IT'S ALL ABOUT NADA

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I am FINALLY moving out of this mold infested, fire trap of a dumpy apartment to

a much nicer place. I have yellow, green and black mold all over since the

flood caused by my then 3rd floor neighbor who was 18 and decided to flood out

his mother for 'leaving him' and taking off for the winter with an on the road

trucker she met online and my attempts to get that remedied have been futile

(even though I went all the way to the Attorney General as The Board of Health

and Code Enforcers wouldn't help me). At the time with the exposed beams from

the missing ceiling tiles the Code Enforcer told me that we had electrical

violations but did nothing about it. He SAID he'd send the electrical expert

here but they never did. Since then this January we had a fire in that same

kid's apartment who caused the flood (no he was never thrown out but is now

evicted because the apartment was deemed 'uninhabitable' so management changed

the locks. It was deemed an electrical fire caused by faulty wiring by the Fire

Department. No one has been to this apartment to work on my wiring or anyone

else's that I know of. As a result, I am still cleaning mold off everything I

am taking with me to my new apartment which is clean, mold free and has no

problems that I can see.

Now nada complains of 'cold and the flu together' yet she doesn't cough and her

voice sounds the same! She did fall while attempting to stand on the bed and

change her curtains. I told her she should wait for someone to do it for her

but no. She is out of pain killers for a week already she told me (they have

her on an opium based, addictive pain killer called Hydrocodone which she has

been on for MONTHS now) and she overmedicates herself and is out of the pills

(I was there and I saw that in February) by mid-month! Upon reading it online

they say that no one should be on that for more than two motnhs and my nada has

been on it for almost a year now!

She has a gutter pipe under her front porch that is missing since she had the

front porch replaced last summer and all of a sudden now it is an emergency and

she of course INSISTS that I get someone for her (I live several states away

and of course I don't know anyone). At first she said it was a 'plumbing

problem' so I got one of my closest friend's (and only remaining friend down

there since everyone else I know has moved out of N. J.'s) plumber but he

wouldn't do it as he was 1/2 hour away and he referred his friend. The man is

from Holland and has an accent. My nada asked him 'who the hell called YOU?!'

when he got there. Nada hates anyone who isn't American and any man now is

suspect anyway to her. He replied 'your daughter did. Call her and ask her.'

Nada did and I replied of course I'm the one who sent him as she asked me to.

He of course not wanting to deal with nada after that, said he didn't do that

kind of work - sorry and left. I later discovered it was a handyman job and not

a plumbing job when I called the Water Dept. on nada's insistence only to find

out that the only thing wrong was a pipe under the front porch needed to be

reconnected! It is shooting water onto her sidewalk and nada hates that. She

doesn't have city water but they went out there as a favor to me as the woman on

the phone has an elderly mother and is going through the same problem I am with

a mother several states away. Anyway I since found someone else after

considerable looking around who is a handyman on the side as a part time job who

is a friend of my remaining friend's brother but of course he hasn't gone to see

nada yet so I am screamed at about it. Nada said, " you can help ME! You have

nothing better to do! " I am moving singlehandedly from here and she knows that.

She knows that unless I want to pay another month's rent I have to be out on May

1st. I told her I had a lot to do and to make matters worse most of my

furniture won't fit in there from here so I have to replace it with smaller

pieces, but anyway. I have been working sometimes up to 22 hour days for the

last week and nada is getting on my last nerve. She insists this move is 'no

big deal'. Of course cleaning everything so there is no mold on anything I take

over there is a job by itself. My ex-boyfriend stepped up to the plate to help

move new pieces I find second hand in and is going to take down my stained glass

lamps in the ceiling this week as well as move the heavier boxes for me - I got

a mover (an out of work man with children) to move the furniture I AM taking) -

doing trips to Goodwill and doing everything else that needs to be done. Nada

said I sounded tired. I replied I am exhausted. I should have known better

because her reply was 'POOR baby! I feel sorry for you' sarcastically. Then

she went on to say I should have stayed with my ex-husband who was abusive,

controlling and vicious (not the guy helping me) because 'he was a REAL man and

knew how to keep you in line. Men all abuse and women should just accept that.

When you marry, you are THEIR property and in your case someone needs to whip

you in shape since you won't listen to ME'. Yes nada knows about the flood and

the fire upstairs. Nada's reply to them at the time was 'who cares. I've been

through worse.' The only thing sensible that nada said was 'I hope you got a

mover to move the furniture. I don't want YOU trying that.' She also had

insisted that I give my father's antique dining room set away because she is

jealous of my having it. She also doesn't want me to have anything left that

was my father's as she divorced him after running around with her boss when I

was a teenager.

As an aside, nada told me she does NOT want a handyman but that's what she needs

to do that job. She wants a plumber but it's not a plumbing job. What should I

do? I can't do more than I have done. This is making me nuts.