Guest guest Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 Wow!!. Bonnie thanks for sharing! Lynn An analogy We had a meeting for Patty by someone who had evaluated her for work and/or more educational opportunities, etc... Anyway it was wonderful. This woman has a disability as well so her first hand knowlwedge about how hard it is comes from within her. To make a long story short I just wanted to share something she said at the meeting. It was so profound. Patty wants to go to college but first she must take some remedial courses and pass those to go on to a certificiate program or whatever she desires. As Patty was talking she shared how hard it was for her in school, especially without modifications and peoples lack of support and lowered opinions of her and her abilities. This woman acknowledged what Patty said and then told her it was the same with some of the sturggles she had to go through. Then she shared with Patty an analogy of her struggles. She told Patty to imagine in her mind the story " A Perfect Storm. " She told her to then to picture a still frame of a Patty out there in the storm with this huge wave looming over her about to crush her. She said that while in school and without the appropriate modifications she was alone out there in the storm without appropriate help, (such as an interperter, technological aids, sign language), and without a life vest. She told Patty how proud she was of her that she has made it this far. She told Patty that she did so well that she has survived the wave. Patty didn't get crushed and that is fabulous, but she is still out there. It will be different this time because this time she will have the life support that she needs ( such as an interperter, technology....) so that she not only survives another wave but maybe, just maybe, she can overcome this storm. Wow. When she was talking it was all I could do to not cry. It still causes me to have to stop and breathe. Bonnie, Mom to a 22, Patty CHARGE 20 and proud of herself, and wife to Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 Bonnie- That is powerful. Thanks for sharing. What a great way to create an understanding in ourselves, our kids, teachers, everyone. It's so hard to really understand -- but analogies like that can make it so much clearer. Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 wow!!! what a great way to explain it---to the people who just don't get it!! maria An analogy > We had a meeting for Patty by someone who had evaluated her for work and/or > more educational opportunities, etc... Anyway it was wonderful. This woman > has a disability as well so her first hand knowlwedge about how hard it is comes > from within her. To make a long story short I just wanted to share something > she said at the meeting. It was so profound. > > Patty wants to go to college but first she must take some remedial courses > and pass those to go on to a certificiate program or whatever she desires. As > Patty was talking she shared how hard it was for her in school, especially > without modifications and peoples lack of support and lowered opinions of her and > her abilities. > > This woman acknowledged what Patty said and then told her it was the same > with some of the sturggles she had to go through. Then she shared with Patty an > analogy of her struggles. She told Patty to imagine in her mind the story " A > Perfect Storm. " She told her to then to picture a still frame of a Patty out > there in the storm with this huge wave looming over her about to crush her. > She said that while in school and without the appropriate modifications she > was alone out there in the storm without appropriate help, (such as an > interperter, technological aids, sign language), and without a life vest. She told > Patty how proud she was of her that she has made it this far. She told Patty > that she did so well that she has survived the wave. Patty didn't get crushed > and that is fabulous, but she is still out there. It will be different this > time because this time she will have the life support that she needs ( such as > an interperter, technology....) so that she not only survives another wave > but maybe, just maybe, she can overcome this storm. > > Wow. > > When she was talking it was all I could do to not cry. It still causes me to > have to stop and breathe. > > Bonnie, Mom to a 22, Patty CHARGE 20 and proud of herself, and wife to > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 Very well said. That brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing it. Sheryl Mom to Mitch 18 and 18 CHARGE > We had a meeting for Patty by someone who had evaluated her for work and/or > more educational opportunities, etc... Anyway it was wonderful. This woman > has a disability as well so her first hand knowlwedge about how hard it is comes > from within her. To make a long story short I just wanted to share something > she said at the meeting. It was so profound. > > Patty wants to go to college but first she must take some remedial courses > and pass those to go on to a certificiate program or whatever she desires. As > Patty was talking she shared how hard it was for her in school, especially > without modifications and peoples lack of support and lowered opinions of her and > her abilities. > > This woman acknowledged what Patty said and then told her it was the same > with some of the sturggles she had to go through. Then she shared with Patty an > analogy of her struggles. She told Patty to imagine in her mind the story " A > Perfect Storm. " She told her to then to picture a still frame of a Patty out > there in the storm with this huge wave looming over her about to crush her. > She said that while in school and without the appropriate modifications she > was alone out there in the storm without appropriate help, (such as an > interperter, technological aids, sign language), and without a life vest. She told > Patty how proud she was of her that she has made it this far. She told Patty > that she did so well that she has survived the wave. Patty didn't get crushed > and that is fabulous, but she is still out there. It will be different this > time because this time she will have the life support that she needs ( such as > an interperter, technology....) so that she not only survives another wave > but maybe, just maybe, she can overcome this storm. > > Wow. > > When she was talking it was all I could do to not cry. It still causes me to > have to stop and breathe. > > Bonnie, Mom to a 22, Patty CHARGE 20 and proud of herself, and wife to > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2004 Report Share Posted September 23, 2004 As the wife of a university professor who has seen the workings of academia for over 30 years, I have 2 practical suggestions. 1) I think all colleges and universities now have offices of disability (whatever - I can't remember what ours is called - probably has to do with " compliance.) 2) I know that my husband is exquisitively sensitive to students with either visual or hearing loss (has yet to encounter the combination, I think) and really tries to help the students (while being a " real world " hard egg, if that makes sense). Patty needs to try to find someone like Andy when it's time. Such a prof wouldn't - and shouldn't if she's truly to succeed - coddle her but could help make sure that the necessary accomodations are identified and implemented. It isn't always easy or happy. I don't remember the disability, but Andy had one student who just could not make it in his class because of the disability. Caring people then got together to find other classes that would be more satisfactory. There are some real _____ out there in academia, but it IS possible to find others. Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 25, 2004 Report Share Posted September 25, 2004 Hi Bonnie,I hate the computer but I should of gotten on this earlier. is always on this darn thing.Awhile ago I asked her to get me your phone #,because a friend of mine was coming up there for vacation and I wanted to talk to you about things to see /do.She asked and you answered on computer,great,but the friend story was b/s.I wanted to tell you that her b-day was on sept.20.Better late then never.She doesn't want anyone to know,but what's the fun in that!Not liking her age much,she'd kill me If I told you how old she is.Maybe you can guess,it's an even#,a big one,not 20,not30,,,,not50,not60.You didn't hear this from me.I'm going to lie and swear that I told no one.PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SHARE THIS WITH EVERYONE,THE MORE THE MERRIER,sorry it's late.She took Keegan to a b-day party,she'll be home soon,I have to send this and then figure out how to delete the evidence.Love to all,Pat An analogy > We had a meeting for Patty by someone who had evaluated her for work and/or > more educational opportunities, etc... Anyway it was wonderful. This woman > has a disability as well so her first hand knowlwedge about how hard it is comes > from within her. To make a long story short I just wanted to share something > she said at the meeting. It was so profound. > > Patty wants to go to college but first she must take some remedial courses > and pass those to go on to a certificiate program or whatever she desires. As > Patty was talking she shared how hard it was for her in school, especially > without modifications and peoples lack of support and lowered opinions of her and > her abilities. > > This woman acknowledged what Patty said and then told her it was the same > with some of the sturggles she had to go through. Then she shared with Patty an > analogy of her struggles. She told Patty to imagine in her mind the story " A > Perfect Storm. " She told her to then to picture a still frame of a Patty out > there in the storm with this huge wave looming over her about to crush her. > She said that while in school and without the appropriate modifications she > was alone out there in the storm without appropriate help, (such as an > interperter, technological aids, sign language), and without a life vest. She told > Patty how proud she was of her that she has made it this far. She told Patty > that she did so well that she has survived the wave. Patty didn't get crushed > and that is fabulous, but she is still out there. It will be different this > time because this time she will have the life support that she needs ( such as > an interperter, technology....) so that she not only survives another wave > but maybe, just maybe, she can overcome this storm. > > Wow. > > When she was talking it was all I could do to not cry. It still causes me to > have to stop and breathe. > > Bonnie, Mom to a 22, Patty CHARGE 20 and proud of herself, and wife to > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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