Re: Bad Day

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> I decided my best bet was to take him to nursery and clean him up there

before getting him to the doctor home to cheer him up!

>

>

> How do other people deal with this kind of thing - I reckon that as my

hours are strictly limited anyway perhaps DH should take time off when Baby

Tim's poorly. Am I on to a loser here?

>

> Anneliese (part-time) SAHM to Baby Tim (18/9/99), member, Alton, Bordon

and district branch

Anneliese - I know just how you feel on this one!! First of all, you are

lucky your nursery would deal with Tim - mine doesn't want the children at

nursery within 24 hours of being sick.

I agree about Dh taking time off - mine has paid time off to look after kids

written into his contract, but who ended up taking time off to look after

DD1 with chicken pox? Yep, you've guessed it!! I don't get paid for time off

to look after sick kids. Either have to take unpaid leave (can't afford it

as still have to pay for nursery) or take holiday.

Luckliy, mum had DD1 today so I was able to go back to work. They agreed to

give me 1 day off compassionate leave so I only had to take 1 day holiday

(good job I get on well with my boss!!!). Don't know what I will do if DD2

gets pox!

Hope Tim recovers and you get sorted

[Guest guest]

>For something that was entirely DH's fault I have had to take 4 1/2 hours

off work and spend 90 miles in a >car reeking of babysick...

>

> How do other people deal with this kind of thing - I reckon that as my

hours are strictly limited anyway perhaps DH should take time off when Baby

Tim's poorly. Am I on to a loser here?

My DH did *exactly* the same thing with Emma when she was about 5 months old

(he fell asleep again when supposed to be watching her). I think it's

something all dads have to do once. I had also just started going back to

work (full-time) and I think basically you're on to a loser. It always seems

to automatically be the mums job to be the primary carer and house cleaner

even when both partners are working full-time. Unless you get in there early

to condition dh that he is just as responsible and your job is just as

important then you can look forward to more of the same. But hey, at least

when you are at work you can have a cup of coffee in peace so there are some

compensations :-) To be honest I found it much easier in many ways to be

back at work than looking after Emma full-time. Hope you don't have too

many more bad days like this.

Helen

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> > How do other people deal with this kind of thing - I reckon that as my

> hours are strictly limited anyway perhaps DH should take time off when

Baby

> Tim's poorly. Am I on to a loser here?

>

> I had also just started going back to

> work (full-time) and I think basically you're on to a loser. It always

seems

> to automatically be the mums job to be the primary carer and house cleaner

> even when both partners are working full-time.

It's my childminded children's dad who is first on call for illness,

accidents etc. The mum is a teacher and can't easily abandon a class of 8

year olds whereas the dad can usually leave what he's doing till the next

day. takes half days for school performances, nursery visits etc as

well as being off if any of the kids are ill. He has to take holiday and

has used well over half of this year's entitlement on looking after his

children.

Lynda

SAHM to (7), (5), Fraser(2), Callum 15/5/00

Newsletter editor & general dogsbody, Mid-Northumberland branch

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[Guest guest]

>>For something that was entirely DH's fault I have had to take 4 1/2 hours

>off work and spend 90 miles in a >car reeking of babysick...

>>

>> How do other people deal with this kind of thing - I reckon that as my

>hours are strictly limited anyway perhaps DH should take time off when Baby

>Tim's poorly. Am I on to a loser here?

>

When I was working full time I had more than one conversation with DD

Nursery which went thus:

Them " Annie's been sick/is ill/ can you come and get her? "

Me " Well if you insist but I'm at least 2 hours away, if you really want

her collected now can you call her father - he is the named first

contact in this case "

Them " We tried him but he isn't available "

Me (thinking - have they actually called him?) " I'll just have to make

a call and then I'll ring back and let you know who's coming "

Followed by a call to his office to discover that he hasn't spoken to

them, that they haven't even called when he checks with the switchboard

etc. etc.

Eventually I got our switchboard to screen the calls for me and suggest

that the nursery called her dad as 'She isn't available'.

I left that job at Christmas anyway as DD was totally miserable there

and it just wasn't worth it anymore...

BTW my partner worked less than 5 minutes walk from the nursery in

question and was the one who (almost) always dropped her off and

collected her, and if I had turned up very few of the staff would have

known who I was anyway!!

--

Helen Armfield

[Guest guest]

> >For something that was entirely DH's fault I have had to take 4 1/2 hours

>off work and spend 90 miles in a >car reeking of babysick...

>>

>> How do other people deal with this kind of thing - I reckon that as my

>hours are strictly limited anyway perhaps DH should take time off when Baby

>Tim's poorly. Am I on to a loser here?

>

>My DH did *exactly* the same thing with Emma when she was about 5 months old

>(he fell asleep again when supposed to be watching her). I think it's

>something all dads have to do once.

We had this problem at the weekend (were in a B & B for a wedding) I

left sleeping with DH seeing an opportunity for a rare

peaceful breakfast for myself. Bump. DH states that I just can't

leave him on the bed like that anymore...

However, I should point out that it was grandpa who flew into the

room to gather up the fallen - and that we later discovered the

mattress was actually on a slope. And that the day before I'd left

asleep on the bed alone knowing perfectly well it wasn't safe

(he's 10 months now for goodness sake) So he had a bruised forehead

for the wedding photos, and whilst I was consoling him, DS1 was busy

rubbing Kamillosan into his hair. At which point I phoned DH to come

home...

And doesn't nature have it in for us mums - we don't sleep as heavily

as fathers? though whilst I was away did fall out of bed in

the middle of the night - I never normally have him on the

un-bedrailed side at that time as I sleep more heavily then.

But I agree absolutely - it does seem that even if the mother is

working full time too the buck always stops with her - even, from

observation when that means the child sometimes loses out ie doesn't

get taken for hospital appointments or whatever :-(

As I have said before, IMHO the rot sets in the moment they send the

father home after the birth. You do all that labouring & /or have

major surgery and the *professionals* are still saying you are the

person who should and could be doing *everything* for your child.

At the wedding venue, the only nappy changing facilities were in the

ladies. Well,we weren't having that and had plenty of men in there,

such that a few women thought they were in the wrong place!

--

Vaudin

jennifer@...

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Ever just have one of those days... I mean one of those really bad days where

you wake up after dreaming you were on vacation only to find out that you are

at home in bed and the cool breeze you thought you felt was just the ceiling

fan. So you get up and trip over the shoes you left lying in the floor the

night before. You put on your favorite outfit hoping it'll cheer you up only

to spill coffee seconds before you walk out the door and minutes after you

should have already been gone. SO you change clothes in a big hurry only to

realize as you speed down the highway realizing you just ran through radar

and get prepared to get pulled over that you have on black pants and navy

shoes...You sign your name on the ticket not caring about how much it'll cost

only that you HAVE to get to your meeting, only to get to your office and

realize the meeting was being held at the other office and there's no way to

get there before it'll be over. Yep, and that was just my morning.....and

then on the way home I had a flat tire (it's 106 outside) and ripped my best

white blouse, almost ran out of gas....and then when I finally made it home

my neighbor rushed over to tell me she just found out she's PG !! What a

day.......sorry to vent but thank God tomorrow is FRIDAY and I'm off to the

lake.

Dana F.

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Dana,

OMG!! You know, at first I thought that must just be some thing that someone

sent you!!! Did all of that stuff really happen to you today? You poor

thing!!! I'm so sorry! I hope tomorrow is much better!

Amy

**married to my army man,

**mommy to earth angel (June 97)

and 2 angel babies (June 98 and July 99)

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Dana F.

The only thing I can say after what you wrote is that if you think

you are on vacation and the breeze is your ceiling fan, then you trip

over your shoes... be sure to fall BACKWARDS into bed and call off

sick, it will be safer I think.

Sure hope you have an uneventful weekend at the lake, but great

weather!!

Kel

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Kel,

LOL, now that's what I should have done...but today has already started on a

much better note. My boss canceled the 8:30 meeting so I don't have to be at

work until 10:00. Then she is flexing half a day for us so I'll have time to

run home to get everything together before DP gets home. I hope everyone has

a glorious Labor Day weekend. I am planning for fun in the sun. I finally

fell back up to a long weekend of water sports, probably my last chance to

water ski this summer.

Dana

[Guest guest]

Blaaahhh! I say-go to the lake!!! Have a great weekend! Now I feel my

days are good in comparison!!

Vicki

gradstu12@... wrote:

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>

> Ever just have one of those days... I mean one of those really bad days where

> you wake up after dreaming you were on vacation only to find out that you are

> at home in bed and the cool breeze you thought you felt was just the ceiling

> fan. So you get up and trip over the shoes you left lying in the floor the

> night before. You put on your favorite outfit hoping it'll cheer you up only

> to spill coffee seconds before you walk out the door and minutes after you

> should have already been gone. SO you change clothes in a big hurry only to

> realize as you speed down the highway realizing you just ran through radar

> and get prepared to get pulled over that you have on black pants and navy

> shoes...You sign your name on the ticket not caring about how much it'll cost

> only that you HAVE to get to your meeting, only to get to your office and

> realize the meeting was being held at the other office and there's no way to

> get there before it'll be over. Yep, and that was just my morning.....and

> then on the way home I had a flat tire (it's 106 outside) and ripped my best

> white blouse, almost ran out of gas....and then when I finally made it home

> my neighbor rushed over to tell me she just found out she's PG !! What a

> day.......sorry to vent but thank God tomorrow is FRIDAY and I'm off to the

> lake.

>

> Dana F.