Re: any suggestions???

[Guest guest]

Maybe just mail her a card and go to your game??

And I suggest this only b/c it sounds like you don't want to go totally NC (no

contact) with her; it sounds like she's doing a drama queen thing.

Wow, she sounds so much like my mother: the interrogating, accusing tone, the

phone slamming. And then they wonder why we don't want to spend more time with

them.

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> sorry if this is long...

> the last time i spoke to my mother was almost 3 weeks ago...i spent my day off

going around everyones schedule so i could see everyone for their april

birthdays...first was lunch wit the bfs grandpa the plan was then to go to my

grandmothers...plans changed and cake was being had at my cousins where i was

able to see my cousin and grandmother all at once, along with the rest of my

family...called my mom in between and she let me know she was not going to my

cousins cause she felt she was not invited...instead she was at a bar with

friends and i was not to tell neone that...when i got home i received a call

from her and in a nasty tone she began to question me about my " lunch " when i

asked why it was a big deal that i went to lunch she screamed it wasn't and hung

up the phone on me...about an hour later i received a text message that read

" funny how his family has become the priority...ur grandmother would have loved

to gone to lunch "

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> back history the bfs grandpa is newly widowed and goes to lunch everyday with

his sister-in-law so when u would like to visit with him HE takes YOU to lunch

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> i know i did nothing and i also know i have nothing nice to say to mother

since that day

>

> mothers day is sunday and i am on a softball team whoses games are sundays

>

> any advice on how to handel my day and situation???

>

[Guest guest]

Luci - Yep, just what I was going to suggest. Mail the card now (you can pick a

non-committal " hope you have a nice day " card - we've had long discussions in

the past here about how those saccharine Mothers' Day cards don't cover our

feelings for our moms) - so she gets it in time and can't say you didn't send

her anything. Then go to the game and have a great time. I also think it's

perfectly reasonable to let yourself off the hook for things she says when she's

calling you from a bar in the middle of the day. I have nothing against bars -

but " drinking and dialing " is not conducive to sane, rational conversations,

even with non-BP's.

Batter up!

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> > sorry if this is long...

> > the last time i spoke to my mother was almost 3 weeks ago...i spent my day

off going around everyones schedule so i could see everyone for their april

birthdays...first was lunch wit the bfs grandpa the plan was then to go to my

grandmothers...plans changed and cake was being had at my cousins where i was

able to see my cousin and grandmother all at once, along with the rest of my

family...called my mom in between and she let me know she was not going to my

cousins cause she felt she was not invited...instead she was at a bar with

friends and i was not to tell neone that...when i got home i received a call

from her and in a nasty tone she began to question me about my " lunch " when i

asked why it was a big deal that i went to lunch she screamed it wasn't and hung

up the phone on me...about an hour later i received a text message that read

" funny how his family has become the priority...ur grandmother would have loved

to gone to lunch "

> >

> > back history the bfs grandpa is newly widowed and goes to lunch everyday

with his sister-in-law so when u would like to visit with him HE takes YOU to

lunch

> >

> > i know i did nothing and i also know i have nothing nice to say to mother

since that day

> >

> > mothers day is sunday and i am on a softball team whoses games are sundays

> >

> > any advice on how to handel my day and situation???

> >

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