Guest guest Posted May 19, 1999 Report Share Posted May 19, 1999 Hi Everyone, Well, today was the day for my psyche eval, but it looks like it's only the beginning. I saw the therapist for the first time this afternoon. She was very nice and easy to talk to but she said she couldn't make a proper evaluation decision until I have a few more visits with her. I've scheduled two more sessions. Is this normal or do you think she may just be pumping my insurance company? I really don't want to do anything to anger my insurance company right now. I still don't have my final approval letter and I am solely going on a verbal which really has me nervous anyway. My Benefits Administrator told me the approval letter should be mailed to my by Friday, but I can't help and worry until I have it in hand. The therapist didn't seem to think I was depressed...I guess that's good news. She did mention that she had just met with a patient yesterday who had never been to a therapist before and had some surgery a few weeks ago. The patient had a breast reduction (I guess I am too in a way) anyway, the lady was EXTREMELY depressed now post-operatively and was even suicidal. She said it was going to be hard work to build a trusting relationship with this patient now. My therapist thought it was wonderful that Dr. Rutledge was asking his patients to see a therapist pre-operatively to better prepare for surgery and open the lines of communication up should they be necessary post-operatively. She said she wished all surgeons would do this...So WAY TO GO DR. R.!! Still, I'd be lying if I didn't say I'm very tired trying to jump through the hoops and get everything ready by July. I'm so afraid I'm going to miss something.... A friend from land, Janet age: 35 bmi: 50 status: pre-op Just Approved by BCBS of MD on 5/12/99; surgery date 7/19/99 family: married 15 years with 4 children (2 girls & 2 boys) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 1999 Report Share Posted May 19, 1999 Janet, I had to listen to all those same things from my mother. " I had a friend that had it done and......yada yada yada " She finally came around. It's totally your decission if you want to tell her after. There are quite a few people I chose to do that with also. You are a grown up...You are a grown up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 1999 Report Share Posted May 19, 1999 Hi again Janet! You know, I thought that my folks were going to go balistic and surprisingly they were VERY supportive and helpful. My cuz is a anesthesiologist and she was also helpful in blunting the blow. My sister is an excercise phyisiologist and after reading the education manual, asked a few questions and then hugged me and said that she hoped it went well and if it would make me healthier " YEAH! " I am 33 and I thought that my mom would think I was insane but she also knows how I have been the last couple of years now that my weight is totally uncontrollable as well as uncomfortable.I had the whole " reasons for doing this " all laid out in my mind and even the things that I did not want to face myself such as the hygeine issue and such. I was gonna go whole hog on her and had the defenses in position.........she says " oh Paige I am glad and your dad and I support you " (ps they are in Wilmington) I think she is ready for her 'little' girl back, the one who was healthy and happy and helpful.I hope this is helpful and does not sound preachy:) I think I have a new motto, Never underestimate your mother! Godspeed and goodluck Paige > >Reply-To: MiniGastricBypassonelist >To: <MiniGastricBypassonelist> >Subject: Re: Psyche Eval >Date: Wed, 19 May 1999 19:04:55 -0400 > > > >Thanks for responding , I was definitely thinking that she was >trying to make my life more difficult when I left the office today. I said >to myself, " Great, one more hoop. " Thanks to you, I now have a different >perspective. I'm sure I'll be okay once it's all done. I don't really want >to dive into the whole " why haven't you told your mom about the surgery " >thing, though and the therapist did kind of bring that whole issue up. >Doesn't this woman have a normal mother? My mom would throw a fit! She >would >tell me to cut back, leave food on my plate, keep cut up celery/carrots on >hand...blah blah blah. Then she would tell me some stomach stapling horror >story from the seventies about someone she " heard " about...UGH!! No thanks. >I like to keep my mother pleasantly uninformed. It works for both of us. >Besides, I'm going to tell her the truth in August when we visit my parents >in South Carolina. It's not like I'm not ever going to tell her the >truth...I just choose to tell her post- not pre-operatively. It's my choice >anyway...right? As Vicki said, " I am a grown-up...I am a grown-up... " > >A friend from land, >Janet >age: 35 >bmi: 50 >status: approved; surgery date 7/19/99 >family: married 15 years with 4 children (2 girls & 2 boys) > > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Are you hogging all the fun? >http://www.onelist.com >Friends tell friends about ONElist! >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass List at Onelist.com _______________________________________________________________ Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 1999 Report Share Posted May 19, 1999 , and Janet, I can vouch for that , because while you were weighing in that Thursday April 1 I quizzed your mom on what she thought about you doing this! She said I thought she was CRAZY! But she smiled when she said it! Janet, that was what gave me the courage to do it! did you get my e-mail I sent you???? Paige aka ragtime74 >From: CmacyM@... >Reply-To: MiniGastricBypassonelist >To: MiniGastricBypassonelist >Subject: Re: Psyche Eval >Date: Wed, 19 May 1999 21:04:58 EDT > >From: CmacyM@... > >Janet, >I had to listen to all those same things from my mother. " I had a friend >that had it done and......yada yada yada " She finally came around. It's >totally your decission if you want to tell her after. There are quite a >few >people I chose to do that with also. You are a grown up...You are a grown >up! > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Having difficulty getting " in synch " with list members? >http://www.onelist.com >Try ONElist's Shared Calendar to organize events, meetings and more! >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass List at Onelist.com _______________________________________________________________ Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 1999 Report Share Posted May 19, 1999 Janet, You are going to get tired of messages from me.....maybe I should read all my e-mail first before answering anyone because so many of the other answers are related or remind me of something else I wanted to tell you....... Having seen a counselor/therapist for over 2 years now (severe depression, panic/anxiety attacks, total withdrawal from societal interaction (can y'all believe I was ever " withdrawn " ) I can tell you from first-hand experience that having an established relationship with one prior to need makes any contact afterward more helpful because the rapport and trust have already started building. Also, a lot of psychiatrists, psychologist, and licensed counselors are worried about the liability aspects of certifying someone for potentially life (before and after) threatening surgery without really having a handle on where a patient is coming from and what ramifications are involved pre and post-op. Most of us mortals (unless we are true socio-paths) can't fake normalcy through 3 visits.....of course, then there are those like myself who prefer non-normalcy!!!! Re: Psyche Eval >From: CmacyM@... > >Janet, > >I don't think it was an unusual request for your therapist to ask to see you >a few more times. I believe I had to see mine three times before she would >send anything to Dr. Rutledge. She said it was because she needed time to >get to know me and the procedure and make sure that everything was kosher. I >happened to think at the time that she was trying to make my life difficult, >but looking back on it I'm glad she did it the way she did. I would have no >problem going back to her in the future! > > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Campaign 2000 is here! >http://www.onelist.com >Discuss your thoughts; get informed at ONElist. See our homepage. >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass List at Onelist.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 1999 Report Share Posted May 20, 1999 Janet, You know, I am with you there.I am glad I could be of some help and I hope this will not be a bad experience but one of epiphany as you and your folks grow from this experience. Whether you know it or not they have been hurt by every word, deed and any teasing you might have endured as a child. You remember them saying after they punish you that " this will hurt me more than you " I honestly think it does and this may be a relief that you will be healthy and whole again:)hugs and Godspeed Paige > >Reply-To: MiniGastricBypassonelist >To: <MiniGastricBypassonelist> >Subject: Re: Psyche Eval >Date: Thu, 20 May 1999 17:01:26 -0400 > > > >Hi Paige, I emailed back and forth with Dr. R. about the subject of telling >one's parents last night, and I've decided to go ahead and tell my mom and >dad. Dr. R. has pretty much put his foot down about the whole issue and I >have to respect his wisdom...he's the one who has worked with so many of us >already...everything else he has done has been for my own good, I just pray >he's right about this. Hopefully, given enough time, my mom will >understand. >I know she'll love me no matter what I do, I just didn't want to worry her. >Thanks to you to . It's so nice to have this group. There is >absolutely no where else I can turn to anyone who fully understands all the >ins and outs of preparing and then getting through this surgery. It's >unbelievable to me because even though I've worked in the technical field >for many years, I would have never thought I'd grow to become so attached >to >people on the Intranet. Everyone here truly is a blessing. > >A friend from land, >Janet >age: 35 >bmi: 50 >status: approved; surgery date 7/19/99 >family: married 15 years with 4 children (2 girls & 2 boys) > > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >ONElist members are using Shared Files in great ways! >http://www.onelist.com >Are you? If not, see our homepage for details. >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >This message is from the Mini-Gastric Bypass List at Onelist.com _______________________________________________________________ Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 1999 Report Share Posted May 20, 1999 Janet, Good luck with your " talk " ....I've already been down the road you are on with your mother. Mine was pretty wigged out......but came around(not full circle yet...but getting closer) I will be praying for your mother tonight and everyone elses families and friends who lack the knowledge we have........ A renal doctor asked me three years ago if I ever would consider WLS.......I thought he was an insensitive thin man.......know look at me! Fighting an insurance company!!!! Who would believe it? Peace... Christy E. Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 1999 Report Share Posted May 20, 1999 Hi Paige, I emailed back and forth with Dr. R. about the subject of telling one's parents last night, and I've decided to go ahead and tell my mom and dad. Dr. R. has pretty much put his foot down about the whole issue and I have to respect his wisdom...he's the one who has worked with so many of us already...everything else he has done has been for my own good, I just pray he's right about this. Hopefully, given enough time, my mom will understand. I know she'll love me no matter what I do, I just didn't want to worry her. Thanks to you to . It's so nice to have this group. There is absolutely no where else I can turn to anyone who fully understands all the ins and outs of preparing and then getting through this surgery. It's unbelievable to me because even though I've worked in the technical field for many years, I would have never thought I'd grow to become so attached to people on the Intranet. Everyone here truly is a blessing. A friend from land, Janet age: 35 bmi: 50 status: approved; surgery date 7/19/99 family: married 15 years with 4 children (2 girls & 2 boys) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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