Advice for overbearing nada?

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Hi all,

my nada is having one of her episodes today and I am new to the community, was

wondering if anyone has any advice regarding how to deal with her. It's only

been an hour so far, but it is so hard to handle that an hour in hell feels like

forever!

She leaves numerous voice mail messages and texts complaining of how she feels

that sad that I not " sharing " with her ( we are LC - almost NC for the first

time this week- an action mostly initiated by her- long story!)

Anyway, I think 2 or 3 days can probably feel like forever for a NC nada, and

she's ready to start up the adventure again, whereas I'm jut beginning to unwind

and feel some semblance of relief and sanity. but now it's started up again

YIKES! I just don't know how to deal with her- is the best thing to avoid her

calls when she's like this, or to answer and try to pacify her? I always wish I

could solve things, but it never works (obviously).

Anyway, just hoping for some advice from those of you who are more experienced

than I.

She keeps complaining that she is sad because we do not have " a relationship " .

She's said this for years, even when we were super close and did EVERYTHING

together, any time that I did ANYTHING separately from her, she complained that

we " do not have a relationship "

sometimes i really begin to wonder WHY I was put in this situation with this

kind of nada, is there some divine purpose to why my life has to be so hard? I

just want it to be easier.

Let me know if there are any suggestions ....

Best,

Izzie