Re: Other family members' disbelief

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In our case, there are a lot of people who have been scammed by my nada so if we

tell them anything they believe it. They have already gone nc with her because

of the money scam. The way she does it is borrows money from them, gets

insulted if anyone asks her to sign a note, then when she doesn't pay it back

and they start asking questions, she gets insulted and says they are greedy and

don't deserve to be paid back. She has burned so many bridges in the family,

but others don't know of the manipulation. They just know of the money

borrowing. If we tell anyone of the anger or rage they may or may not believe

us, but all it takes is forwarding an e-mail or two and people will have to pick

their chins up off the table.

We even found a good family friend who knew something was wrong because back in

2001 nada tried to borrow $5K from them. They told her no and got the silent

treatment for years after that. They just didn't know how bad it was and that

she never pays it back, so I'm glad that they said no.

I guess the point here is that others may or may not believe you, but like the

others have said, that's their problem. Those who have been victims will know.

In our family there are only victims and future victims.

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> I found this on youtube and it's about how to deal with difficult people. He's

not talking about people with BPD ofcourse, but it's just nice to get some

insight as of how to deal with the challenging personalities. He's a funny munk

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> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Sent: Thu, April 15, 2010 10:12:19 AM

> Subject: Re: Re: Other family members' disbelief

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> I tried not to blame my family but I got to a point where I just did.

> I'd rather not but my brain just goes there for some reason.

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> In a message dated 4/15/2010 11:17:38 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> nasta444yahoo (DOT) ca writes:

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> Some family memebers don't want to get involve. They know that something is

> wrong with the Nada but for the sake of their own sanity they keep away. I

> never blamed them.

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> From: " _Hummingbird1298@ Humming_ (mailto:Hummingbird1298@ aol.com) "

> <_Hummingbird1298@ Humming_ (mailto:Hummingbird1298@ aol.com) >

> To: _WTOAdultChildren1@ WTOAdultChilWTO_

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> Sent: Thu, April 15, 2010 5:55:49 AM

> Subject: Re: Re: Other family members' disbelief

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> I understand how other family members want to deny it all. I often

> wondered, in my family, if it was guilt for their lack of action when I

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> little. I'll never know for sure. My family has this 'get over it'

> attitude. My

> aunt told me, " you mother was sick...we all know that...its why we didn't

> come around. you need to move on. " I let her know that I didn't have the

> luxary of not coming around my mother when I was a child like she did and

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> to ever tell me to get over it again. I wanted to cuss her out, but I

> refrained.

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