Guest guest Posted August 19, 2000 Report Share Posted August 19, 2000 Hello girls, I have a question for all of you ladies. My darling boyfriend( 5 years relationship) would like to get married now , the last week of September. The only problem is that he is very nervouse and doesn't like reception and photographs and all the good stuff. He said he justs want to get married by Civil. I told him i wanted a small reception or a get together at his apt. He said no, to wait for that when we get the house that he bought. I don't want it in the new house because then we will be celebrating the house warming party and our reception. We don't get the house until i think, in Dec or Jan01. My parents live in Florida and they don't really like him nor do they speak to him. He said it would be just our small civil wedding. Now, i was depressed because i have been waiting to get married for 5 years with him and finally he wants has decide it to but without a reception or celebration. He noticed i was sad and then changed his mind and said " OK " " If you want a small reception then we are going to have to wait until January and save some money for the reception and catering " Let's wait until January so you can invite your parents because the flight tickets will be cheaper around that time. Now, my question is, I don't know if i should wait a couple of more months.. I Have been waiting so many years and now this happens. I am afraid that by waiting these couple of more months something can happen. That is why i feel like just marrying him by civil and not inviting the family..I am in a codition between the walls. I don't know what to do. I don't want to loose him. Please advice Emperus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Emperus, If the wedding and reception is important to you then you should have it. If a couple of months might change things is this the guy you want to marry? You only get married once. I find it really odd that he doesn't want to have anything and if you want to get married it has to be now. I think you need to sit down and discuss w/him what you both want and decide together. I think if you don't have the wedding you want you will regret it and blame him later. I would find out what his true intentions are with you. How long have you been waiting for him to want to get married? Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Emperus, If the wedding and reception is important to you then you should have it. If a couple of months might change things is this the guy you want to marry? You only get married once. I find it really odd that he doesn't want to have anything and if you want to get married it has to be now. I think you need to sit down and discuss w/him what you both want and decide together. I think if you don't have the wedding you want you will regret it and blame him later. I would find out what his true intentions are with you. How long have you been waiting for him to want to get married? Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Emperus, If the wedding and reception is important to you then you should have it. If a couple of months might change things is this the guy you want to marry? You only get married once. I find it really odd that he doesn't want to have anything and if you want to get married it has to be now. I think you need to sit down and discuss w/him what you both want and decide together. I think if you don't have the wedding you want you will regret it and blame him later. I would find out what his true intentions are with you. How long have you been waiting for him to want to get married? Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Pam and to the rest of you guys, He mentioned it again today of us getting married again in September. I told him that yes I would love to. He then said that for me to find out information on a hall that is very cheap and unexpensive. So we can invite just my family and his family and a few of our friends. I am looking up for some information on certain places. Then he and i are going to sit down and discuss the rest.. Wish me luck! Emperus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Pam and to the rest of you guys, He mentioned it again today of us getting married again in September. I told him that yes I would love to. He then said that for me to find out information on a hall that is very cheap and unexpensive. So we can invite just my family and his family and a few of our friends. I am looking up for some information on certain places. Then he and i are going to sit down and discuss the rest.. Wish me luck! Emperus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2000 Report Share Posted August 20, 2000 Pam and to the rest of you guys, He mentioned it again today of us getting married again in September. I told him that yes I would love to. He then said that for me to find out information on a hall that is very cheap and unexpensive. So we can invite just my family and his family and a few of our friends. I am looking up for some information on certain places. Then he and i are going to sit down and discuss the rest.. Wish me luck! Emperus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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