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > > > > > > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > > > > > > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > > > > > > > neone else at this point??? > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2010 Report Share Posted May 8, 2010 I can not agree more with the above. It may take a while, but you have got to find someone who knows BPD. Having your mom present would be a disaster. > > > > i saw a therapist today for the first time about my nada issues...the women doesnt really know what she could do for me without my nada present...she was also suprised by how calm i was for having a mother with such rage issuses > > > > i explained i wasnt always calm...i could remember crying as a child for no reason...noone would believe i didn't have a reason and so i would finally make one up > > > > now i feel numb to it like i expect it but i still cant handel it cause it still upsets me > > > > neone else at this point??? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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