Guest guest Posted April 21, 2010 Report Share Posted April 21, 2010 im new here..im 22 and i just had the " lightbulb effect " 3 days ago when i noticed this book SWOES in barnes and nobles. im pretty sure my father has bpd/npd and it has taken me this long to actually put a name on the emotional torture i have been living with my entire life! it feel so good and relieving to finally know that its not all in my head and that im not the horrible person he tries to make me think i am. i have a question..what does NC stand for? i have an idea what it means but not what the letters stand for :/ Subject: Re: Living at Home To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Tuesday, April 20, 2010, 4:49 PM Â I haven't lived with my nada or fada since I was 16, I got out as quickly as possible. If you're still living at home with nada/fada get out as quickly as possible. In retrospect I would have gotten out sooner, lived in a car, with friends, anything. Anything is better than nadas/fadas. The only way I could keep sane was to not live with/near them. Otherwise I am in the crazy vortex and am miserable. There's no getting around misery when you live under the same roof as a BPD. During the time I was growing up with nada (and two older, abusive brothers), to cope, I spent as much time away from my house as I could. I slept over at friend's houses, went on school trips (paid for myself from babysitting and odd jobs for neighbours). I would sometimes just go to the local park and hope to find other kids there. I hid in my room alone, usually crying. I avoided contact with other family members and when it was impossible to avoid, and the abuse occurred, I confided in my best friend a lot. Friends are so important. I wish I would have known about BPD then, because it would have been easier to cope. Research and knowledge in BPD is very empowering. No matter what, if you get out, don't go back. Ever. I made the mistake of allowing my nada to talk me into staying with her one summer between college semesters. (I paid for college myself with no help from her of course). Foolishly, I stayed there. It was a disaster and I didn't even last the summer with her. They will never change and it's not worth it to go back, ever. Are you stuck there? What's your situation specifically? Student? Are you quite young still? Perhaps you might receive some practical ideas to help you from this board if you can give some more details on your situation. Naturally you're going to feel frustrated if your trapped but coping strategies are key in the meantime. > > Is there anyone still living with the BPD parent? > > If so, how do you cope? How do you keep your own sanity? > > Have you ever lived out of the home before you came back? Is the difference astounding? > > Are you trying to leave? > > Are you frustrated if you can't leave just yet? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2010 Report Share Posted April 21, 2010 im new here..im 22 and i just had the " lightbulb effect " 3 days ago when i noticed this book SWOES in barnes and nobles. im pretty sure my father has bpd/npd and it has taken me this long to actually put a name on the emotional torture i have been living with my entire life! it feel so good and relieving to finally know that its not all in my head and that im not the horrible person he tries to make me think i am. i have a question..what does NC stand for? i have an idea what it means but not what the letters stand for :/ Subject: Re: Living at Home To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Tuesday, April 20, 2010, 4:49 PM Â I haven't lived with my nada or fada since I was 16, I got out as quickly as possible. If you're still living at home with nada/fada get out as quickly as possible. In retrospect I would have gotten out sooner, lived in a car, with friends, anything. Anything is better than nadas/fadas. The only way I could keep sane was to not live with/near them. Otherwise I am in the crazy vortex and am miserable. There's no getting around misery when you live under the same roof as a BPD. During the time I was growing up with nada (and two older, abusive brothers), to cope, I spent as much time away from my house as I could. I slept over at friend's houses, went on school trips (paid for myself from babysitting and odd jobs for neighbours). I would sometimes just go to the local park and hope to find other kids there. I hid in my room alone, usually crying. I avoided contact with other family members and when it was impossible to avoid, and the abuse occurred, I confided in my best friend a lot. Friends are so important. I wish I would have known about BPD then, because it would have been easier to cope. Research and knowledge in BPD is very empowering. No matter what, if you get out, don't go back. Ever. I made the mistake of allowing my nada to talk me into staying with her one summer between college semesters. (I paid for college myself with no help from her of course). Foolishly, I stayed there. It was a disaster and I didn't even last the summer with her. They will never change and it's not worth it to go back, ever. Are you stuck there? What's your situation specifically? Student? Are you quite young still? Perhaps you might receive some practical ideas to help you from this board if you can give some more details on your situation. Naturally you're going to feel frustrated if your trapped but coping strategies are key in the meantime. > > Is there anyone still living with the BPD parent? > > If so, how do you cope? How do you keep your own sanity? > > Have you ever lived out of the home before you came back? Is the difference astounding? > > Are you trying to leave? > > Are you frustrated if you can't leave just yet? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2010 Report Share Posted April 21, 2010 NC means NO CONTACT. LC mean LIMITED CONTACT, nada is what we call the BPD mother, because she's not really a momma. fada, BPD father. To me NC has double meaning, NO CONTACT = Nice Calm > > > > Is there anyone still living with the BPD parent? > > > > If so, how do you cope? How do you keep your own sanity? > > > > Have you ever lived out of the home before you came back? Is the difference astounding? > > > > Are you trying to leave? > > > > Are you frustrated if you can't leave just yet? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2010 Report Share Posted April 21, 2010 NC means NO CONTACT. LC mean LIMITED CONTACT, nada is what we call the BPD mother, because she's not really a momma. fada, BPD father. To me NC has double meaning, NO CONTACT = Nice Calm > > > > Is there anyone still living with the BPD parent? > > > > If so, how do you cope? How do you keep your own sanity? > > > > Have you ever lived out of the home before you came back? Is the difference astounding? > > > > Are you trying to leave? > > > > Are you frustrated if you can't leave just yet? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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